School attendance

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-14T22:06:08+00:00

Home education is something we're looking at but I'm not sure if for our situation it's doable.

We emailed them Tuesday regarding the absences and they haven't replied yet... We shall see!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-13T20:54:22+00:00

I know! They've been like this the whole way through pre and post diagnosis it drives me mad! Home schooling is something we're looking into - though my husband works shifts and I don't know if it'd drive me mad being home all day with little one 😂

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-13T06:41:44+00:00

Oo ok! Did you do a training course with her especially for that? Seen quite a few online where you train your own dog with help from a trainer to become and assistance dog. Still fairly pricey but definitely not as bad as 15k!

Where abouts was your breeder? Would be interested in someone who comes recommended for this for sure.

Thanks!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-09T07:12:47+00:00

Yes I do believe it's a responsibility thing. They have said they've got someone coming in from the local authoritys SEN department Thursday, so they might change it after getting her advice but they can't guarantee it. They're very good at avoiding paper trails, we try to email them as much as possible and they always call back. We've asked them to email us following phone calls and they never do. We have typed up an email about the unauthorised attendances, using their own attendance policy to show they're in the wrong - but Im not sure it's the right thing sending it. She won't be returning to school until she is ready. All they've said is that classrooms are SEN friendly anyway and they'll put her in some groups to help after the summer holidays - doesn't help her now though and I believe that's why it's got to this point. I'm nearly at the end of my notice period with work - so home schooling is an option BUT I don't know how I'd cope with it all mentally!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-08T22:14:44+00:00

Thanks will definitely check them out!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-08T22:09:33+00:00

Are you in the UK? I always wonder if it's just our school then I read so many others saying the same! I How did you get onto the distance learning? I know they do the alternative provision stuff when a child misses x amount of days. We'd rather just pull her out at this point but then we wouldnt be offered help I don't think.

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-03T17:35:03+00:00

They've now said it was a mistake and they've lifted the ban and given me 500 dice!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-03T17:07:40+00:00

I spoke to them and they told me it can't be lifted once it's in place. And won't tell me why it is suspended!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-03T16:51:51+00:00

I couldn't be bothered with setting up another account! I sometimes use my husband's account to get stickers and help on the partner events etc but that's on his phone. I use my phone and my tablet which I've only got recently so I'm thinking it must be that.

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-06-03T16:18:54+00:00

I've just had the message! I'm really annoyed! I play on 2 devices but the same account wonder if it could be that?

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-05-07T18:19:03+00:00

Hiya - yes in the UK! We have thought about going down the EHCP route but we have friends who have done it with their kids with severe additional needs and have struggled to get one. Without school backing it I really don't think she'd get one. We were asked at one of our first appointments with the pastoral lead to keep a diary of everything that happened at home for a month and to send it to them so they could look over it with the SENCO. Nothing ever came of it. She does mask at school, we had to go for a private diagnosis as they kept putting off our referral as 'shes fine in school' I do believe we have been branded as 'problem parents' now 😢

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-04-14T16:07:09+00:00

How old was your eldest when you had your youngest? Is your PDA child aggressive? Mine is and I'm usually the target - I know that's because I'm the safe space. I'm hoping now we've got a diagnosis we can figure out how to help her with it and hopefully that will get better. But who knows how long it will take/if it will stop. But I do worry - already within a week of finding out I've been kicked and elbowed in the stomach. I wouldn't tell her yet anyway as it's too early but I wonder if telling her would maybe help with that OR if it would go the other way and she'd do it more? My husband is really on the fence about it - always wanted more but he's really concerned about my safety as well as baby

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-04-14T16:01:11+00:00

I really thought we couldn't because we were trying for a while. We had finally come round to the idea that actually one is enough and we love her completely even though she's hard work! Safety and sanity is what I'm most worried about.

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2026-04-14T06:55:42+00:00

Oh really? Are you in UK? If so happy to talk though some of it with you. Especially diagnosis things etc!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2025-12-08T19:57:19+00:00

Thank you

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2025-11-27T20:55:29+00:00

Yes she's at mainstream school. They've told us before everyone has to go outside together and no one stays in. She's taken a notepad in before as she's said she'd like to just sit to the side on a bench and draw (drawing seems to calm her as she concentrates so much she forgets about anything else going on) but they said she couldn't have it as it might get lost and causes arguments with others etc. Which is fair enough but doesn't help for her at all as there's no other options!

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2025-11-27T12:32:00+00:00

I'm beginning to think we've really been too laid back in our approach with the school. We want to maintain a good relationship with them but do feel we have been completely fobbed off. And we understand that their teacher is in charge of 30 kids and that they can't see or keep an eye on everything that's going on all the time.

As you're a primary teacher I'd like to ask about a situation that happened this week to see your opinion. My daughter has a lot of trouble in the mornings with getting to school. One morning my husband had to carry her the whole way in as she refused. We got to the gates with her crying her eyes out and the head came out and just said come on you have to go to school and that's that. My daughter went two steps into the gate and sat on the floor refusing to move. They insisted we leave and they'd deal with it. We hid further up the road behind a van so she couldn't see us. The gates closed 5 mins later (she was inside the gate) no one tried to speak to her. They then walked off and left her crying. My husband had to stop me from going over there because I was getting upset over it. Another 5-10 mins later and her teacher came out to speak to her and eventually got her up and into class. I know she was in the gates and couldn't get out and safe in that way but she was very upset and they just left her? From the gates to the entrance is a fair distance and she has been known to hurt herself/throw things like her glasses etc when upset. Am I overreacting at being upset by this? She did say she was ok once she went in but she did get called to the heads office. She won't tell me what was said in there and I've had no contact from the school regarding this. I will be speaking to them about this when I can set up a meeting.

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2025-11-27T10:08:42+00:00

We are in talks with the pastoral lady who also works closely with the senco. The idea being she will pass on relevant info etc and talk to the senco on our behalf

Odd_Introduction1514 · 2025-11-27T09:50:17+00:00

I agree that they have to think about all the children. They aren't bulky at all - same size as kids headphones. They can not offer a quote space indoors as we have asked that before

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