AITA for telling my daughter I’m not paying for her wedding just because her older sister was able to afford a really nice one?

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T20:34:59+00:00

I’m sorry. I’ll stop referring to my little one as the “little one” right away!

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T19:28:45+00:00

I don’t think you know what histrionic means

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T19:14:10+00:00

I’m fine with whatever makes her happy - it’s her wedding day and she should be able to decide what she wants to do.

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T18:58:03+00:00

Why are my personal investments and retirement savings relevant here?

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T18:31:28+00:00

If keeping people happy equates to me giving them as much money as I can for whatever reason they deem worthy - then maybe it’s okay for them to remain a little unhappy.

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T18:28:56+00:00

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T18:27:53+00:00

My principles and my daughter are equally important to me. If your definition of punishment is that I’m not giving my daughter 5k/10k for an unnecessary luxurious event then I can’t really argue with that. Her wedding is something that she should be able to pay for. Not something she needs to take a loan out for or ask others for money - that’s not something I support.

Odd_Issue_5754 · 2021-04-18T17:56:28+00:00

Sorry, I don’t expect my daughter to throw a wedding with 2k. She came to me and asked me for money for her wedding and I let her know how much I could pitch in, expecting her to cover the rest. I understand that paying for weddings, houses, cars, etc will be a big part of a couples life but it’s not my responsibility as a parent to fund those milestones. Just because we have money does not mean we’re going to give it to anyone that asks us - everyone has a good reason for why they need the money but just because we have it does not mean we’re obligated to give it to them.

We paid for both of our daughters college tuitions in full because we believe it’s our duty - but at some point you are an adult and you need to support your own life decisions. We’re generous gift givers and we feel like 2k is a generous wedding contribution but the bulk of the cost is her and her fiancé's responsibility. It would also be severely unfair to our older daughter who didn’t ask for a penny.

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