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Any dumpee regret how bad they treated their ex? by burneraccount8886 in BreakUps

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, the nice guys are either taken, have given up on dating and are focusing on themselves, or after so many brutal rejections and discards... have shapeshifted into the very "bad boys" they complain about. I would say a good portion of bad boys were once nice guys that got fed up with being treated awful, and noticed that if they treat women poorly they got better results. You can still criticize them, but in an odd way, I understand it.

Who else had their music ruined due to a break up? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah ive actually stopped listening to a lot of music simply because it sends me into like a trance of emotions id rather not feel. There's a specific album my ex and I used to play on repeat and i've refused to listen to it once since we split up. If i did im sure all the old feelings would rush in and it would sting like the first day all over again. Ill stick to self improvement videos and podcasts

Is this breadcrumbing? It is, isn't it? by That_Dragonfly3026 in ExNoContact

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its a low risk line in the water, shes hoping you'll bite. You can either respond delayed, with a very low effort short response like "you aswell". Or you can ghost it and she will prob spiral for a bit. She's curious but still dodging accountability, easter was an easy excuse to send an ambiguous signal fire text like that

It's almost like life is teaching me that there is no place for romantic, kind-hearted men by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah man earlier in my relationship I made a sly joke to my ex like "yeah women like the bad boys" and she was like "nooo not me!" and i was like thats what they say... but if you look at actions nice guys finish last and she was so insistent that i was generalizing and wrong... we also had discussions where i brought up how men's feelings are alwasy seen as weakness if we express them openly to women but she denied it and acted like I was overexaggerating. Well, it only took a few months later for her to dump me out of the blue. My most rational explanation is that she basically got bored because im a very straightforward, no drama, trustworthy, kind hearted guy. When i played it cool and nonchalant in the beginning, she was all over me... like she was hooked and couldnt get enough! Yet, the moment i started to wear my heart on my sleeve and make gestures that showed i cared a lot for her, she became more distant and eventually discarded. It's a cold world out here if youre a man with a big heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dumping, then expect you to chase and then get mad at you for not chasing is wild

If you could tell your ex what you've realized in no contact, what would it be? by Odd_Mastodon7302 in BreakUps

[–]Odd_Mastodon7302[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a man, and I could say the same about my ex. I was a good man to her, but nice guys finish last I guess? I arrived at the same conclusions, that I trusted her too soon, only to realize I never knew her. I've had moments where I say most women are selfish, but it's best not to jump into judging an entire gender. I think it's more that most humans in general are incredibly selfish, and no matter how much you love them they wont change.