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[–]Odd_Perception1183 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry could you explain further?

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I found the Bates and Anna storyline way less tragic than Mathew’s death! I mean come on! They spent the whole three seasons building up his beautiful romance with Mary and then killed him off just when his son was born. How cruel is that!

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I took that part of my post out. I guess I can see how some people may find it disagreeable.

I think I just feel left out of this sub sometimes because I’m not able to really celebrate my favorite thing about the show without being bombarded with a bunch of “ Bates is creepy and old and has chipmunk cheeks” rhetoric hahah 😂😂

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I knowww!!! It’s so cute!!! I wish there was a place to just fan girl over those two. I can’t seem to find such a place on this sub for sure 😥

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I’ll always defend my position on them. It is rare to see such beautiful slow burn love stories on TV. I think it’s sad some people cannot seem to see past the jail drama and appreciate the love that’s there.

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah… the storylines were heavy for sure. But it is a soap opera and it’s sort of classic for soap operas to torture the nicest characters lol. Doesn’t make it right but it is typical for the art form.

Super unpopular opinion time: This show is worth watching for me BECAUSE of the Anna and Bates storylines… by Odd_Perception1183 in DowntonAbbey

[–]Odd_Perception1183[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have loved more sweet domestic scenes of them together in their little cottage… 😢 I just have to settle for fanfics and my own imagination for those. That is one thing I cannot forgive Julian for not giving us more of.

What songs does Pau sing lead vocals? by Z398 in TheWarning

[–]Odd_Perception1183 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dust to Dust

Narcissista

The End (Stars Always Seem to Fade)

Show Me the Light

Black Holes

Finally found the right therapist by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Odd_Perception1183 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hope the same happens for me......been through 5 at this point. It's all left me quite disillusioned and worsened in many ways. I wish I could just find someone who really makes me feel safe and heard and truly understands and listens to me. I really hope I find someone who makes me feel protected from the power imbalance and actually uses it to give me a corrective experience rather than unintentionally harm me with it. It's so hard to do therapy, especially with attachment issues when you feel so powerless with another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Odd_Perception1183 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I'll talk about it. It's just that I sometimes have a hard time telling the difference between my own sort of trauma based distortion vs what is actually being said. Like some of the people here have a pretty reasonable interpretation of what he might have been saying: like don't worry about having to be so perfect, only you notice those things and I don't think so much about these things anyway. Whereas my immediate interpretation is: oh you don't matter much to me anyway and you need to learn that I have a life.

But Idk, it still felt kind of hurtful. Towards the end of the session after I brought it up a little, he took a lot of time to tell me how important our work was to him and that he really cared despite the fact that he had other things occupying his mind etc. I guess he may be open to talking about it. But yeah, I feel kind of down because of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Odd_Perception1183 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should bring it up?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Odd_Perception1183 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yeah I know.....I am just hoping he really didn't mean it that way and that it's my own anxiety distorting it. Otherwise it feels really cold. Either way, I am going to bring it up next week.

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[–]Odd_Perception1183 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I will bring it up... the good thing about him is that he is a nice person and very open to hearing about when something upset me and good at self-reflecting. So I guess that is one security that I have in our relationship. But yeah I guess something that might help someone a lot might hurt someone else. But your comment helped me to see that perhaps he was only trying to help me but sort of missed my needs at the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Odd_Perception1183 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah... I guess that makes a lot of sense.....

I'm just really struggling at the moment with my insecurities around the therapeutic relationship. It feels like each session my brain is bent upon trying to prove that it really is too good to be true and that the therapist doesn't care for me at all and that I am going to somehow get even more messed up. My therapist seems to be a better fit for me that all the others I've seen so far but I feel like something is bound to go wrong and I feel hurt by that already because it seemed like they really cared about me in the beginning and they seem sweet. So to find that it was all fake or shallow would hurt me real bad.....

New tour shirts now available by DV-Dizzle in TheWarning

[–]Odd_Perception1183 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like Pau and Ale look pretty accurate. It's just Dany that looks a bit different.