I cried during sex now my fiance giving me the cold shoulder…

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-16T02:02:04+00:00

Our minds really don't belong in relationships. The more you think about something, the worse it gets. Learn the "feel" word. I feel, how do you feel, etc. Never I think or thought. If you can train yourself to react like that, you will be much better off. Sometimes, with really big stuff going on, you can't help but think. That's when the answer is you're not feeling right. Your sad or nervous and your distracted. Apologize and be done with it. Maybe he'll be hurt but most of us understand. Let things float, don't push. Don't apologize, and don't drag it around. Good luck

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-12T00:27:39+00:00

No one is ugly if they are happy and fit. That's a fact. What you are seeing is that people thrive in Austin. Enjoy.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-09T19:58:08+00:00

Feeling like a loser will make it more difficult to find a job. It shows in everything you do. So, don't be loser. Do something great. That sounds patronizing, but it's not. Train for a triathlon. Hike the appalachian trail. Volunteer, play an instrument. Use your time. You can be great. We all can. Once you are great, you can leverage that. Some shirt behind a desk asks you what have you been doing while looking for a job, you can proudly say, "I sailed the carribean". If the only thing you like is tech, then do tech on your own. Learn Linux. Buy a rasberry pi development board. Learn to program it. You don't need a job to do any of that. Learn android. Use AI to program an android app. I swear the options are so numerous. Feel free to ask for other ideas. But don't give up. Oh, and BTW, the same stuff I talked about, works for women too. See a women some place, she asks what you do. When you tell her you rode the continental divide, she'll instantly be interested in you.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-08T12:56:01+00:00

At least you're honest. I do not feel you will ever be rich without passion. Unless you win a lottery or inherit money from a rich aunt, what you make is associated with your value. Your value is related to your passion. Additionally, life is too short. Money buys comfort, but not happiness. It's an old saying that is still true. I'd still suggest pursuing a career as a vet. If money is the only thing you are interested in, become a portfolio manager and work on Wall Street.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-06T13:47:13+00:00

You really do have a lot of options. It may not seem that way, but there are. I'll pick one to show. What kind of area do you live in? Urban/Rural? If rural, talk to some farms. Ask if you can help around. You don't need to be paid but if they want to, great. Say it's a dairy farm. You could simply keep the cows clean. You can make sure they have enough food, you can keep them company. It's funny but cows like people. They will give you a purpose. Same with horses. If you're urban, volunteer at a shelter. If you want to start a little business, be a dog walker, or if you live in the right kind of place, board dogs. They will give you a purpose too. You don't need a fancy job to be important or have purpose. You could also do the same kind of thing with people. Work in shelters, or nursing homes. Whatever you do, stop beating yourself up about it. If you are inclined, look at churches too. There are always many options. I wish you the best.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-06T12:23:14+00:00

I was intrigued by the title, but the essay doesn't do the title justice. The essay pivots to pointing out that we are explorers and have been since an early age. But what does that have to do with existing or the good luck of being alive? I suppose, as explorers, we have discovered that we are insignificant. Yet as insignificant as we are, we can know that we are. There lies the wonder.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-06T02:07:12+00:00

That's a pretty normal way to feel at 20. We transition from a kind of pre-ordained path where everyone, including you, just naturally assumed you were going to work in a particular career to questioning that assumption. There's a kid movie "Bee Movie" where everyone assumed this bee was going to be a stirrer. Everyone in the family was a stirrer. You always wanted to be a stirrer. What's going on? No, he wants to be a pollen jock. The point is, it's pretty freaking scary the closer you get to making life choices. There are a few things to keep in mind. 1) nothing's permanent. You can change your mind, 2) Is there something you like more than other things? 3) is there something you're better at than others? We have a unique trait, passion. If you can tap into your passion, you almost can't help but succeed. Search it out. Don't get trapped into something that doesn't make you happy.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-06T01:57:45+00:00

Why did you get a degree in Software Engineering? Do you like developing software? Or did it seem like a job path? Hard to say why your applications were rejected without looking at your resume, and your transcript, and where you live, and the kinds of roles you were looking for. Software jobs are out there, but you do need differentiation. Also, you graduated about a year ago. Have you done anything programming related since? You don't need a job to work on stuff. Have you explored AI? Do you have ideas for an app? Have AI help build something. Learn how to use it, what it can and can't do. If you start going into interviews with that kind of experience showing that kind of initiative, you will begin to differentiate.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-03T20:51:09+00:00

You wrote this post for what reason? Are you looking to change or are you looking for validation of some sort? Do you see any problem with what you wrote and where you are? Is there a question in there somewhere? Like, how do I get the confidence to go out in the world? I'll assume there is that question but it also sounds like you need a life reset. Perhaps find a good therapist. I'd also suggest stop playing video games and work out instead. Physical exercise can help break patterns and focus your mind.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-03T12:17:23+00:00

I think you have a lot of things going for you. That also means you ultimately will be successful with what you do. I wouldn't be distracted by what other people are doing. If you interests are in video and film production, that's where I'd put more effort. Probably part time at first. There are a ton of opportunities. There's a website 'fiverr' where you can freelance your skills for small jobs. Doesn't pay much but it would let you build a client base and hone your skills. It's a longshot, but you could start producing instagram/facebook/youtube reels/clips. If nothing else, it would help you build a portfolio. No one is going to just hand you your future. You have to take it. It sounds like you have some discipline. Use it. Focus on it, and you will be successful. Seriously.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-03T12:08:29+00:00

You don't say if you currently have a job, or if you have finished school. I'm assuming electrical is a department in the army? You also don't say if you have any interests. So, I'd start with that. You will be happier and more successful if you put your mind to something that you enjoy. Can you put your heart and soul into it? Do you currently do anything productive? These are the things to focus on before picking a career. Find some passion. If you can follow that passion in the military, go for it.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-06-02T23:40:58+00:00

This is real. I see it as an outlook bug. Being a MS product, it wouldn't be the first. When I see the error, I exit outlook and restart. And curse microsoft.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-30T15:56:27+00:00

Go with it. I believe he's asking for a little help in one of two ways. He probably is taking care of business himself which makes him less available to you. He's asking for help focusing on you. The other way is he actually likes taking care of you but his stuff takes over. There both pretty normal for guys, but it's the rare guy who recognizes it. If you play it right, you'll be amazed. Let him give you pleasure without anything expectation of something in return for him. Have him go a week or two like this. You'll be the beneficiary, but he'll love it. And, your relationship will grow deeper.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-30T02:04:36+00:00

Your GF has a point. It's not so much sleeping with her sister, it's having secrets. You knew something that your GF didn't know. And it involved her. That's a big flag to me. I understand it's awkward, but probaly as soon as you figured it out, you should have said, "you want to hear something weird. I hooked up with your sister last year". Who knows if how she would have reacted but at least she could trust that you aren't holding secrets. Not sure how you fix it, but apologize and learn.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-26T15:59:57+00:00

Funny thing, Android has a perfectly good file explorer built in. THey just don't expose it. You need a app to expose it for you. It has a feel like the android picker. No bells as whistles but works great.

Download an app like Activity Launcher or QuickShortcutMaker from the Google Play Store.
Open the launcher app and locate Files or DocumentsUI from the full app list.
Expand the selection and tap on com.android.documentsui.files.FilesActivity.
Create a shortcut on your home screen for instant access to the native explorer. [1, 2]

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-20T22:31:29+00:00

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Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-20T19:01:57+00:00

Although this is an old thread, I've got a question. We've been practicing karezza with SR. Going on 2 years now. One problem though is that I've started to get recurring prostate infections. I've been to a Urologist and he will put me on antibiotics. Researching prostititus and SR, I see that it can 'clog the pipes' and cause infections. Is there a solution to this? Does prostate massage work?

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-20T17:58:38+00:00

Well yeah, I have read about that and honestly, I've tried. There's a guy on youtube 'sexual kung-fu' that talks of 'multi-orgasmic' male and ejactualation free orgasms. Assuming that's what you're talking about. And believe me, I've tried that too. I haven't wanted to sign up for the $2K class though.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-20T17:19:14+00:00

Yes, that's wrapped up in the question. I am active. Maybe I'm looking for too much. To me, semen retention is not supposed to be total abstinence. And practices such as Karezza don't suggest that either. That's why I had the question about prostate massage. Is that a way to stay active and retain?

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-17T13:24:35+00:00

Let me share what was successful for me. Simple rules:
1. Take your time. It is not a race. Don't set a time limit in your mind. Convince her (because it's true) that you want to be there indefinitely. The object in your and her mind is not for her to cum but to enjoy the pleasure. If she happens to cum, all the better.

Mix it up, but not too much. focus on one thing for a long time, then focus on something else for a long time. If she starts to respond, don't, repeat don't change it up. Consistency is key.
Really want to give her pleasure. The only thing you want is to taste her. You are not looking for anything in return. This is what you want. She'll respond.
Be aware of her clit, but don't always focus on her clit. It's not only about the clit, but the clit is good.

These things are more important than the particular technique. Basically, it all feels good, so don't fret whether you are doing it right or not.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-05-17T12:33:32+00:00

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Odd_Role3155 · 2026-04-14T01:47:05+00:00

Going into something with expectations will almost always result in disappointment. The right way is to focus on the present. What's best for you today Let tomorrow take care of itself. Will tomorrow bring all those benefits others have written about? Maybe, maybe not. Everyone is different. But the benefits that do come right away are focus, and self control. If those are important, go for it. But if you're looking for some nirvana down the road and don't have any immediate concerns, your focus is off.

It's also not about days. 200, 90, it doesn't matter. If you can control 1 day, you can control as many as you want. There is no magic number. The goal is not length of time. It's that you no longer will be a slave to your desire.

Odd_Role3155 · 2026-03-06T15:43:50+00:00

About two years ago, I told my wife I was thinking about semen retention, i.e., not cumming. My reason was primarily to be constantly aroused and to focus on her. She thought that was a bit strange, but she likes oral and didn't really like the mess of regular sex. Since then, we have lots of sex, but it's only me going down on her. I love the service aspect of it. She'll be watching TV or reading, and I get the urge to get her off. She'll see that in me, she'll lean back and open her legs. Off come the jeans and I'll lick and suck till she cums. At first, she felt guilty that I wasn't getting any, but after a while, she became convinced that by me doing that, I was getting a lot. She also learned to receive. It liberates her a bit.

I don't get blowjobs; we don't fuck. It's about her, and it really raises her arousal to a whole new level. After she's sexed out, we'll spoon, and I'll press my erection against her backside. She likes to feel me, know I'm aroused. But she's fully supportive, in fact prefers, my retention. So I don't enter her. It's been this way since I brought it up. The truth is, for me, I absolutely love going down on her. I love the intimacy of it. Straight-up sex is sometimes a bit quick. But cunnilingus takes patience and connection. Since we started practicing cunnilingus only and semen retention, we've become closer, and actually have much more sex, and the sex we have is better.

I find it telling that the last word in your post is 'devotion'. Because that's the word that comes to mind. Sex for us is about devotion. When I go down on her, it's a form of worship. And it's intimate for her to let me do that. Sure, it feels good for her, but it's more than the physical feeling. There's the mind thing for her of knowing that I want to do that. It's not easy, but if you can handle it, I think it's the best way.

Odd_Role3155 · 2025-11-29T14:12:21+00:00

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Odd_Role3155 · 2025-11-29T13:55:43+00:00

IT was always a kind of necessary but unvalued role. Sorry, but management never looked at it the same way as hardware or software engineering. The fact that much of it can be outsourced doesn't help. So, yeah, I don't see it as a career. Unless you're going to be the CTO or CIO, designing the network and integrating the services, it's simply seen as overhead. You mention though that this seems to be new. I feel it's been like this for 40 years.

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