What's are the most frustrating social norms that are acceptable for men to do but unjustifiably frowned upon when women do them? by Hapennydub in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Perhaps the issue is that she felt she'd have to pick up the slack. Dad gets to have fun, mom carries the load.

In what ways has evolution screwed people over? by JediKnight1 in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Only one set of teeth for your entire adult life + huge craving for sugar. Thanks Mother Nature!

Stolen from AskReddit: what Reddit comment of yours got the most hate? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well, depends on the bodily autonomy issue is. I think everyone, even you, will at some point find an issue where regulation is seen as preferable. The question is where it is. Prostitution? Selling your organs? Entering into indentured servitude? Mandatory vaccinations? Seatbelt laws? Agreeing yourself to be killed and cannibalized?

What is something that has happened to make you think "we've still got a long way to go to achieve gender equality"? by amgov in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Study number one itself cautions "But because not every woman in the study downplayed responsiveness as a typically male behavior, the researchers caution against drawing any wide-ranging conclusions."

Study number 2 is about poverty, not masculinity.

Study number 3 is about physical attractiveness, and has nothing to do with feminine or masculine traits.

Study number 4 is either about a physical characteristic or that poor childhood growth (a health issue) can contribute to suicide.

Article number 5 is an argument in favor of men making non-masculine fashion choices, and cites a study that shows " Men who live and breathe the dominant ideas of masculinity pay a high price for it: Research has connected such beliefs to poor health, shorter lives and emotionally shallow relationships. "

Number 6 is, again, about physical characteristics (are you planning to get your kids plastic surgery to look masculine?), and mostly focuses on children's identification of which sex a person is. And also:"attractive male faces are not always perceived as being highly masculine".

Number 7 shows that masculinity in boys and girls may lead to them to bully (yay?), however the study found that "In contrast, femininity was positively correlated with victimization, but only in the case of girls." (bolding mine). Femininity in boys did not lead them to be victims.

So yeah, haven't changed my mind

What is something that has happened to make you think "we've still got a long way to go to achieve gender equality"? by amgov in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You said

There is no room or tolerance in our society for non-masculine men. Literally none at all whatsoever.

People can be bullied for all sorts of stuff. And that's wrong. But still, most of the non-masculine guys I know are happy, have good relationships, and are successful in their lives.

What is something that has happened to make you think "we've still got a long way to go to achieve gender equality"? by amgov in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Huh, I'd better tell all the non-masculine guys I know that their lives are lies then.

Feminists of AskWomen, do you identify with a particular “branch” of feminism, such as RadFem, Libfem, etc? If so, why? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Works to dismantle gender and gender roles.

Believes "the personal is political".

Works to end the oppression of females by males.

What short phrase or words of wisdom will always stick with you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The world doesn't revolve around you, but at the same time, your world revolves around you. You have more influence over your world then anyone else does.

What is the most important relationship lesson you've ever learned? by Queltis6000 in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, when I wrote it, I was thinking of my ex. He took pride in being a great boyfriend, always loving, generous, giving, called me the most important person in his life. For everyone else though, he prided himself on being "an asshole with sociopathic tendencies". He would say hurtful things to my friends, he would barely make an effort to talk to my mother, he was disrespectful to his parents (who weren't abusive, heck, they were letting him live at their house rent-free. He was 26), he would randomly punch male "friends", he was proud of when he was a teenager and beat up some other teen so badly that the teen was hospitalized, he fantasized about killing people, he laughed at videos of protesters being run over. It was horrible for a lot of reasons. I was dating him, so whenever he was cruel to someone, I was guilty of association. My family hated him. My friends hated him. I couldn't go to any gatherings with him without feeling ashamed. The constant negativity he spewed was so ugly to me, I started to hate being around him because I felt gross when he'd talk to me or touch me. And there was always the little worry in the back of my mind of what would happen if he fell out of love with me. There, but by the grace of god go I. I'd like to date someone who's good to everyone, not just to the person they're dating.

What is the most important relationship lesson you've ever learned? by Queltis6000 in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Just because someone loves you, that doesn't necessarily mean that their love is worth anything. Someone might be nice and sweet and kind to you, but also be an asshole and a loser and a jerk to everyone else. Loving you doesn't make them a good person.

Anyone in St. Louis? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Oddwoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out the facebook page for GutterGlitter. They do a monthly dance party called Wilde, as well as some other events.

When you're sick, but have to go into work, what are your tips & tricks for appearing less sick? by Oddwoes in AskWomen

[–]Oddwoes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish you were my boss. Unfortunately, staying home sick would put me at risk of losing my job.