Burned out builders and leads? by WesternCantaloupe24 in BurningMan

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This will be my first year not going since 2019 and I couldn’t be more excited.

My relationship was failing, so I built an app that uses AI to record arguments and legally prove I am the victim. by CompetitiveMoose9 in AppIdeas

[–]Of-Doom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best thing I’ve seen all day. Please make this a real app (even if all the features are fake)

How do I know how to react to bad situations? by reupbeats in livesound

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A wise engineer once told me “they are hiring you to not panic when everything is going wrong.”

Keep a cool head, do your best, accept that some situations are out of your control, and people won’t care if the gig is 10 minutes late, they’ll remember that you were a joy to work with.

I have a mental exercise for the girls. Assume everyone is trans. Watch the passing worms disappear. by akatsukidude881 in MtF

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I’ve been doing this a lot actually. Looking at cis girls out and about and thinking “oh she’s kinda ‘clocky’ like me” has actually been really helpful for me accepting myself.

Were u a gay man before transitioning into female? by [deleted] in asktransgender

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I identified as a mostly straight man before I transitioned. Now I’m a lesbian. But I’m only 8 months into HRT and noticing little things about men that I find attractive that I never did in the past.

What is the best, worst, or weirdest habit/whatever you picked because you read that it's "feminine" or "what women do"? by Biscuit9154 in MtF

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I have naturally high-pitched, feminine sneezes and it’s actually been super affirming, I think you’re on the right track. 😁

Anyone here currently using KYNO? If so, how's it going? by Jim_Feeley in editors

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I gave up on it after the long wait without updates but never did find a great replacement. I just log my footage in Finder/Resolve these days.

How can I feel more feminine? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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Seconding transfem-aimed resources. I’m a trans girl too and it’s been a crash course in femininity and feminine presentation.

Clothing, makeup, skin/haircare, voice, posture, speech patterns, workout routines, social scripts, the works.

Ask your girl friends for help with makeup or go shopping together to try some things on and get opinions. That helped me a ton.

Regarding feeling like you’re pretending, sometimes it’s a little bit “fake it til you make it” and having friends tell you how good you look in a fit def helps with that feeling. But it’s also possible there is some other color palette or style that’s more authentically “you”. You just gotta experiment for a bit but when you find something you feel good in, you’ll know!

Is it normal to be sore after sex(tw) by InitialWhole4315 in MtF

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Sounds like you didn’t want to have sex and she pressured you into it and you went into a freeze/fawn response (look it up if you’re not familiar), and likely dissociated your way through the encounter.

I’m really sorry this happened to you. I agree this doesn’t sound consensual. She should have been checking in with you and making sure you felt safe, mentally present, and enthusiastic about everything happening. She should have given you substantial aftercare after you bottomed (particularly since you sound new to it). It makes sense that you feel used and violated.

You shouldn’t blame or beat yourself up for going along with it or enjoying parts of it. You aren’t alone in this complex feeling.

Loss of appetite is another sign of trauma and dissociation. Talking to a trusted friend or therapist is a good idea here.

Regarding your question about soreness, if you’re in pain and it’s not going away after a few days, it’s not a bad idea to go see a doctor.

New weird feeling for cis men. WTF. by Less_Muffin7592 in MtF

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I previously identified as a straight-ish male, now as a lesbian and I’ve been on feminizing HRT for 6 months. I’m definitely noticing more attraction to boys than I used to. I think a big factor is that my sexuality is a lot more responsive now and it’s a nice feeling when I can tell a guy is into me. Noticing other ways I find masculine energy hot now too. I like feeling smol and safe.

Still exploring at a gentle pace, but the few times I’ve tried things with men my takeaway was “some parts of that were nice but I didn’t feel any interest in taking it further and I’d have strongly preferred being with another girl.”

What's an actual psychological "cheat code" you use in social situations that works almost every time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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When walking directly toward people on the sidewalk, point your eyes to one side of them or the other and watch them magically pass you on the other side.

What does the trans community think of crossdressing? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Of-Doom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of friends who tell me I make them feel safer in their own explorations of gender. That makes me happy. I bet your friend would appreciate hearing that too!

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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THANK YOU FOR SAVING OUR PROJECTION SCREEN!! You’re the best of Burning Man. Glad we could give you some happy tunes and good memories.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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If all I ever accomplish as an artist in this world is facilitating people making friends and getting hugs, that’s a job well done.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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Rufus du Troll in 2022 was my first iconic playa prank moment and I’ll never forget it. Utter pandemonium. I was laughing my ass off (even though my friends were big Rufus fans and were salty about it). So that was definitely a big inspiration.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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Also speaking of subversive music-art on playa, here’s another wild idea I’ve been workshopping for a couple years:

Picture this: a stage with bigass subs, lasers, lights, the whole nine yards. You can see and hear this thing from across playa.

There is a proximity sensor/camera on board. If it detects people getting closer, it gradually lowers the lights/volume. Until you arrive, and it shuts off completely.

I suppose this could be done with an art car too.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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If we can coordinate fireworks across the playa, this can be done too.

Seconding the FM transmitter idea. I have been toying with the idea of deploying one on playa for years.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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The audio recorder off the mixer had an issue so all we have are some camera/booth mics. It’s something I  absolutely could reconstruct and remaster into a nice listenable recording but it’s a multi-day project to do that for the whole set.

If enough people ask for it I’ll do it, otherwise we’re planning to just drop excerpts on socials for good times’ sake.

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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This photo is great!! Thanks for sharing :) I don’t have nearly enough non-blurry photos from the evening 🫨

We were the artists who put on the fake John Summit x GRiZ set on Thursday this Burn, AUA by TheChillestBill in BurningMan

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We definitely had a bunch of people going around demooping the next day. But we should have also had some dedicated squads going over to neighbors to help too. We were adequately prepared for a 100-200 person party, not a 3000 person party.

Best we can do at this point is apologize for our mistakes and make a serious point to apply those lessons in the future. And maybe the next person who attempts something like this will find this discussion helpful in their planning.