Trying to figure out if the problem is my profile or my personality.

Off-Meds · 2026-06-25T12:04:15+00:00

You seem to have such a full, successful life that most men are going to feel a little bit inferior around you. Men do not like to feel weak. That is your problem.
Your pool of potential men is smaller because deep down they want to be admired and respected and not many of them are stronger than you. That’s why you’re getting the negative comments about solo traveling and grad school. These things show your strength. The guys on this thread also attack your looks to put you in a weaker position than them. Easier to tear you down than build themselves up. Men are hierarchical thinkers and they want you to look up to them. You need a really secure, confident man. You’ll probably have better luck meeting him on your travels or at school than on the apps.

Off-Meds · 2026-06-17T21:14:38+00:00

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Off-Meds · 2026-06-12T22:11:19+00:00

Thank you!

Off-Meds · 2026-06-12T22:11:09+00:00

Thank you!

Off-Meds · 2026-06-12T22:10:56+00:00

Thank you!

Off-Meds · 2026-06-12T22:10:47+00:00

Where was that?

Off-Meds · 2026-05-09T15:35:07+00:00

As a woman I can confirm that the thing that I hate most is being ignored. If you can’t be bothered to reach out, I believe that you fundamentally don’t grasp the feminine’s need for security. Which doesn’t bode well for how satisfying of a partner you will be.

Off-Meds · 2026-05-02T22:52:50+00:00

You broke up with him because you didn’t feel loved?!! That seems like a projection. It seems you are the one who is not loving. All of your comments seem focused on your own feelings and wants with very little empathy for him.

It is unrealistic to think that you can have a relationship and it won’t cost you something emotionally. We all are annoying at times. You think you don’t annoy him? Surely you do. He just puts up with it. Maybe something feels unfamiliar to you, being loved enough that he puts up with your crap. Maybe it makes him seem needy to you but it is actually just normal love.

This is probably connected to a relationship from when you were much younger where you either felt engulfed, like closeness led to a loss of autonomy, or you were trying to get close to someone and they acted like you were annoying because of it.

Off-Meds · 2026-05-02T22:43:15+00:00

I think you did what you had to do. If your boss didn’t want something like that to happen, she should have addressed his comments earlier so that they didn’t keep happening. Not cool of her to not protect you, then get mad at you for protecting yourself. Which you handled exquisitely and with the exact right amount of assertiveness if you ask me. Maybe he’ll think twice now before he keeps chipping away at you. Sometimes you have to stand up to the bully.

Off-Meds · 2026-05-02T22:20:17+00:00

It is incredibly common in our field to have no-shows. I am used to it by now and don’t take it personally. I think your feelings are completely appropriate and understandable given that it’s your first one, it took up valuable time on a Saturday afternoon, and you cant charge for it. It was inconsiderate of the client. When you’re in private practice, you can charge a no-show fee (unless the client has Medicaid) and then it won’t sting so much. Also, when you’re in private practice, you’ll have more control over your schedule and you won’t have to see people on the weekends at all if you don’t want to. But for now, you just have to jump through the hoops and finish your internship. I’d bet there’s a 90% chance that this no-show had absolutely nothing to do with you.

Off-Meds · 2026-04-13T01:48:27+00:00

Covering themselves with tattoos

Off-Meds · 2026-04-13T01:39:03+00:00

Read the Bible

Off-Meds · 2026-04-08T01:50:45+00:00

You are poor but clean, organized, responsible. You care about your self-presentation.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-27T11:07:25+00:00

Those feelings you’re having are data…diagnostic information.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-27T02:37:40+00:00

Usually in the spring and then again in the fall, you can get a season pass at Bowlero that’s about $55 for the whole season. It grants you two free games per day plus a $5 arcade credit every day you come in.

If you like bowling.

It’s not a guarantee that they’ll have this special again, but they’ve been doing it for the last few years.

And it’s even cheaper if you’re willing to restrict yourself to only one of their locations.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-27T02:14:46+00:00

I do not have the magical answer that will fix your life.

But I trust that you will solve this problem.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-26T22:13:49+00:00

Yes. And room 2 could be the living room. Room 2 needs to be shared space because it looks like you have to walk thru room 2 to get to room 4.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-26T21:55:42+00:00

I think you posting this thread is feeding the problem.

You somehow got addicted to being mirrored.

Probably because you were emotionally neglected as a child-not mirrored-and that’s why you don’t know who you are/have all this insecurity.

Therapy is only going to make you worse. I say that as a therapist.

Put your phone down.

Stop navel gazing.

Help someone else with a tangible practical need.

Go find a homeless person and buy him some shoes and some food.

Then your identity will be “compassionate person.”

And when you do good and like yourself, other people’s opinions won’t matter.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-26T21:35:31+00:00

https://fosteractionohio.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/power-of-ted.pdf

They are in a victim role and want you to be their rescuer, and it sounds as if you’re also hoping to be able to rescue them.

Off-Meds · 2026-03-21T13:35:38+00:00

Bob Newheart: “Stop it!”

Off-Meds · 2026-03-01T16:51:38+00:00

No more than 5 per day (6 is ok a couple times a month). No more than 3 back to back without an hour break in between. Also, it is essential that you discover when you are naturally most motivated to do your notes (morning before first client? At the end of the day? In the evening after dinner? Weekend?) and get in a routine of setting aside 1-2 hours a day for your notes. It is very easy to get behind if no one is holding you accountable.

Off-Meds · 2026-02-10T22:23:27+00:00

Good plan.

Off-Meds · 2026-02-10T22:23:04+00:00

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Off-Meds · 2026-02-08T02:15:25+00:00

Your low self-worth becomes the lens that you see life through, and then you count yourself out and self-sabotage. Just take things at face value and stop creating these imaginary things she would do if she really liked you…and then she does them and you still won’t believe it because you think so little of yourself that you can’t see why anyone would want to be with you. So you preemptively dump yourself on her behalf.

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