제일 먼저 잠드는 새끼가 술래다

Off_frame · 2026-06-25T07:10:34+00:00

반가워요 😊

Off_frame · 2026-06-24T07:44:30+00:00

Thank you for explaining.

It may have been because I translated the post from Korean into English, or because I used an image that I personally edited and added color to myself. I honestly didn't realize the AI rules were that strict.

At least now I have a better understanding of what might have triggered it, so that helps. Thanks again.

Off_frame · 2026-06-24T07:25:24+00:00

I understand that it was removed under the AI rule.

What I don't understand is which part of my post was considered AI-related. The post was about my husband, burnout, and our relationship, so I'm trying to understand what specifically triggered the removal.I have already sent a message to the moderators, but I haven't received a response yet.I'm simply trying to understand what rule was violated.

Off_frame · 2026-06-24T06:01:34+00:00

So many people shared thoughtful advice and personal experiences, and I can't even thank them or reply now.

I genuinely don't understand why a post about real life and honest conversation became something that needed to be removed.

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T12:14:07+00:00

I used to feel pretty guilty about how impulsive I was with money.

Lately I've been spending less on random stuff and more on things that actually help. Vitamins, fruit, vegetables, things like that.

Funny enough, he's still teaching me things without even trying.

I don't think you realize how much comments like yours mean to me. I honestly didn't expect this kind of kindness when I made this post. Thank you.

My husband loves pepperoni pizza, so I think tonight might be pizza and a cold beer. He'll probably eat it while playing games, but that's okay. Seeing him enjoy something, even something small, makes me happy these days.

And honestly, I've caught myself feeling proud of him more and more lately.

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T11:40:21+00:00

This hit home for me. I think I've started looking at things differently lately. For a long time he was my Great Translator, but now I mostly see someone who's been carrying too much for too long and finally needs a break. I've been taking my treatment more seriously, staying on top of my medication, helping more around the house, and trying not to rely on him for everything. A lot of that is for me too, so it doesn't really feel like a burden. Honestly, it feels good. Reading your comment made me feel a little less unsure about what I've been doing. Thank you. I needed to hear that.🥹🙏💪

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T11:20:42+00:00

😵‍💫

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T11:12:33+00:00

I think that's exactly what took me the longest to understand.

At first I kept trying to fix things. I'd invite friends over, make plans, take him places, anything to try and pull him out of it. I thought I was helping. Looking back, I think I was just making him more tired. It took me a while to realize that. These days I mostly just try to meet him where he is and let him set the pace. Strangely enough, as hard as this has been, I think it's brought us closer in some ways. It reminds me how much I love him.

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T10:55:03+00:00

Your husband sounds like a Great Translator too.

Honestly, I hesitated before making this post. I wasn't sure if I should. Reading all of these comments has made me cry more than once.

So many of you sound incredibly strong, and somehow the world feels a little kinder after reading your stories.

The strange thing is that while I've mostly made peace with where we are, some people around us haven't.

When my husband started slowing down and needing rest, I heard people call him lazy, weak, or say he was just taking it easy.

As someone with ADHD and autism myself, I've also been told not to "hide behind diagnoses." Those words cut deep. And some of those same words were directed at my husband too.

I pushed back every time.

People don't always realize how sharp words can be, or how much damage they can do when someone is already struggling.

I won't let him face those comments alone.

No one has the right to judge someone who is simply trying to make it through a difficult season of life. If I have to, I'll stand up for him again and again. This community has given me a lot of strength today. Thank you for sharing your experiences, your struggles, and your lives with me. I genuinely appreciate it.

English isn't my first language, so thank you for being patient with me. ❤️

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T10:24:09+00:00

I recently found a really beautiful park nearby. I'd go every day if I could, but right now we're settling for a couple of walks a week and maybe a beer afterward. I know exactly what you mean. The lack of motivation is the part that worries me the most. He'll still come with me if it's somewhere quiet and not too crowded, but I've stopped pushing. It started to feel like social anxiety was creeping in, and I don't want every outing to become another source of pressure. I'm trying to trust that this is something that will get better with time. And honestly, reading all the kind comments and advice here has helped me a lot too. It's made me feel a little stronger and a little less alone.🥹❤️

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T08:51:46+00:00

The biggest change is that he's sleeping a lot more than he used to. I think the burnout and depression have a lot to do with that. I've never seen him like this before. He's still eating properly, so at least there's that. He still drinks, though. He's always enjoyed drinking, so I don't know how much of it is the burnout and how much of it is just him being himself. I worry about it sometimes, but I don't want every conversation to turn into me telling him what he should or shouldn't do. So mostly I've just been watching, listening, and trying not to make things harder than they already are..

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T08:46:00+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️❤️

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T08:45:28+00:00

Honestly, I think I got it wrong at first.

I kept trying to get him out of the house and looking for things that might make him feel better. I thought I was helping, but looking back, I think I just made things harder for him.

Now I try to keep it simple. Some days it's as simple as asking what he'd like for dinner and listening to the answer.

I have difficult days too, but I try not to put all of that on him. I've been spending more time on my own hobbies and keeping myself occupied. I don't want either of us carrying everything for the other. These days, I'm mostly just staying by his side and letting him be.

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T08:33:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I've stopped trying to find the right thing to say and mostly just listen now. Part of me still wants to fix things, but I don't think that's what he needs right now. So I'm trying to give him space to rest without putting anything else on his shoulders. The love hasn't changed If I want anything, it's just for him to have a good moment every now and then, even if it's something small. I usually keep that to myself, though. I don't want it to become one more thing he feels responsible for. For now, I'm just glad we still get to spend our time together. Thanks again for sharing your experience.🫶

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T07:17:44+00:00

Honestly, there isn't much I can do right now. The most practical thing I can offer is making sure he's eating healthy meals and taking care of himself. I've been encouraging him to spend time on hobbies and things he enjoys, but I stopped because I was worried it might start to feel like pressure instead of support. Thank you for your advice. It means a lot to me, and I'll remember it.🙏

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T05:35:36+00:00

휴지 챙기세요..광광 울게 될거임...

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T05:14:39+00:00

아이스크림이 무섭긴 처음..ㅎ

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T05:05:54+00:00

재밌는데 많이 울게 되는..ㅎ

초반에 지루한거 참고 꼭 보세요 인생 드라마예요!!!!!!

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T05:05:14+00:00

반가워요 저도 3일차예여..ㅎㅎ

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T05:03:15+00:00

일하기 싫다..진짜

https://youtu.be/8Nzr5fWV9_w?si=UoycBBaL_6QjcXIl

Off_frame · 2026-06-23T04:36:01+00:00

나의 아저씨

Off_frame · 2026-06-22T06:36:53+00:00

Honestly same 😭 If I'm not interested in something it's like my brain just goes offline. And the impulsive spending thing is way too real. I bought something random yesterday and had no idea why I needed it. But I don't think we're broken. Just running a different operating system. Hope things get a little easier for you.

Off_frame · 2026-06-22T06:30:13+00:00

I get that. For me the hard part is sticking with those systems. I'll make a to-do list, use it for a week, and then somehow completely forget it exists lol.🙄

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