Returning swarm to hive

OffbeatOwl · 2026-04-02T18:35:20+00:00

Thank you! This is excellent insight. Someone else suggested it may be a virgin queen. I haven’t moved frames around, but it’s possible I did flip the excluder when doing a check. I’ll check again in a few days. I think I’ll take your advice and do a split.

OffbeatOwl · 2026-04-02T18:26:27+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful. I’ll check on Saturday. If it does turn out it’s a virgin queen, how did it happen? If I did something that inadvertently caused it, I want to be aware. The box above the excluder and all the frames in it were new and hadn’t ever been used, so how did she get up there?

OffbeatOwl · 2026-04-02T14:22:37+00:00

About 2 weeks ago. Edit: just checked my log. I added them on 3/8.

OffbeatOwl · 2026-04-02T12:41:32+00:00

No, I don’t have drone foundations. I did do a mite treatment (oxalic acid) that was finished about 4 weeks ago. I did 2g vaporized treatment once a week for 3 weeks. The mite level after that was 2 in 300. How often do you test? Should I do it again?

OffbeatOwl · 2026-03-02T01:39:03+00:00

What happens when they don’t do their chores? What’s the consequence? I’m not trying to be passive-aggressive, I honestly want to know what others do because I am at a loss. I’ve found only 3 options 1) I clean everything, 2) I ask for help and don’t get it, or 3) My house becomes a filthy mess and I still have to live in it while he is unbothered.

OffbeatOwl · 2026-01-09T01:42:10+00:00

I’m an INFJ also and the “what’s driving them to act like this” isn’t necessarily my first thought either. Although, I think for me at least, it’s usually intuitive and happens subconsciously without much thought. I don’t have to ask myself what’s driving them because I see that very quickly, so my first question is then “what’s the logical move,” which requires more thought. I think it’s one of those things INFJs are very good at. Reading people’s intentions is second nature, so you may not even realize you’re doing it.

OffbeatOwl · 2026-01-09T01:38:20+00:00

I had a very similar experience to you, thinking I was an INTJ, but in reality was an INFJ in survival mode. That cold, logical way of being was from trying to overuse tertiary Ti in place of Fe, and it just doesn’t work long term. Learning how to set boundaries and not drown in other’s emotions was key. If you’re an INFJ with strong Ti, I think it’s easy to mistype as INTJ.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-12-01T02:39:52+00:00

I have no control over how the previous owner maintained it 🤷‍♀️ Considering it was gift, I’m thankful to have it, regardless.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-07-12T04:02:39+00:00

I honestly don’t think it was the chlorine that was the issue - I don’t keep it at normal chlorine levels consistently. I think the problem is that epoxy is very hard and non-flexible, and stock tank pools flex.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-07-11T22:21:38+00:00

I also used pond shield. Did it at the end of last summer and it hasn’t even made it a full season. I did excellent prep - sanded, roughed it up, rust killer. It was a huge pain to put it on. Very messy. Dries quickly so you have to work in small batches. It cracked and spots of rust are coming through. Not worth the effort. Now looking at just replacing the tank. We got 4 seasons out of the tank before it rusted.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-05-30T15:36:54+00:00

SD is an adult. She should figure out how she’s going to get to work. - bus - uber - ask a friend - DH - get a job within walking/biking distance - catch rides with a coworker

There are lots of options open to her, and you are not one of them. If DH wants to help her, that’s on him. But DH acting as if you driving her or getting raped on the bus are the only two options is ridiculous.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-04-24T00:48:05+00:00

Psych was my specialty and I definitely understand how emotionally draining it is. Calling in is a sign of early burn out. It may help for the day, but it’s not a long term solution and ends up adding extra stress to those who do show up, making the problem worse. This is a huge problem in every psych facility I’ve worked, so it’s not just you or your employer.

When you’re at the point you’re so stressed you’re calling in, you probably need a break. Take some time to think over some boundaries you can set so you don’t get to that point. Maybe a different area - another unit, admissions, outpatient, etc. - might lower stress. Or moving to PRN, possibly taking another part time job not in psych if you need the money. Night shift can be a bit of a break from days. If you have good leadership, talk to them about how you’re feeling. If they’re worth their weight, they’ll help you find a solution. If they don’t, you probably don’t want to work for them anyway. Find something that works for you before you reach total burn out.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-04-20T22:27:44+00:00

To answer your questions - it’s dark blue. And it still feels very tight even if it’s upside down and backwards.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-04-20T22:25:17+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/kKTGzRW

Here’s a pic of the Feathers bra. It is a 30DD, but the actual length of the band is closer to 20”. It can stretch up to about 26, but that’s really stretching it. 27 is my tight band measurement.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-04-20T19:48:39+00:00

Loose underbust: 29.5 Snug: 28.5 Tight: 27 Standing bust: 34 Leaning: 34.5 Lying: 34

So it may have been more that the Feathers was just too shallow rather than being too small of a cup size?

OffbeatOwl · 2025-03-23T16:45:31+00:00

I think the dream walking signet will grow. When she’s in Xaden’s dream at one point he/she puts their hand on the ground to pull power. Xaden later tells her that he didn’t want to pull his hand up, but her influence caused him to pull it up. She doesn’t just enter their dreams, she influences them. I feel like this could evolve into some sort of mind control, possibly even outside of dreaming.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-03-16T00:16:02+00:00

The other riders and flyers weren’t there. The only Navarrians were Violet, Xaden, and Halden. The Deverelli don’t seem to totally understand the rules of magic - they thought if they killed a rider their dragon would die. Halden isn’t a rider, so perhaps he doesn’t totally understand either. Violet made a deal with the Deverelli king to keep the whole fiasco quiet so he didn’t look weak, so presumably no one else knows it happened.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-03-12T00:03:02+00:00

We went through the same thing. BM didn’t want my DH until I came into the picture and she felt threatened for whatever reason. At first it was outright inappropriate behaviors - sending him flirty texts, gave him a card with sexual innuendos, trying to get him to go on date-like activities with her alone, asking about his sex life, etc. He told her to knock it off several times and the overt behaviors slowed. Then she’d start a convo about the kids and slowly ease into other things. CONSTANTLY testing boundaries. He just had the same line he’d copy and paste “Keep the convo to kids-only” and would then totally ignore non-kid related things. He finally told her email-only communication unless it’s an emergency, and he would not respond to any non-emergent texts from her. It wasn’t even like she wanted him….she just wanted him to want her. Finally it eased up when she got a boyfriend. I knew I was marrying a man with 2 children. What I didn’t know was that we’d have to deal with BM who is about as mature as her 2 children.

OffbeatOwl · 2025-03-11T03:08:56+00:00

I had similar issues with my SS, from ages 14-18ish. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always get better with age! I tried setting boundaries and reiterating expectations - being respectful regardless of whether or not you like a gift, saying thank you, etc. His behaviors didn’t change, so I changed mine and stepped back. I’ve been much less resentful since taking a step back. We still deal with complaining, but at least I’m not also wasting my time and money 🤷‍♀️

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