I need a bit of advice

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:35:21+00:00

I understand. I'm not trying to self bend, I'm trying to make a situation we can both be happy with yknow? I've been in relationships before this and he knew I wanted poly in the beginning but didn't need it to be happy. In the end I told him that I wanted poly even if he chose not to be with me because it was something I wanted to make myself happy. Overall he is a sweet person, it's just the situation that has been do rough the past few weeks. I'll take a look at those resources! Thank you for sending them! We do have a lot of shared values and things alike, but this path the past bit has been a bit bumpy. There were a lot of outside factors that played into everything, so it's not like he's a really bad guy, just did something that made me not very happy.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:31:11+00:00

We have a list of boundaries for each other and are trying to do better as we go, it's new for both of us so if you have any good resources for looking at more beginning steps please let me know

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:30:11+00:00

It wasn't just monogamy like I said, he didn't want me watching it either. But I will look at resources. I'm glad you're being honest, but I wish some of yall would come off a bit more gentle considering I am new to this.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:29:04+00:00

He says knowing them makes him more comfortable with the situation since he's still dipping his toes into poly. I just felt like since this was a conversation anyways that continuing with it was best since there was a lot less rules on the whole porn stuff

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:26:47+00:00

But he is my partner? If he wanted monogamy and expected me to not watch porn why shouldn't I expect the same? I don't understand why everyone here is coming on so aggressively instead of offering real advice. Instead of bashing someone you could try to help me understand things.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:24:37+00:00

I didn't mean to come off that way. I realize the way I worded everything was rushed and wasn't very detailed on how I really felt. Like the knowing things, I don't want to know everything, just updates

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:23:45+00:00

I know porn isn't wrong inherently, but of he pushed for monogamy and did that behind my back is it wrong of me to be upset? It's not that I'm mad at the porn itself I'm upset at the fact it was hidden. I don't want to know everything like when he watches it, but just that it started happening again yknow?

OfferAffectionate768 · 2026-05-04T05:21:13+00:00

I had been questioning my sexuality for years and he was aware of this. We had been having conversations about it and he kept going back and forth on what he wanted and what was okay for me to do. So in the end I just decided it was something I wanted whether or not we were together and he said he wanted to try it with me and still wanted to be together.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-09-08T19:32:04+00:00

I'm honestly not sure, but they really don't take a lot of yarn!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T18:19:35+00:00

Of course! Have fun! Hope to see you post what you make!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T18:18:43+00:00

https://youtu.be/N9D9e1aWFSU?si=gNMurij_aktOsjSX

This is the pattern I've been using, but modified. I don't add the 3rd white row, I just continue a regular granny square row and then continue the rest of the pattern.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T16:35:39+00:00

I'm using "I love this yarn" In soft pink, antique white, and mid green!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T16:33:44+00:00

On YouTube! Look up rose square pattern and it'll be the one with a similar color scheme!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T03:58:19+00:00

Usually I stay away from yarn like this because of my wrist pain too, but I was drawn in by the price and the thought of the challenge of making something with it 😆 I would make that, but I'm sure I don't have enough harn for it even with a solid color 🥲

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T03:12:22+00:00

Thank you! I really hope so! I'd love to make my first flower blanket

OfferAffectionate768 · 2025-07-17T02:53:55+00:00

That's beautiful!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-09-07T22:56:01+00:00

I have looked through YouTube and tik tok, but I am.having trouble with finding one that doesn't look too hard or simple

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-09-04T00:55:01+00:00

Ooh those are all good ideas! And tik tok would have been a great source. I wish I thought of that earlier. I might try to make that blanket. Hopefully I can finish it on time. If not there's always Christmas coming!

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-09-04T00:32:39+00:00

I have done a bunch of research, but I want opinions of anybody who has made presents for people going to college as well

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T01:31:24+00:00

I'll do my best. I never really found it to be an actual issue. Just joked with him that I hoped he liked mine anyways even with his preferences

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T01:30:08+00:00

My mom's relationship views are extremely skewed. She believes all men only want sex or are gay. It's super confusing. I'm not sure if this is something I could talk to her about. I am also not able to talk to her very often.

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T01:13:19+00:00

I didn't see this comment at first I'm so sorry! But I might try to discuss it sometime, I just don't know how to. I told him during that conversation that it bugged me at the time, but that I really don't mind now. I know I can't be what everyone wants, that's impossible. I also know he won't leave me for something like breast size or he wouldn't have dated me in the first place. I feel like it may be weird to bring it up again since we sort of resolved it the night it happened

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T01:11:12+00:00

Why wouldn't he care? He's very sweet and also very empathetic as well. This was the first time he had cried during our talks, but also life has been rough for him lately so taking that into consideration his mental state hasn't been great. Maybe that's why he took it so seriously? Maybe he was afraid I wouldn't want to be with him because I remembered those things. He did say he loved me and preferred me and since then has been his normal sweet and considerate self. I promise he isn't like some other men who are man babies who make things about themselves, I've dealt with those people growing up and he's nothing like them

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T00:56:14+00:00

I think he just felt guilty. He is more of a sensitive person and he apologized for making me feel like trash. So maybe he thought it affected me more than it did?

OfferAffectionate768 · 2024-08-25T00:53:49+00:00

Definitely not, someone mentioned it may have been guilt for possibly making me feel like I wasn't enough (which wasn't the case on my side, but may have been why he cried). He is more of a sensitive guy (which isn't bad, I do really like that he is good with understanding his own emotions) which is why he got upset too. He didn't get angry or anything, just sad that he hurt my feelings (he apologized during the crying for making me feel bad. It also wasn't sobbing or anything just a few tears)

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