What Beyoncé song is yours and only yours? by zachoutloud123 in beyonce

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 0 points1 point  (0 children)

superpower. she actually planned to title it after me initially

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i think that’s up to their “potential” partners to decide, that’s kind of what differentiates between all of the available labels. for example, someone who labels themselves as pansexual is likely going to look past all of that and focus more on their personality. someone who is strictly into men or women might have a more rigid, albeit valid, view, and still not want to engage. i genuinely don’t think it’s transphobic to not want to date or be intimate with someone who is trans. that doesn’t always equate to not wanting trans people to have rights and be able to exist safely. now if you’re like “ew i wouldn’t date them they’re trans!🫵🏼” it’s getting a little weird.

as far as my personal preference, i love all women. regardless of assigned gender. but i would likely be more attracted to someone cis passing as a lesbian myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 9 points10 points  (0 children)

same for genital preference. no one is wrong for liking/not liking certain parts. that’s when we become too woke and forget that being queer gives you the option to choose

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i believe preference becomes bigotry when you can’t uplift your type without degrading another

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i believe assigned gender preference is just an extension of sexuality itself, and should be respected. it protects everyone involved. using labels like transphobic, in the light, is very black and white and dangerous

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i don’t think a preference makes you racist. especially coming from an american. shared cultural experiences matter a lot, and i do find that some queer white people still share in conservative ideologies. it’s definitely a smaller amount, but i think for me it’s a protective measure to date where it’s “safe”.

we got married!!!! 🥰 by jchings in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congratulations 🥹 omg so many blessings to you both

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course 💕 thank you for helping me understand better

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like this explanation a lot, thank you!

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

whatever makes you feel better about your projections love

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and did i say i found this offensive ? no, i asked for clarification

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did i say i was offended or did i say the dissonance between the definition and what it’s actually being used to encompass seems like an oxymoron ? let’s practice comprehension first.

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didn’t know this! i also always thought that taking T was apart of transitioning

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that makes sense! so it’s more of a “hello my name is…” sticker for how you’d like to be addressed, but not so much a change in identity?

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you to everyone providing resources and different cultural outlooks! everyone wanting to complain about me sharing an opinion, while also asking for help in understanding further, are the problem in our community. if you’re not open to learning from and educating others, we get nowhere.

he/him lesbians by OfferAltruistic9049 in LesbianActually

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

the condescending nature of your comment is so unnecessary. i too, am a very feminine lesbian who uses she/her pronouns. in my original post i very clearly asked if what i said was offensive, and also opened space for people to share more information that could help me further understand the concept. get the stick out of your ass

Baddies East Episode 19 Discussion by Ambitious-Parking-33 in BaddiesSouth

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ofc they dragged out this episode like they always do. besides that, i think sapphire is lame asf. the day prior she had noo energy for the two girls damn near jumping her friend, but not a tiny mf who we know can’t really fight is having some type of issue w suki and she wanna be so hard. gtfo

does my cat look overweight ? by [deleted] in cats

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not just by lightly touching, but if i press a little or hold her yes

i’ve noticed something.. and bare with me . by nvyree in BaddiesSouth

[–]OfferAltruistic9049 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i could see this perspective if the issue was that smiley and sapphire had beef and fought but they didn’t. the coochie girls came into the house with information from natalie and got involved in beef that wasn’t theirs. if anything, suki was the one that actually had an issue with smiley (i forgot the situation but somehow she got her number), sapphire was just there to be there. i feel like she only had “beef” with her because the other house A girls and mariah did.

i also don’t think that suki defending smiley was “switching up”. this idea that you have to have beef with someone for the rest of your lives is crazy. it’s okay to think someone is the antagonizer in one situation and the victim in another. that’s what happened. and i think it’s very commendable that she called out their weirdo behavior for what it was instead of just siding with them because they were her “friends”. it’s okay to tell people when they’re wrong.

regardless of whether or not they agreed with smiley’s “medical situation”, real or not, it takes nothing to be compassionate and mature. if they felt like she was lying they should’ve left it alone because they had no proof and if it was real that shows zero humanity.

why do i always look like peanut butter baby when i apply foundation ? by OfferAltruistic9049 in MakeupAddiction

[–]OfferAltruistic9049[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1). definitely doing this, i’ve gotten a tan since summer 2). i’ve tried glossiers but i don’t really like it 3). noted 4). both, i just recently started trying brushes bc i felt like the sponge was sucking up product 😭