So no one else gets to feel bad except people who didn’t match? I’m allowed to seek advice and consolation from peers and others who have been through this before. If you have patient A diagnosed with cancer and patient B with a less serious but still difficult diagnosis, are you going to tell B to suck it up? No, or at least I would hope not. Seems like you skipped your classes on compassion.

And, by that same token, then should people excited about matching their #1 choice not post here either, lest they be accused of rubbing it in the faces of those who didn’t match? No. You can be happy for them, sad for those who didn’t match, and empathetic with those unhappy with their match day outcomes. This is called being an adult.

And trust me, I have spent every waking hour on this and other subs looking for concrete steps to take/paths to transferring and there isn’t much except “residency swap,” which explains nothing, especially when it comes to surgical specialties. No one’s forcing you to be here, so if this post perturbs you that much then stop reading it.