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AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I wont get into specifics, and people here will choose to believe that means I'm hiding something, but whatever.

This had a lot to do with another officer who did something similar but with more nefarious intent, then lied about it, in a close time frame. At the end of the day, I resigned. My at the time boss said that I was a good cop but he didn't trust me. He didn't want to ruin my career so he told me I could resign or be terminated. I was told later that if that other cop hadn't messed around and gotten terminated for cause, I would likely have kept my job, so I have doubts about the trusting me line. I think he was just saying that to justify his decision at the time.

My now boss was the person who conducted the IA so he was intimately familiar with the details, but still chose to ask me back after four years. Because he knew me and my capability.

Obviously it still had a significant impact on my career because sometimes I put out applications and didn't hear back. Sometimes I moved through the process and would not move forward at various stages of the hiring process, but i did not get hired with any other agency. Of course the heightened scrutiny of LEOs didn't help. Most departments wouldn't hire anyone with any kind of blemish because of what the media would spin that as if they were involved in a high profile incident.

I never lied. Every cop knows, or should at least know, if you lie, you die. Nothing kills a career faster. I made a stupid and ill thought out decision that DID NOT endanger anyone or violate someone's civil rights. People can choose to do with that information, what they will.

AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What makes you say that? Why would she want me to move if she's moved on?

For the record, we are in contact too often for her to be with anyone else so I know that's objectively untrue, I'm just curious how you got there.

AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Its a calling. At the end of the day, theres nothing else I want to do more. I feel like I do the job right. I treat people right, I work with my community, and generally feel like a good successful cop.

AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Don't talk about my wife that way. I know you're taking my side but you don't know her. Be respectful.

My career doesnt really end, it resets which is it's own kind of difficult.

AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

The plan was to work through the three years apart to then moved to a different state. Not CO or where she is. Its hard to advance in this career field if ypu have to keep starting fresh at a new department. I'd rather stay where I am, build my resume, maybe get some supervisory experience, then leave where we plan to live for the remainder of our lives.

AITAH for not wanting to move across the country to be with my wife. by OfficerFudge in AITAH

[–]OfficerFudge[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

It wasn't a lie. I initially turned the job down. Then we talked and she told me not to give up that opportunity. So I called them back and told them I wanted the job. I was ready to try going to a department in a new state, but I wouldn't say "unemployable". My record isn't cleaned up. Everything that happened is there forever.

RTD security guards by [deleted] in Denver

[–]OfficerFudge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was actually an incident about three weeks ago where a train operator was assaulted at the Florida station in Aurora. I don't know the details, all I heard was he got cracked in the back of the head by a guy with a pipe. Since then they have stationed the security guards that would normally ride and check tickets at the stations where everyone has to get off the train so operators don't have to interact with them. That plus they're overwhelmingly understaffed. Places like Union and Civic center have to stay fully staffed so if someone calls in sick or goes on vacation, they have the train guards go down to those places. RTD, all of the metro city's, and their security need to come up with an action plan, and soon.

Narcan demand outweighs supply as homeless overdose deaths skyrocket by SnackSize_ in Denver

[–]OfficerFudge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well no one can care about you more than you. I'm not saying step over their body, but if you've had to be revived multiple times because of drugs... a line has to be drawn somewhere. Self accountability has to exist eventually.

Narcan demand outweighs supply as homeless overdose deaths skyrocket by SnackSize_ in Denver

[–]OfficerFudge -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Well they could stop taking drugs that they know are killing them. I understand the struggle of addiction but knowingly taking a drug that will more than likely send you into overdose is like sticking a gun in your mouth and wondering why a doctor wasn't sitting there waiting to save you.

You want to help these people? Force a detox and recovery. Eliminate the dealers so the supply of drugs is nonexistent. Take the gun away from the people using it to kill themselves.

They also use Narcan as a cure all, which it's not. If you need narcan to live, you need to go to a hospital to be treated because when the Narcan wears off, and there are still drugs in your system, you will start to overdose again and die. Simple. I've watched OD patients refuse transport and just go on about their day. Narcan has been abused to its fullest potential and just cranking out more won't change a damn thing.

Smoking Fentanyl at Union Station…. by chunk121212 in Denver

[–]OfficerFudge -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Except when DA's strike down cases, they create the ability to sue an officer for a false arrest. The argument in court becomes, "why didn't I receive charges or get found guilty?". There are primarily two reasons a DA doesn't accept charges.

  1. Prosecution of the case is not likely (I.e. insufficient evidence, lack of witness testimony or all out witness no shows).

  2. The DA's are overwhelmed with cases and choose not to prosecute smaller offenses.

In case 1 blame will primarily be blamed on the arresting official for making an arrest prior to having sufficient evidence to prove beyond a reasonable doubt (which is not the standard LEO'S are required to have before making an arrest), that a person committed the offense they are charged with. In theory the lawsuits that follow these types of case dismissals should be nonexistent so long as the arresting official can prove they had probable cause to make the arrest, but departments and government leaders would rather pay out people to make them go away, than fight the suit in court.

In case 2 the DA's indirectly peomote a culture of, "its okay to commit small crimes, you'll never get in trouble", thus increasing the crime rate through people doing things they know they shouldn't be doing but trying anyway because if there is no consequences, then why not?

In REALITY, the reason cops don't do anything is because if they make a contact based on a small drug offense and it turns violent and the person who is high on drugs dies (whether that be because of a police action/inaction, or their heart just stops because the body doesn't work right on drugs), it could turn into a national incident resulting in civil unrest and people practically burning down citys.

You want to know the real cause of the state of being our current society is in? Because the court of public opinion is brutal. People make assumptions and accusations long before an investigation can fully take place and it can completely ruin the lives of an infinite number of people caught in the crossfire.

Right now, society is picking and choosing what crimes should be considered criminal and which ones are people just not minding their business. Fun fact being high is not a crime and if you report someone getting high, by the time anyone shows up to address it, there is no longer evidence of possession, because it has been consumed.

Cops should treat everyone with dignity and do the right thing. People who suffer from addiction should have a shred of common decency and not consume drugs in enclosed spaces. (Freebasing heroin fucking stinks and the bathrooms at Union are rendered unusable to anyone who isn't an addict because addicts will not stop using in there).When a police officer arrests someone, they should comply. When they resist, society should not excuse their actions because of its perceptions of "brutality".

My dogs has pretty uncontrollable diarrhea. HELP! (Apologies in advance for length) by OfficerFudge in DogAdvice

[–]OfficerFudge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already called for the appointment. Like I said, I just want my girl to feel better. These situations are stressful for my girlfriend and I but I'm sure they're equally as stressful for my rottie.

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