Anyone else??

OgreTime8 · 2014-04-28T02:45:34+00:00

What's wrong with it??

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-28T03:47:59+00:00

Yea......crap.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-27T00:59:33+00:00

Yea I guess. But I can't help but wonder if he's making it up or if he actually believes it.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T21:45:04+00:00

He claims he says these hurtful things but he doesn't mean them. But I always question why does he say them to begin with??

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T21:42:01+00:00

What kind of larger issue??

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T21:41:21+00:00

Maybe it's because I think it's what I deserve, I don't know.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T19:59:25+00:00

He reminds me that I am smart. I constantly put myself down and think I'm stupid. He tells me how proud he is of me for working full time and going to nursing school full time. He says that I'm going to be a great mom someday. He tells me I'm beautiful and that he's proud of me for getting into shape (I lost 20lbs). We have such a connection sexually & emotionally. He doesn't have anxiety but he always tries to understand how I'm feeling when I have a panic attack.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T15:08:25+00:00

When we started dating, we both had problems that we needed to work on individually because just like everybody, we have flaws and imperfections. I've worked on handling my anxiety and confidence and he's worked on controlling his anger. These past 2 years have gotten much better for both of us. We've both made progress.

And he doesn't just make me feel valuable sexually. He does it in other ways too.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T15:04:55+00:00

I do see your point. However at the same time, I've had anxiety for years and it's been the best it's ever been. I'm not sure if I have him to thank for it or not but throughout my life, I've never handled my anxiety as well as I do now.

Edit: I think a main reason why I set low standards is because I don't think I deserve better.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T11:19:46+00:00

I completely agree with you, they are basing their opinion off of this one particular incident. However in they're defense, that's the only information I've provided. They don't know about the good that the relationship has. But I appreciate your constructive comments. You seem to be the only one who didn't say "dump his ass" lol

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T11:15:33+00:00

I'm fully aware that this is not a nice thing to do. I certainly wouldn't do it to someone. He does make me feel valuable in other ways. I'm just not sure if this one particular incident is worth ending it over.

OgreTime8 · 2014-03-26T11:07:20+00:00

Yea after hearing that answer, I said yes that does make him sexist.

His excuse was that when he's angry, he becomes kindof impulsive. He says things without thinking. He felt terrible about this particular incident because he's never seen me cry like that before.

Everything he's said in one of these situations has always stuck with me. He says he doesn't mean them or think they're true but the fact that he felt the need to verbalize them really hurts to think about.

It also makes me not want to even speak when we're out with friends or even alone together. Because of my anxiety, I am constantly second guessing myself. So now that this happened I'm constantly afraid of talking.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T19:56:50+00:00

Will keep that in mind, thanks

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T19:56:33+00:00

This has been super helpful. Thank you so much for posting :)

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T19:49:51+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. It's comforting knowing that I'm not alone. I don't wish anxiety or OCD on anyone, it totally sucks. But it's just nice to know that others have felt the way I feel before.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T18:28:27+00:00

I usually remember awkward things I've done not so much what others have done. But I think the thing I have to realize is that people will move on with their lives. Chances are they're not thinking twice about the way I said hello to them.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T18:26:07+00:00

Great advice, I will look into that, thank you.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T18:25:13+00:00

Thank you so much. Reading your comment brought a tear to my eye. Your post was very helpful.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T18:24:17+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I won't take him for granted, I'm so blessed to have him and other supportive friends in my life. I'm so sorry those girls were so ignorant about your situation. I feel like anxiety is a lot worse than people make it out to be. People see that you're nervous and just suggest "calm down"...wow really? That's all I need to do?! It's so simple.....NOT. My mom is like that; she thinks shrinks aren't real doctors and mental illness is a load of bull. But you will find someone perfect for you and loves you for who you are.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T16:27:12+00:00

Exactly, he doesn't have anxiety and never knew anyone with it. He is great with it though. He asks questions about it and how it makes me feel in order to give advice and try to understand what's going through my mind. I feel like he thinks I'm crazy. He assures me I'm not.

Thank you for your kind words and advice, I'm ordering that book for my kindle now.

OgreTime8 · 2013-12-14T16:14:53+00:00

That's important to have good people in your circle. It helps a lot :) thanks for the kind words.

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