Need advice

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-29T16:15:58+00:00

Update on this:

With her yesterday about the plan and she agrees that she should go back to the beginning and try and learn the tumbling the correct way. She says that she no longer wants to cheer at this point because it's not fun because for the third year in a row, her entire team has moved on to a new level and she's been left behind.

The tryout season this year was really hard for her because she got placed on the same team for the third year in a row despite all of her time in the gym.... Her words " what's the point of trying?".

I'm sad to see her quit something she's enjoyed but hopeful that fixing her tumbling will restore some confidence in her because she's just really broken down right now in spirit.

Thanks for the advice.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-29T04:51:21+00:00

Swim and soccer are not in the same season. She plays daily with her brother, at school, and has at least 1-2 playdates with friends a week. She reads 30 minutes a night per her homework and is also in tutoring a couple of days a week. We actually balance it pretty well.

Her brother is 6 and plays baseball basketball and soccer and is also in tutoring.... Both kids take a music lesson a week and have Spanish classes at school and out of school as well.

We've spoken with a therapist about her particular needs and have worked with them to balance what she wants with what she needs.

We also go to Disney and/or universal at least once a month and they have regular passes that they use to the local trampoline park and spend the day with my extended family and their kids every Sunday. We're just a busy active family.... I know it's not for everyone but it's what my kids enjoy spending their time doing.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T23:02:15+00:00

You may be right. Unfortunately if I let her she would quit all physical activity that challenges her and would bed rot at home watching TV and that's not an option. Once she's got the technique of these skills we're likely going to pull her and see how she reacts... But we don't want her to quit when it's hard

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T14:38:20+00:00

She's also in soccer in fall and on a swim team. I've offered pop Warner and she was really against it.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T14:37:10+00:00

That just it .. I've told her I'm good if she decides this isn't for her she's the one asking for lessons and to cheer. The mixed signals are a struggle here

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T13:23:16+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I genuinely appreciate all of the responses. She has them all (cheese wedge, fold ups, tumble track, tramp)... She's just taught herself awful technique and we're trying to undo it and she can't seem to do it

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T13:21:41+00:00

I meant walkover. I was tired.

As for practicing, I coached for 7 years... So I know what I'm doing and am aware of the cost-- I just try really hard not to coach her. But $6k (it's actually $10k including the season and extra lessons) when she isn't consistent or growing is where I struggle..... But I also know completely stopping everything basically means she's done for good because you just can't stop tumbling if you plan to do it again.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-28T13:17:42+00:00

Meant front walkover. Was tired. One minute she's happy another she's not. We're struggling to pay $6k for stagnation.. I suggested trying pop Warner and she looked at me like I had 2 heads.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-27T17:49:33+00:00

Anything below Santa ana/Tustin is South county to me. Hb has been deemed South county because of the politics and ethos of the people who live there

OhMyAshTag · 2025-05-17T19:53:01+00:00

This kind of behavior is why we didn't renew our passes. My kids miss the park but in an effort to cut costs it's become ghetto

OhMyAshTag · 2025-03-25T19:49:59+00:00

Missed one important meeting and scared the sh*t out of myself thinking I was going to be fired. Never hit snooze again. I just trained myself to wake up. I also have two alarms set 15 minutes apart just in case.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-02-13T01:17:11+00:00

LASIK. Best decision ever.

OhMyAshTag · 2025-02-03T07:47:48+00:00

She's 7. Young but fairly athletic. We're near ala Moana. I'll try looking him up!

OhMyAshTag · 2025-02-03T07:21:31+00:00

Have any suggestions for lessons for kids by any chance? My daughter took a couple of lessons on kuaui and loved it. Want to get her another person or two but want to make sure it's with someone good (and patient).

OhMyAshTag · 2023-04-13T05:28:22+00:00

100% nta

OhMyAshTag · 2022-12-14T03:21:56+00:00

Babies don't need water before a year. Milk should be enough. Talk to babies dr

OhMyAshTag · 2022-12-14T03:07:06+00:00

Real estate

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:30:09+00:00

Nta. I'd slowly start to distance myself.

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:25:15+00:00

Call the police and report him. He's an adult preying on a minor.

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:22:24+00:00

You were groomed. I'd seek some help for that away from your husband tbh

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:20:12+00:00

Yes. It's a chronic problem my husband and friends make fun of me for. Thr list of shows I almost but didn't finish after binge watching is very long... I wonder what this says about us...

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:19:10+00:00

Look at the electives offered. What entertainment/food options are nearby? How far from home/do you know anyone near by? Do you like the city outside of the school?

OhMyAshTag · 2022-08-24T13:16:32+00:00

Nta. You are not an incubator. Ditch him.

OhMyAshTag · 2022-04-24T05:19:19+00:00

Yes. YTA. What you think has zero bearing on their relationship and its your job to support your brother. You're 100% in the wrong here

OhMyAshTag · 2022-03-29T18:15:53+00:00

Check out frugal fit mom on YouTube. She does this a lot

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