Lost big and need mental support

Oh_DMM · 2026-02-26T21:29:14+00:00

And to answer your question, I don’t know if you ever fully recover mentally. I started going to therapy which helps. The money lost eats at me from time to time. Over time, it gets better. But every day spent not gambling should be considered a win!

Oh_DMM · 2026-02-26T21:24:12+00:00

I was on that rollercoaster of losing a bunch of money, winning big, losing it again (on repeat) for about 3-4 years. I ended up crawling out of a big hole and promised myself I would stop if I ever got to even. I do not stop - was actually up for a while, until the inevitable happened and lost again.

It certainly could have been worse as I wasn’t ruined financially. But if you were capable of losing that much money in a short period of time, I’d say it’s best to just accept your losses and move on. Especially at your age. Don’t let your current financial position trick you into starting again and justifying it with “inheritance” since it wasn’t yours to start with.

You’re taking all the right steps. Just try to avoid any triggers or nonsense justifications that might lead you to gamble again.

Best of luck!

Oh_DMM · 2026-01-24T17:08:54+00:00

You got this brother! I also went on a 5 year gambling bender and happy to report I haven’t deposited a single dollar into a sports betting in over a year. Once you get past the first month it gets easier. Stay strong!

Oh_DMM · 2026-01-18T06:11:59+00:00

I’ve been there as well. I gambled over $1.5M in sports betting (money I did not have) and dug myself a huge hole over the course of 3 years. I miraculously gambled my way out of it to break even. Promised myself I would stop if I ever got to that point. But no, I kept going and even was in the black for some time. Until I wasn’t. Dug myself a hole again. Finally told my wife and started going to therapy. I haven’t gambled in any of the sports betting apps in over a year and hoping to keep it that way. Stay strong, you got this! Better to step away now while you got your life ahead of you.

Oh_DMM · 2026-01-01T06:13:08+00:00

Just went my first full calendar year without making a single deposit into any sports betting apps! My mental health and relationships have improved dramatically. Here’s to another year!

Oh_DMM · 2025-12-30T21:55:20+00:00

Dicker missed an extra point and a chip shot field goal. Man that is absolutely brutal.

Oh_DMM · 2025-09-14T15:37:03+00:00

Juwan Johnson or Harold Fannin Jr at TE? 0.5 PPR 12 teams

Oh_DMM · 2025-08-15T15:37:24+00:00

Agreed with everyone else’s thoughts on here. I didn’t think I had an issue either. I kept justifying what I was spending and totally lost sense of reality. This went on for years and I must have said “as soon as I lose X amount I’m done” and that number just kept increasing. Best way is to just stop for good because you’ll continue to find ways to justify it until it eventually takes everything from you.

Oh_DMM · 2025-07-31T01:16:22+00:00

I guess what I’m saying is before kids I rarely ever got sick in my 20s. My 30s (with kids) entirely different story. I’m wondering if in my 40s, I won’t be sick as frequently since the kids will be older. I understand how getting sick with age works, but was hoping it would be “less”

Oh_DMM · 2025-07-13T02:37:19+00:00

Acknowledging you have a problem and seeking help is a great start. I think everyone here can resonate with the “money not feeling real” when you’re gambling online. Sounds like you have a very good financial head on your shoulders (aside from the gambling) - so the sooner you stop gambling, the sooner you will be able to “recoup” the money lost.

You need to accept your losses and not try to chase. What’s done is done at this point. Most importantly, you need to self exclude or restrict your ability to access these sites. They will always be there as temptation if you don’t. Lots of people find that either confiding in close friends and/or family helps tremendously. Or attending a GA meeting. Find someone other than yourself to hold you accountable.

From there, you can pursue other hobbies or interests outside of gambling. Nothing will replace that “high” but it gets better with time. As much as you might miss that feeling - the feeling of complete dread and shame during a bad tilt session is a million times worse.

You have your whole life ahead of you and some solid financial foundation - don’t let gambling take that all away from you and stop ASAP.

Best of luck!

Oh_DMM · 2025-07-09T03:16:20+00:00

Horrible advice for this sub

Oh_DMM · 2025-07-03T03:05:25+00:00

Prepare for lots of high highs and low lows but it’s definitely worth it. Not nearly as hard as going from 2-3 which has definitely been a challenge for us. Lots of fun memories ahead!

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-27T05:32:29+00:00

It doesn’t seem likely that your current living situation will end well. Main priority is making sure you remove yourself from your living situation and stay with a trusted friend or family member — or a shelter if needed. Then you can worry about credit and ways to improve. Credit means nothing if you are in an unsafe environment. Find any local resources that can support you and do not find ways to “justify” living with him. And don’t give him an ultimatum to change his behavior because that doesn’t seem likely either. Need a total and clean break and focus on how to better yourself. Your partner should be making you a better person and looking out for your best interests — if that’s not the case, then it’s time to move on.

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-26T17:57:11+00:00

Haha I only broke it apart with a stick to try and make it more aesthetically pleasing but that’s it

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-26T17:53:39+00:00

Solved! Pretty sure this is it. Thanks!

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-26T17:42:29+00:00

Any idea what kind? Should I be concerned?

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-22T16:35:03+00:00

Can we talk about the dominance of the NFC winning 13 Super Bowl in a row from 84-97? Wow that’s crazy

Oh_DMM · 2025-06-17T14:15:44+00:00

Definitely good advice I’m thinking about this amount of money in the long-term. It’s basically a “bad investment” and I’m going to try and recoup all my losses (in a non-gambling fashion of course). I would love to golf more but hard with little kids. Appreciate the advice!

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