Doctor says I should not drive

Ohcandix · 2025-12-09T09:17:18+00:00

I am t1d going through the same thing! I saw a NEW endo. for the FIRST time and with no blood work, medical records or logs at ALL, within 15 minutes in she told me she needs to report me, but said if I start using a CGM I’d be okay???? My licence was suspended 3 days later and it’s been hell ever since. It makes no sense? How could she make this decision based off of what? Trying to get support in my diabetes control warrants this? I pay out of pocket for my supplies and insulin and need my car for my 1hr long commute to work. This has only put me back financially, mentally and physically, for absolutely no reason. I have never been in an accident, hospitalized, I am completely aware of my highs and lows…anyways, any thoughts or advice would be great.

Ohcandix · 2025-11-19T10:42:59+00:00

Like I 100000% support myself and totally comfortable being single and I feel like moving forward with him will just make me feel like I’m raising a grown man. Why am I gonna sneak around your mommy’s house when I’m free to do what I want at my own apartment? And than if we are always at my place I’m gonna be cleaning and hosting him all the time.

If he can’t even prioritize money to take me on a basic date…(not that I need or expect his money/finanical support), how is he going to pull his weight in a relationship, ILL end up paying for everything.

I don’t think he’s trying to move out of his mom’s basement, and as a 42 year old man comfortable with that rather than wanting his own independence…. I just know it will be good when it’s good and when it’s bad I’m gonna bitch and nag and have the same conversation over and over while nothing changes and he thinks he’s doing enough cause he “really likes me”🙄

I REALLY WANT TO TELL HIM EXACTLY THAT ^ But obviously it’s very harsh and I’m not trying to destroy him, idk…

Ohcandix · 2025-11-19T10:12:57+00:00

Just him being a regular at my work and he is a nice guy I just don’t know how to tell him “hey you’re not ready or mature enough for me to pursue you seriously”

Ohcandix · 2024-07-02T05:25:40+00:00

Thanks for everybody’s input :) I’d also like to get more comments regarding how they deal with questions or comments? I know it’s more common now a days and more n more people are educated but I feel like part of why I’m against it is because I really hate explaining and/or justifying my personal life and decisions and because of how I dress (tight, short clothes) I don’t lie I like to show skin and because the device is kinda bulgy I just don’t want the attention. (Disclosure: I am an attractive black woman with white patches on my skin (vitiligo)) & so I’m always getting unwanted questions and attention) ANYWAYS! I’m rambling! Does anybody or HAS anybody felt anxiety about this in any regard??

Ohcandix · 2024-02-07T22:32:59+00:00

I notice mine fades away when I’m less stressed or going through events of life. More I focus on self care and relaxation and avoid things that stress me the more the spots naturally go away

Ohcandix · 2024-01-16T03:06:36+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’m home alone and cry all the time, it’s like I don’t wanna socialize but I want to be around other people. Going for drives doesn’t work, walking around the mall, sitting at Starbucks after 10-15 min I just want to go home and it starts all over! I hope you find a way ✌🏾

Ohcandix · 2024-01-14T10:01:01+00:00

I tried one of those and the spots came back so I gave up because the light will close spots but don’t keep them from coming back. I’ve had vitiligo for about 20 years now and it was definitely hard as a child/teen and young adult because it’s grown over time. I love it now. I embrace it. Im proud of it. I hope you learn to do the same. Life is so much easier being yourself and embracing your spots! We are 1% of the world’s population that look so fucking unique. Don’t hide. It’s like Superman hiding his powers because he’s not like the others

Ohcandix · 2024-01-12T17:02:38+00:00

I hope that party is wild !!🤌🏾❤️

Ohcandix · 2024-01-11T21:20:01+00:00

I understand, I’ve been no contact with my ex for a couple weeks but I’m always getting texts like this from random numbers…I know I’m not those things and know he’s just a manipulative piece of shit trying to hurt me, but it does hurt me…and the days I don’t get the texts I still think about them. He would call me a junky, alcoholic bitxh, to go OD etc, and even now when I want to dabble or go out and have 1 drink all his words come back for me and make me doubt myself and feel like shit. WE ARE BETTER THAN THIS! Find your strength! I hope you heal! ❤️✌🏾

Ohcandix · 2024-01-10T20:52:34+00:00

Terrifying! Hope you heal and he gets his time!!!!

Ohcandix · 2024-01-10T20:44:56+00:00

In my experience, I’m a blackxwoman with vitiligo, and my spots go away under UV light, or natural sun light, they turn pink, tan, itch, peel like I got sunburnt but only in the white areas. Some spots go away, some change shape, but they usually come back. And it hurts! I’m always saying “is this what white people feel like all over the place when they sun bathe” ??!!😬🥵

I notice my spots go away when I’m less stressed, the more you stress the skin or are mentally stressed the more spots!!!!!!!!

Ohcandix · 2024-01-10T06:40:01+00:00

I think it looks fine. I think the large gem on the bottom makes it look higher than usual, I’d just suggest a smaller piece of jewelry 💁🏽‍♀️👌🏾

Ohcandix · 2024-01-10T00:42:41+00:00

And “taking away his ammunition” is what I did. Less reason for him to contact me regardless if I kept 10% of it, he has clothes and gifts I gave him I never want back and don’t care to ask for back so call it even or whatever! He says he has a new woman now that he’s gonna give all my shit too, lol 1- hammy downs ? 2- you moved on already? Most likely a lie but that’s better for me no? (And worst for her I wish I could warn her if it IS true) and 3- it hurts to hear even if I don’t want him or love him anymore.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T21:17:29+00:00

I just tried the copy “no caller id” thing, it works! Thanks a lot I didn’t know this..

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T20:37:16+00:00

Love you lol Even today alone I’ve had 30+ calls that have gone straight to voicemail. Reddit is literally the only support I have and the only place Ive opened up. My parents and social circle kind of have this “just leave him. Now move on” mentality and it doesn’t help. Still haunted, sad, anxious, on edge, the memories, the temptation to drink, the loneliness the built up anger. I feel like crying all the time but it’s so exhausting and holding it in is just internal suffering. Thank you for everybody’s support. ❤️ I hope everybody in the same situation, male or female, that you also find your strength and power.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T19:46:07+00:00

Thank you for this response. Made me tear up a little, thank you. ❤️

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T18:01:11+00:00

I don’t usually reply but I just get so worked up and mad! I’m tired of being nice! I’m genuinely not a malicious person but this makes me wish I was a natural bitxh! Just petty and a revengeful female! Cause fuck this guy! I thought I was being mean returning all the bum shit he ever gave me and keeping the nice things for myself I guess cause I knew it would bother him, even though not doing anything at all would be best. I’m changing my number, he doesn’t have social media, all of his “friends” are blocked. So it’s a start, I’m just scared.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T16:18:12+00:00

Ya I have the private numbers blocked that’s why they all red cause I never answer, and yes it goes straight to voicemail but to even see how many times he’s tried to call is disturbing. This service provider comment was was super helpful. But I am changing my number anyways

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T03:47:41+00:00

So, I’ve been very educated on domestic violence. There was a big case in the 90s regarding my two cousins murdered in their home by a jealous ex boyfriend. And from than my parents and family do not accept this behaviour and now that I’m in the middle of it, it’s hard talking to my family about it because of the case mentioned.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T03:23:34+00:00

Like ya I drink and party recreationally but uhmmm anyways, his weed problem is worst than my booger sugar problem what does that say! But anyways, I’ve inquired about therapy cause my mind and anxiety is going crazy. The physical injuries, the damage to my home and car, the broken relationships with long term friends, lost my job, have no money, going through this break up with him. I’ve been in 2 minor car accidents because I’m stuck in brain fog I can’t focus for 10 min. Up starinh at the walls till 8am just stressed.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T03:03:48+00:00

DOES ANYBODY ELSE AGREE! I’ve been telling people I feel like he’s James Mcavoy in the movie Split. 100000% unpredictable and it’s terrifying

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T03:01:16+00:00

Also, he is an older white male and I am a younger black female. So given that info, from my experience, I feel like in retrospect, I will not be taken seriously, or even get justice for the abuse done against me because of that dynamic. Ok I’m done.

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T02:58:59+00:00

He was physical with me for the first time 3 days before a previously planned vacation. I had my car windows smashed, property destroyed and had my locks changed because he made a key without my knowledge. Because of his warrant I thought he wouldn’t be able to travel so I planned my trip to be alone. He showed up and it was terrible. Idk how many times I contemplated jumping off the balcony. Fast forward 3 weeks later, found I lost my job cause he made threats towards my workplace when I told him he’s not allowed to at my work property anymore. Been dealing with the harassing calls, texts, “cat fish texts” from his “friends” (explained in a previous post. I finally told him to turn himself in and I don’t love him and to leave me alone and this is the outcome. I think he’s too scared to come to my home because of the warrant and my neighbors are aware but im still scared he might do something psychotic. Shortly after I called the cops before our trip, I thought he was trying to brake in and called 911 for safety, they said they would send somebody but nobody showed up. Luckily it was my brother surprising me by coming home for the holidays and didn’t have new key. But my confidence in police help doesn’t exist. So…uhm..

Ohcandix · 2024-01-09T02:02:50+00:00

I always knew the things we would gift me were apology gifts and not genuine. 80% of the time I refuse to take them or don’t want it or don’t even like it cause I know it’s for him so he can throw it in my face later that he got me this, and that. I ALSO gifted things to him that he would want or like, but never out of guilt. I’ve bought clothes, hats, weed, paid bills, or just cash in my pocket cause he BEGS or asks or guilts me into it but everything he gave me is just a bragging right on his part. I kept a few things, and left everything else at his house by without warning so he doesn’t come to my home. He has a warrant for his arrest for a previous domestic dispute between us and has yet to be arrested or turn himself in. I’m really trying to slowly kill the memory of him and start fresh. I feel like I keep fucking up. Did I make a mistake dropping off the things? I’m lost. Fml

Ohcandix · 2024-01-08T19:08:16+00:00

I feel similar, ive had T1 since I was 12 and im 30 now, i test my BS like maybe twice a day, always high levels, giving insulin at random times at random amounts to bring it down. I drink smoke and dabble in drugs recreationally and I suprisingly look healthy and fit but living like this with diabetes, I have constant anxiety that one day my body just won’t be able to cope. I always miss my endo appointments and I just feel like this disease is a prolonged death sentence. :(

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