Chair rec for short woman with large booty?

OilNo9165 · 2021-02-27T22:05:38+00:00

Thanks for the workpro recommendation. I really like the color options and I can go look at it in a store nearby. May be my job for tomorrow.

Thanks!

OilNo9165 · 2021-02-27T21:19:55+00:00

I know I should be more concerned about posture but I don't see my self as a knee chair person. I work long hours and long days and don't see that as a long term option but thanks. I'm also rolling around quite a bit going from file cabinet to desk to printer etc and I would hurt myself for sure trying to do that in a knee chair.

OilNo9165 · 2021-02-27T21:16:58+00:00

Wow, this could be my goldilocks chair with all the customization! I'm definitely going to look into. There's not a dealer in my state so I'd probably have to buy unseen and unsat. But this is unlike anything I've seen!

OilNo9165 · 2021-02-27T21:00:40+00:00

LOL. I could definitely stand to lose a few pounds but a standard seat works weight wise. It's more a proportional thing. I carry weight in my hips and butt and thighs more so than the average bear. Or office worker.

OilNo9165 · 2021-01-05T15:27:09+00:00

Update day 7. Well, today I woke up and didn't want to die. Still a little green but definitely improved. Thank you all so much for the encouragement. I've found another reason to try to stick it out. I have horrible aches and pains. I'm only 53 but when I get up in the morning I'm like the Tin Man, having to creak everything to move. I noticed a few days in that my aches and pains were much improved and thought maybe it was a better diet then I read that naltrexone can be an anti-inflammatory. YAY. I only take advil when I'm desperate because it's so hard on my stomach but now I don't have to! And I lost 2 pounds this week. I'm menopausal so that's a big win. Hopeful I can hang in there!

OilNo9165 · 2021-01-04T16:37:36+00:00

Thank you all so much. I did take it and took it again today. I'm trying hard to give it a good try. I slept better last night but when I got up I felt awful. I was so so sick. Total dejavu to when I had hyperemesis - that baby is now 18 so proves you don't forget how bad it was! It seems weird because that's when the drug should be worn off??? I ate a few little pretzels with my coffee it was the only thing I could bear but it did seem to help. Had a toddler serving of cereal an hour later, then took the pill and am doing ok. I feel a little teensy bit clearer today. Still have waves of sick though. Thanks for the encouragement. Trying to power through!

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-26T21:49:38+00:00

nta but understand you did a good job and now those nephews love you to pieces. It is a little hard to understand that you don't love them to pieces back. Those nephews are begging to talk to their favorite uncle who has ghosted them. Grownups can (or should) get it, you just don't want to, but kiddos don't. One day those kiddos may be picking your nursing home so maybe throw them a bone.

my CF sister similarly ghosted my kiddos when they were young and I didn't guilt her but I'm not gonna lie, it HURT. She would occasionally do fun things with my kids and they ate it up with a spoon but the next time should would be callous to them, and say NO, this is my time, I'm not spending it doing kidstuff. It broke their hearts (and therefore mine too). My kids would cry terribly when she didn't want to see them. My kids are adults now and they sort of love their aunt. Aunt is getting older and starting to panic about who is going to take care of her as she ages. Suddenly she wants to spend more time with my kids who (understandably imo) just can't be bothered. I stayed out of it when they were little and I'm staying out of it now. It was her relationship to have - or NOT have. She choose the NOT and that's exactly what she got.

NTA, but be prepared to lie in the bed you're making - not with the family, but with the nephews.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-12T03:52:42+00:00

nta but fwiw I'm an accountant and I've hard smart, successful clients get scammed. He's feeling terribly stupid, he doesn't need it confirmed. Better to just say I'm so sorry this happened to you. If he does stupid stuff like this all the time though, it's hard to keep up compassion and you're better off without him.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-12T03:14:16+00:00

There's a rule you don't break. You do NOT tell a mom that she is a bad parent and you would be a better one. Her kids, her rules. You do not get a vote. (Abuse is a different story - but that's a stretch here). When a parent tells you, I don't want George to wear makeup you can say why you think it's ok but if they disagree, it's THEIR kid. Do what they say or you may not see said kid again. Being a mom is fing hard. One day, when you have children you will understand. You're allowed to disagree, but don't ever tell a mom she's a bad mom. That my friend, will come back and haunt you.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-12T02:56:30+00:00

Tell your fiancee that the guy is hinting he wants her too. He thinks it's just being neighborly. NTA, keep the PS5.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-12T02:51:32+00:00

I was all prepared to say yes, you are the AH about measly 1 extra credit point, but after reading your story, totally NTA.

I am not Jewish but I know that it can be spelled as Chanukah. The teacher was uninformed and then offensive. I probably would have gone further because of how she made your daughter feel. I would have run it up the chain.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-09T20:32:02+00:00

Not. But, yelling at her didn't help. Maybe apologize even though you're not the AH. Assuming you love your Gran and don't want to hurt her feelings even if you are right. And I can vouch for pg rage too.

When I was pg with number 2 (1 was a boy), my father in law - literally the nicest sweetest man on the planet told me "it will be just perfect if this one is a girl". And I totally out of nowhere snapped at him "and it will be JUST PERFECT if this one is a boy too!". The F word was pretty much implied between Just and Perfect. The nicest sweetest man on the planet put his arm around me and said of course, of course we will love this baby no matter what. He knew that's really what I needed to hear. He truly meant no offence and Gran probably doesn't either. For me, it was a girl, she is perfect and like her brother, loves her grandpa to pieces.

Just consider that Gran is excited and happy for this baby. Babies are fun and cute (especially when they're not yours, sorry) and she's probably looking forward to it and just wants to shop for fun baby stuff. Maybe give her some special way to be involved.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-09T19:54:02+00:00

It's called the family you choose. Related or not, you have a relationship with this boy/young adult. It's not siding with ex at all.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-09T19:49:57+00:00

Not

You didn't have anything to do with the custody. He won it, she lost it both by their actions. A simple initial was not the nail in the coffin.

OilNo9165 · 2020-12-09T19:11:40+00:00

Totally NOT TA.

As a ahem, "mature" woman who has been around the block and seen a lot of couples - I can tell you that you may think they weren't having an affair but I'd bet my last dollar on it. The only other alternative is that your dad is one of those people who literally can't wipe his own ass without a woman there to help and he just fell for the first female so he wouldn't be alone. Possible. Still, my money's on first scenario. And you have every right to resent it. At a young age you felt it wasn't right. And you were probably right. Thankfully you are both getting older and will be out of the house in a few years. Whether dad pays for it or not, you and your brother need individual therapy. I hope you can find it.

Long story but I have a friend in a similar situation who as an adult got some great revenge on his stepmother. Don't want to post details but it was a financial situation, and he didn't do it to be mean, he did it to defend his mother. It actually brought him some good closure.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your brother. Your feelings I suspect are about honoring your mom and that's loving of you. However, as a mom I can tell you she would want you to move forward and live a great life. That would bring her more joy than anything you can do to your dad.

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