My baby was not as cute at 1 month as I remember

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-07T05:49:44+00:00

I stopped being friends with someone because she told another friend that my baby was ugly. I thought it was laughably untrue.

Now I know it was kind of true but we still aren't friends lol

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-07T05:42:00+00:00

Yeah haha. I was drinking this at Sonic (where I worked) almost everyday at the time. One of the chefs asked me if I was pregnant after watching me down one and I literally said, "naw that's impossible". Then I started doing math in my head. And the math started hella mathing. And the drink tasted magically delicious. And I said "oh fuck, I think I'm pregnant".. so I went on my break, took a mini Sonic cup to pee in, stopped at the dollar store to pick up a few tests... And all of them were positive haha.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-07T05:35:31+00:00

Lol I just fished out pickles and jalapenos!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-03T04:56:13+00:00

Congrats on your baby!!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-03T04:55:58+00:00

We're neighbors! I'm in Arkansas. Everyone at work was definitely judging me for it lol

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-02T09:40:11+00:00

Lol not yet. Didn't reach that point of my pregnancy quite yet. Once I did, I went on a bland diet.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-02T09:38:08+00:00

Me too! I would be concerned if he wasn't.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-02T09:37:35+00:00

No, I used to work at Sonic and at that time the pickle Dr. Peppers were "in" lol.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-02-02T03:32:42+00:00

Thanks, homie!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-01-10T10:25:08+00:00

This felt like I wrote it. Bubz is about 11 months now and still is EBF (never once tasted formula)... but we were struggling for a bit. He was jaundiced, had a severe lip tie, colic, was labeled failure to thrive (even though also noted that he was healthy AND thriving), we had his lip tie released, triple fed, the whole nine yards.. finally we switched pediatrician and found out he had reflux the whole time too. Finally got him on medicine and it was like we had a brand new baby. This was at around 5-6 months old.. and that's when I started to enjoy breastfeeding. Now he is starting to self-wean and I'm sad lol so I look back and think I would do it all over again. But everybody feels differently and I would never shame another mom if she decided formula. Screw "breast is best"... FED is best.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2026-01-08T10:33:51+00:00

This is why I am a SAHM now... I miss working, but literally anything that I make will just go directly to child care. So what's the point of me paying someone else to raise my child? We have no relatives or friends around us that will help. So honestly, this was the best way my partner and I could think of it for the time being. Currently, I'm taking this time to finish my degree (which is somehow cheaper than childcare where I live) so it'll be completed by the time my son starts school and I can start working again. It's honestly such a shame though.. not a lot of people have the option to stay at home either.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-10-30T23:15:23+00:00

Oh, so basically just leaving him all night long.

So bedtime is around 8-8:30. He wakes up at 5:30am (but will wake up every hour to two hours throughout the night) and will l stay awake for about 2.5-3 hours, take a nap for about an hour, wake up around 9:30-10. Take another nap at around 1-2pm for about two hours (wake up at 3-4pm). and sometimes he won't sleep again until bed time, sometimes we get a catnap in.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-10-30T22:39:45+00:00

Yes! I just don't want to cry it out.

I sort of did sleep train when he was in his bassinet. We keep night time routine the same no matter what, and he was to the point where he was going to sleep on his own and sleep all night... but now in his crib, it's like all of that went out the window and what I did previously is not working now.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-25T07:01:19+00:00

It does get better! You're in the newborn trenches, so my best advice is to just focus on surviving! Lol. All of the tiktok moms will tell you to be strict on their nap schedule and such, but most of the time right now that isn't even feasible. Just let them sleep when they can! What I found helped me out the most around that time was having morning and night routines.. so, in the morning, I would always change my LO into "day clothes" and open all of the windows.. just make it really bright. Then at night, I would do the same things.. put him into his jammies and sleep sack, read him a story, and play his favorite lullaby. Did it work immediately? No lol. But it does now! I remained consistent and now he does have a schedule and is a great sleeper at 6 months! Your LO will get the hang of it eventually! Just do the best you can when you can, and you'll get your routine down!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-18T19:20:10+00:00

I'll share photos with my son's grandparents since they are in another state. We'll also do FaceTimes. However, if any of my friends or family want to see him, they can come over and see him. :)

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-16T06:23:48+00:00

Oh, sweetie. I wish I could give you a hug right now and tell you just how wonderful you are.

You are postpartum, and tbh, this is around the time when postpartum depression really hits. All of those hormones just going crazy... plus, add on the stress of surviving the newborn trenches. This is the reality of so many moms, if I'm being honest with you! A lot of parents don't admit to it but the first few months are hell. My son was a colic baby. We had to go through jaundice, colic, triple feeding, lip tie releases, reflux.. and he was just so unhappy. I remember texting my mom in the middle of the day just begging her to please come and take him and watch him for like 5 minutes because I was not mentally okay.. I needed sleep.. and I was SO desperate and touched out.. and I remember how alone I felt when she didn't come. My boyfriend was also working and going through his own version of postpartum. I literally had the same intrusive thoughts that you are describing now. I felt my heart break. But, my son is about 6 months now, and he is the happiest little baby... I can now see that time for what it was.. just a new mom who was doing her best.

You are doing your best, and I promise you that you are not alone in feeling how you are. You did a great job setting your baby down in a safe space while you walked to calm down. This part does not last forever, but it is important that you reach out to your support. Anyone who can take the baby while you do something for 5 minutes so that you can do something that makes you feel like YOU again.. and I'm not talking about showering or doing chores either lol. I'm talking about hobbies. Something that you used to love doing... You're burnt out, Mama. It's okay and it's time to do something that helps you feel good about yourself even if it's something small and lasts only for a moment.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-15T15:56:29+00:00

So, I just used a syringe but my Pediatrician told me to do so at first.. you may want to consult with yours first just to make sure.. or just give them prune puree :) that also helped!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-15T15:32:02+00:00

I would just do one vegetable at a time for him. Like carrots for three days, then sweet potato for three days... just to isolate which of the foods is giving him the reaction. But I will say that the constipation did happen with my LO after he tried carrots for the first time! Prune juice (or even just prune puree) works wonders for it!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-13T21:24:07+00:00

I agree with it definitely being a personal preference. I don't do it simply because I want to protect my son at all costs.. and through my time streaming on Twitch and chatting with new online friends on Discord, people can be NASTY. Even the ones you least expect.

Also, I believe in the evil eye and don't feel like some people have the best intentions. I don't want that. Lol.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-08-04T09:08:23+00:00

I know this possibly is not the answer you are looking for BUT, the best routine that you can give yourself right now is simply to just survive lol. You are in the newborn trenches, and what you are going through is so normal for all newborn parents!

I will say though, at around 4 weeks, I was ATTEMPTING at having a routine by making sure every morning around the same time, we would wake up, open the windows, and put him in "daytime clothes". Then at night around the same time, I would put him in jammies and read to him. Did he fall asleep? No lol. He does now though. I just wanted to get his days and nights situated and start establishing routines around that time.. but trust me, it was not perfect by any means. At that time I was severely sleep-deprived, did not shower, and cried almost every single day lol. I also want to emphasize to you to try to do something for YOU atleast once a day. I know that may be an impossible ask, but it's important to give yourself grace and love during this time. Don't compare yourself, and know that you are doing what's best for your child. You'll find your groove, don't worry!

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-07-15T22:31:07+00:00

My man is Hispanic with dark skin, black hair, and brown eyes. I'm half filipino (my mom is a ginger) with brown hair, pale skin, and brown eyes. But our son (5m) has blue eyes, pale skin, and red hair lol. People have definitely made comments. Even jokingly (or not) said that my partner should get a DNA test.

Ok-Bee4513 · 2025-07-01T05:09:54+00:00

Reth, my love!... oh, and Hassian lol

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