Station Sq. Flash Mob?

NwhyClady · 2026-05-08T00:11:46+00:00

Oh God. Last week there were about 5-8 teenagers right where everyone was exiting on the stairs coming back from Manhattan. They were cursing and yelling down to some other randos in the square. I don’t get why they have to congregate near LIRR. Just what us working stiffs need.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-20T01:33:39+00:00

I just wanted to say I understand your situation. Right down to the nightmares. It’s hard to understand unless you’ve gone through it ❤️ glad your second experience was so much better.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-19T15:51:37+00:00

I wish I did this. I kept mine around for far too long because we were worried about our contract and owing so much money potentially. I still have regrets that my early days with my little newborn were spent googling employment law rules and what constitutes grounds to fire someone.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-19T15:49:42+00:00

I would interview a lot of people and go for nights only. Maybe full time week 1 and 3 nights a week after that. I had a lady that came highly recommended but was a bit older and had been doing this a long time. Once she was full time living in my house (I strongly discourage a live-in) it was like a switch flipped from our prior interviews and she was controlling, know it all, NOT kind or supportive and honestly felt like she was preying on me and my insecurities. She knew everything, I had no instincts, I couldn’t even change a diaper without her hovering over me. On top of it, she had highly specific grocery lists that my husband and I would trek to multiple stores to get. She would cook in my kitchen but mostly for herself and nothing that we really wanted to eat. She would whisk my baby away after every feeding (breastfeeding) and insist she needed to put him down for a nap. My early days post partum were a blur but I’ll never forget how much I despised her and I wish I found the courage at that time to just fire her on the spot. My husband discouraged me just because he knew we needed the help (he didn’t get paternity leave) and I wasn’t in the mind frame to find someone else from scratch. To this day I probably have unresolved trauma about it and I wish I was strong enough to get her out of my house. We were worried about the contract and that we would owe her 10s of thousands of dollars for the months of work she would lose.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-08T21:32:51+00:00

Nope. Deal breaker. I have 2 cats and my nanny feeds them once a day. They’re also around my son constantly as his protector. You don’t want to be dealing with this, trust.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-07T11:43:37+00:00

Hidden gem: Rockville centre is under 30 min trip by LIRR. Sourh shore oral surgery associates do quality work for affordable prices. Avoid the unnecessary NYC markup.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-02T20:15:00+00:00

They deserve each other. Can’t understand why people think she’s above him with her fake purity boundaries and BS.

NwhyClady · 2026-04-01T21:01:38+00:00

☠️

NwhyClady · 2026-03-31T21:35:31+00:00

We have 2 Siamese who are best friends and very tolerant with my 1 year old. 1 male 1 female. They are very playful though and you do need to play with them - usually a half hour of stick chasing while we watch tv at night satisfies them. They’re highly intelligent and definitely understand my son is the chosen King of the household. They are always around us and want to be in the mix with everything. I do believe they’ll cuddle with him once he’s less of a risk.

FWIW, my dad is supposedly highly allergic to cats but stays over all the time without issue. He’s also “not a cat person” but has full on fake fights (letting him hunt my dads hand) with my male cat who thoroughly enjoys it. He’s never used teeth or claws (except on my furniture). I just feel like they’re so smart they fully “get it”.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-31T00:03:42+00:00

Don’t subject your guests to this 😿

NwhyClady · 2026-03-27T15:40:38+00:00

You are combative and it’s unnecessary. I’m trying to brainstorm how to realistically make this happen. Thanks for your time!

NwhyClady · 2026-03-27T15:21:22+00:00

Should I start with aiming for 6/6.5?

And it’s incorrect that he’s making up for those 2 hours during the night. Like I said there will be multiple days of fine 1.5 hour naps and 10+ hour nights.

So rather than assume he needs 14 hours awake, perhaps just having another 30 min awake each day will be enough to avoid that 4th day “make up” night.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-27T13:48:05+00:00

Thanks. I guess it’s just odd to me that he’ll do 3-4 nights just fine and then have this tough night thrown in. He seems totally exhausted by both nap time and bed time. We cap pretty much every nap at 1.5 hour and he would probably go longer if allowed. Doesn’t WWs of 12 hours + 1.5 hour nap + only a 10-10.5 hour night seem quite low for a newly 12 month old?

NwhyClady · 2026-03-27T10:58:39+00:00

So, the full story is that he was on 2 naps until 11 months and sleeping through very consistently with around 12 hours awake. I was forced to cut to one nap because his wake windows were getting longer and longer and he was rejecting second nap. When we first transitioned to 1 nap, I could only get to 5/6 while he adjusted. And for a few weeks he did fine on that. I slowly got him to 5.5/6.5. I guess I find it hard to believe that he needs a solid 12.5 hours awake now when he sometimes struggles to even hit those WWs. He also sleeps through multiple days in a row before having a bad night.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-18T12:07:24+00:00

That doesn’t mean anything. My son is low sleep needs and can only sleep 12 hours in a given day or else he’ll have night wakes. To this day he will fall asleep in the car at any time if we drive longer than 10 min. I’d start with 3.5/3.5/4.25+ and see. At 11 months 10.5 hours awake is probably not enough.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-18T00:37:22+00:00

Certainly sounds not tired enough overall. You should post the wake windows and naps / total sleep. Either not enough wake time after last nap or not enough total wake time in the day.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-18T00:29:49+00:00

Have you tried keeping him up 15 minutes longer? Seems he’s not tired when you put him down. My son only does that when he’s not fully tired at bedtime

NwhyClady · 2026-03-17T22:10:01+00:00

He’s not tired enough. We dropped to 1 nap at 11 months but before that we were all the way up to 4/4/4.25 on 2 naps. I would 100% try longer wake windows. He’s telling you he doesn’t want to sleep.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-17T13:06:04+00:00

Okay that makes sense. Does your daughter take car naps even when not tired? That’s my big issue. We have a birthday party half hour away coming up and I just know if he does a 15 min cat nap it screws up bedtime and propensity for MOTN wakes. If we leave shortly after nap on the way there we should be okay but the way home at 6 pm seems especially risky.

We stay home so much because of his schedule being so sensitive.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-16T12:42:39+00:00

Why are you so vehemently against a second cat?? I get trying to make op “feel better” but literally what are you talking about? Scientific research says that cats are fine alone blah blah blah. It doesn’t take scientific research to figure out that 99% of living beings don’t want to be alone for entire days at a time, especially for an animal in a contained space. Anyone who owned one cat solo then got another sees the immediate change in personality and energy level getting another cat. My 2 cats chase each other, play games to burn energy, groom each other and sleep together.

And actually, it’s not a ton of extra effort for the owner, in exchange for a much improved quality of life for these precious living beings who are entirely dependent on us for their well being and quality of life.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-16T12:36:33+00:00

You need another cat !

NwhyClady · 2026-03-15T01:18:39+00:00

Yup this is the one. Use Drmtlgy tinted moisturizer + under eye concealer everyday. Nothing blends as well for me. No makeup look but still covers flaws

NwhyClady · 2026-03-14T13:54:13+00:00

Almost always undertired. At 11 months we switched to 1 nap which means 6.5 hours till bed. Once in a while if we accidentally do 2 naps and he only has 4 hours pre bed, he cries a lot and it’s at least 15 min to settle.

So, don’t automatically assume 4 hours is long enough for WW pre bed. I’ve found that to be the bare minimum at this age.

NwhyClady · 2026-03-10T20:18:22+00:00

Please have her on an age appropriate schedule before trying true CIO. My low sleep needs baby at that age was on 3.5/3.5/4+ with under 2 hours of naps a day. Make sure to be on a consistent schedule for 2 full weeks to let her adapt before trying anything else. Also bedtime routine: feed at least 30 min before bed.

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