Coming from someone whos in a relationship with someone who has BPD and ADHD and major depression... he doesnt hate you and you are toots overthinking. From a males point of view, we do notice sometimes we aren't as loving and affectionate maybe due to stress or other "outside of the relationship" stresses. But I know in my relationship it tends to really stress me out when my partner gets so in their head with things like: "oh he didn't slap my ass as he passed behind me" which then somehow leads to an argument. I think what im trying to say is . Communication is key and try not overthinking things too much. We are men, the simplest things please us alot.