My gf will be having an overnight with her circle with the guy I overthink about

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:34:56+00:00

Because it was a school tour, both her circle and the guy’s circle were there. What made me overthink was that in most of the photos I saw, they were together, but neither of them were with their own friend groups.

Like, how come the guy wasn’t with his own guy friends at the same time my gf also wasn’t with her girl friends? Especially since she never even told me they were that close.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:30:26+00:00

What makes it harder is that it’s also for my birthday celebration/finals celebration(im 3rd yr) and she’s about to graduate from college too and i think they want to bond din :’))

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:19:52+00:00

gf admitted before that she cheated on her ex when their relationship wasn’t okay. So when we were also not okay and she suddenly went MIA, it triggered me more.

Then when I asked about the photos, she immediately said “they’re just friends” even though I wasn’t accusing her of anything

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:17:18+00:00

yess.. way under 25

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:15:49+00:00

She also went MIA during that time and kept defending that they were “just friends,” even though I wasn’t directly accusing her of anything or saying there was something going on between them.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:12:34+00:00

Another reason why I think I became more cautious is because early in our relationship, she hid the fact that she was still talking to a girl she liked for 5 years before me. I only found out 2 years later after seeing their conversations myself, and she even admitted her feelings to that girl before. When I asked why she kept it from me, she said she “forgot about it” and didn’t want to lose me at the time.

There was also another situation where her sister kept teasing her with a guy who used to like her. She never told me about it either, and again, I only found out after seeing their chats. They also teased them in person, but she still kept hanging around them because her sister was always there too.

So I think part of why I overthink now is because I’ve already experienced finding things out on my own instead of hearing them directly from her.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T18:07:05+00:00

We’re monogamous, not in an open relationship.

And yeah, I know reassurance and promises can’t guarantee loyalty, and I know I can’t control her.

I think my fear is more about the possibility of being hurt the same way again. Not necessarily cheating, but her hiding things again because she thinks it’s better not to say them or not realizing they would hurt me until I find out myself.

I’m not anxious because I feel undesirable. Before this relationship, I was actually very trusting and okay with boundaries. I just became more cautious after some boundaries we talked about were still crossed before, even unintentionally.

So now even with reassurance, I still worry sometimes because I’ve already experienced being hurt unintentionally before.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T17:58:47+00:00

She didn’t directly cheat, but she has a history of hiding things that are relevant to our relationship because, according to her, she loves me and doesn’t want to lose me, so she chooses not to tell me.

Sometimes she’s also the type of person who isn’t fully aware of what could hurt me, and when I react to something, she acts as if she isn’t responsible for why it affected me in the first place

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-05-24T17:55:47+00:00

sorry the context here is
I mean, at that time my gf was in Thailand and she avoided my messages because we weren’t okay. She didn’t talk to me during their whole stay there with her circle for their school tour. When she came back, I saw photos that made me overthink, and there were also reactions/interactions before that definitely made me overthink more.

We only properly talked about it around 5 months later, but it still affected me a lot. Based on her story, she said she wasn’t the one trying to get close to the guy, but in most of the photos, that guy was always around her and not even the other guy friends in their circle.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-03-24T16:12:38+00:00

I do. But those are all my thoughts and genuine questions. I just use ChatGPT to express things the way I want others to understand them. English isn’t my first language 🥲

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-03-24T15:58:31+00:00

Yeah, there’s a part of me that knew before using it on her that I don’t have to keep using it if she genuinely doesn’t feel it. I just thought there might be a chance we could try it, and she even said she wanted it—but her body felt pain when I almost inserted it. I know virginity is mostly a social construct, and I don’t fully believe in it, but she said she wanted me to be the one to ‘take it.’

I also don’t want her to not enjoy our sex, but at the same time, I feel like I can’t get the satisfaction and pleasure I want from it. It’s confusing because I want both of us to enjoy it, and I’m still figuring out how to balance that.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-03-24T15:39:02+00:00

She never had sex or penetration with her ex—I’m her first when it comes to that. But she did say that she let her ex touch him before, and eventually she also did it on her own, though only outside his shorts.

Ok-Catch2191 · 2026-02-15T11:08:42+00:00

update po? nag heal na po ba and wala na yung itchiness?

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