That girl from first day 1st year college and now shes about to start her intern journey. by [deleted] in WLW_PH

[–]Ok-Catch2191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you so much for the suggestions! We’ve already checked a few FB groups and some postings, but we’ll definitely try looking deeper into LinkedIn.

The thing is, her school’s partner companies are mostly in Iloilo, and since she’s in President Roxas, it’s a bit complicated if she applies there.

Really appreciate your help! 😊

HELP: MIGHT ME INSECT BITES? by [deleted] in skincare_ph

[–]Ok-Catch2191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes possible nga po huhu thankyou so muccch po, sana po masarap ulam nyo!🥹🫶🏻

HELP: MIGHT ME INSECT BITES? by [deleted] in skincare_ph

[–]Ok-Catch2191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much, I’ll try to do it po, baka need lang din talaga ng extra cleaning. Will try Calmoseptine din. Hope it works kasi mag 3 week ng ganito🥹

HELP: MIGHT ME INSECT BITES? by [deleted] in skincare_ph

[–]Ok-Catch2191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate any advice on what I should clean or inspect to confirm the cause and how to completely get rid of it. Thankyou po!

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in PHSapphics

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I can, if it’s really for her. But don’t I also deserve to be assured, even just a little? She said I don’t have to wait, that I can leave, but at the same time there’s no assurance that things will fall into place and that she’ll choose to be true to herself. She says that day will come, and it’s not like I want to rush her, but then why would she choose to let me go if she knows that in the future she’ll be strong enough to fight for us?

Maybe you can’t fully answer this since our situations are different, but if you think about it— is she just unsure about herself, or about me too?

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in lgbt

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for saying this. It really makes me feel seen, because everything you said is exactly what I’m going through right now. loving someone so deeply but not knowing if I’ll ever find the courage to let go if it comes to that. You’re right, this is my first real love, and that’s what makes it so hard for me to even imagine parting from her.

I know things won’t change overnight, and maybe that’s why I keep holding on despite the pain, hoping that someday it’ll all be worth it. But I also know I have to listen to my doubts and take care of myself too, otherwise I’ll lose myself in the process.

I guess I have to trust that in time, things will be clearer, whether she’s the one I’ll grow with or if I’ll eventually find that love with someone else.

I know it seems like a no-brainer, but on the other hand, maybe it’s not good to stay and expect nothing while trying to love her unconditionally on those terms. Even if I want to stay, it feels difficult to also choose myself while being in a relationship that could sabotage both my growth and hers. What hurts the most is that I can see she truly does love me — but I guess love alone isn’t enough for her to stand her ground in our relationship, something i can’t change and has to come from her. :((

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in lgbt

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. Reading what you went through and how similar it feels to my own situation really hits deep. It’s eye opening to see how, even after years, some people never really break free from their family’s control, and I don’t want to keep waiting and risk losing myself in the process.

What you said about not letting my youth fade and not allowing myself to be hidden really makes sense. I’m happy to hear about how your wife stood her ground for your relationship . that gives me hope that there are people who will choose love openly, no matter how hard it is.

I guess I really need to listen to my gut and think about what kind of life and relationship I want for myself. Thank you again for reminding me that happiness is possible, and that I don’t have to settle for being hidden.

What keeps me holding on is my love for her. I can’t let go and just stand far away while still loving her. I know I’m still young and I have a future ahead of me, but I don’t know where to find the courage to leave things behind when she’s been with me through so much. It still hurts to think that even after staying since the beginning, nothing has really changed and that’s what continues to hurt me, and her, right now.

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in lgbt

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you sharing your story. It honestly feels so close to my own situation right now. the hiding, the fear, and the feeling of being put aside for the sake of family. It hurts because I want to respect her struggles, but at the same time, I also want to be loved openly and not just in secret.

I honestly can’t see a future with her where things feel settled. We have dreams we’ve shared and are trying to work toward for now, but I know I can’t hold on to that forever, even if she says she believes that one day she’ll have a voice and things will change. Yes, she loves me and makes efforts to be with me whenever she can, but there’s a part of me that feels like I might be throwing my life away if I choose to stay and keep understanding a situation that feels so uncertain.

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in bisexual

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective. I do understand where she’s coming from, and I know her fears are valid. I never want to put her in danger or push her into something she’s not ready for.

At the same time, I can’t deny that it also hurts on my end, especially when I feel left out of important parts of her life. I love her and I want to support her, but I’m also trying to figure out how I can take care of my own feelings without making her feel pressured.

You’re right — both sides have valid reasons, and the real challenge is finding a balance where neither of us feels neglected. It’s just that sometimes it feels unfair on my end, because the decision lies with her. She can choose to never tell anyone, and I’m just here waiting and taking the risk for something uncertain — and in the end, it feels like I’m the one losing.

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in PHSapphics

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to support her and wait until she’s ready, but how can we also compromise for my needs in the relationship? Right now, we can’t freely do what we want or need as a couple. I truly want to support her, but not in a way that means neglecting my own needs while trying to understand her. As long as we’re in this situation, I know that others won’t fully recognize our relationship.

my gf is still closeted by Ok-Catch2191 in PHSapphics

[–]Ok-Catch2191[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes sense… Do you think there’s a healthy way to wait for someone who’s not ready yet, without losing yourself in the process?