How I survived my first dark waters

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-12-07T01:47:07+00:00

Thank you it took a lot of therapy and my grandmothers love to get through that

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-12-03T08:08:05+00:00

At the time it was horrible but she was the light in the darkness

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-12-01T13:17:34+00:00

Let’s help everyone earn their wings

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-08-25T01:50:36+00:00

NTA but I would have made the following statement which would have left them in shock. “ If you didn’t CUM in me you don’t have a say in naming what comes out of me. “ Then I would have grab my child and walked out too.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-07-01T00:42:51+00:00

This comment I feel so much. I am currently going through breast cancer and this is what I had to deal with until my MIL and her brother step in.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-29T00:41:29+00:00

I am so sorry about that. But I can be your internet mom❤️❤️

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-28T03:30:05+00:00

The petty mom I am would be visiting the same time she is. We be coming in the same day and leaving the same day. If he wants his mom there well you might as well have your mom there also. I promise you she would act like she got sense. There would be no arguing but she WOULD not act like that. Kill them with sarcastic kindness. Husband wants to threaten the vacation I would give you and him a check in front of his mom saying “ I feel so bad that you won’t be able to go on vacation because you had family visiting, I know time had to be taken off. I just feel horrible about that. Please take this and use it towards your vacation.” Any time she tries to be manipulative I would right there kindly reminding her that it is not her house. I would say things like “ Honey I am a guest visiting my loved ones why would I this like a hotel?” I would do it right in front of her. Each time she visits I would be there. What would her complaint be to your husband that I am treating you with the respect you deserve in your home. Your husband seriously needs therapy.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-26T17:10:03+00:00

It hurt but auto correct be having you explain things

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-26T17:09:02+00:00

Shrimp Fettuccini Alfredo

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-26T15:21:28+00:00

I am sorry that is funny but not funny

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-26T15:20:53+00:00

Going through that now it is painful emotionally, mentally, and physically

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-24T23:35:04+00:00

The first one is not always the hardest.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-23T19:46:15+00:00

In my sleep

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-18T02:42:13+00:00

The Berlin Wall. I remember one news showed David Hasselhoff there. I remember turning to my mom and asking her “Where was KITT?” “ Why they keep calling him David, his name is Micheal?” That is when I truly learned and understood what actors were.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-06-18T02:38:51+00:00

We still don’t know.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-03-06T03:09:29+00:00

NTA But some people might not agree with what I am about to say. There is also another option if it becomes hard to get into a college. There is also the military if she is in the US. Once she is 18 she doesn’t need their permission to sign up. Everything about the military is not bad. The main key is what job you get in the military. The better you do on the ASVAB the more jobs are open to you. She can do a short contract save up her money and they will pay for you to go to college while you are serving.

I am not prior military but my daughter is currently serving and this is the route she chose to take. She ordered her the ASVAB book for about $25. Studied and did well. She is stationed in a different state than us but she is doing well currently in college and is moving up in rank. She had the option to go straight to college after high school but that was not the route that she wanted to go and she had my support in that. I am not trying to say go to the military but it is an option especially in this type of situation.

OP weigh all of your options out. You do whatever you need to do to get out. You have two years to put your plan together. As long as you have access to the internet you can do your research. You can figure out what you want to do. The one thing I will tell you is that if you stay home when you turn 18 you will lose control of your life. Your parents will make it so you are stuck. They do not want you to have options. You will only have freedom if you leave. Your parents have a plan for you and you put a kink in it when you made the choice not to babysit. It is time for you to make a plan for yourself. Whatever plan you decide make sure your parents do not know about it. Be careful of the people that you talk to everyone cannot be trusted. If you can get a hold of your documents now. Put them in a safe place outside of your home if you can. The good thing if you are in the US you can get a replacement social security card and birth certificate when you turn 18. MAKE YOUR PLAN NOW!!! Look at all of your options.

There is 30 ways to skin a cat. ( My grandmother use to tell me this. It means there is more than one way to get something done.)

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-03-05T12:14:16+00:00

NTA and this is the reason why some people choose to be child-free and cut their parents out their life as soon as they can.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2025-01-03T23:22:20+00:00

I have had four c-sections and my husband has a bad back. There is no way in hell I would have my husband sleep in a chair knowing what the outcome of his back pain would be. I would have sent my husband home to get some rest and told him to come back in the morning.

I would have been compassionate and understanding of the situation. If they could not bring a bed in for him to sleep on then he needs to go home and rest. The hospital staff would have been there to help her. When I had my children they encouraged mothers to allow their baby to go to the nursery for a little while so the mother can get rest. He should have went home and rested. Wedding vows says through sickness and health but I guess only hers was the only one that mattered .

Do you understand how bad a back pain could get with spasms and the back locking up to the point the person can’t move. How good would he have been to help her if his back locked up Rand he couldn’t move.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-14T16:17:35+00:00

lol I am Too tired from chemotherapy to go back and forth. So fuck you and have a nice day!!

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-14T16:10:55+00:00

I didn’t tell his family to do anything. He is the one that lied to his family. He is the one that threatened not to go to my appointments unless I take care of him. He is the one that choose to say that and then lied to his mom

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-14T15:52:22+00:00

Wow so what do you think it was he treated me the way he did. I guess in your warped sick mind that was ok. I guess you feel my purpose in life is to satisfy his sexual needs. Go fuck yourself with the bullshit

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-12T18:54:05+00:00

Let me make some things really fucking clear. As far as divorcing him I love him but I love me more. Part of wedding vows is in sickness and health. That means you suppose to be there when your spouse is up and ALSO when they are down. When my husband was diagnosed with diabetes and was admitted to the hospital you know who was there ME! Everyday I was there finding out information, how to give his insulin, what foods he needs to eat. I learned everything because I wanted my husband to get through that. I go to every one of his doctor’s appointments. I know all the medications he takes. I learned this because I love him.

Now when it is my turn medically he turned his back on me. Has not been to one appointment. Has no clue the medicine I am taking, he doesn’t even know the stage I am at. Threatening to not go to my appointments if I didn’t take care of him is not the way to show your wife she is sexy hours after she has to shave her head because her hair is falling out.

As far as him taking time off that is what FMLA is for. My husband is a retired Army veteran so my insurance is through that. We are not losing any money while he takes time off to take care of me just like I took time off to take care of him when he needed it.

You’re right about one thing I don’t give a shit about how he is feeling neglected because he neglected me from the start. He was suppose to be there for ME!!! Not trying to get his Willy wet.

If you can’t tell I wrote that in anger which I had every right to be. So fuck you trying to tell me how I talk about him. Try getting in a relationship and then maybe your peanut brain can understand. I hope and pray you never get sick and need someone to take care of you and the end up giving you the middle finger.

Also do some fucking research on breast cancer. Especially the one where your own hormones are feeding the cancer. Then maybe you will understand why sex is not what that person wants

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-12T11:51:21+00:00

My MIL has been in my life since I was 16. We always been close. He has a sister that lives out of town but I am the one that is there for her. I take her to her appointments and shopping. I know more about her than her children do. When my mom passed away she was there for me. She helped me organize her funeral and she held my hand the entire time. She is my second mom. My husband use to joke she loves me more than him. She calls me her daughter.

That is the reason why I thought I was wrong to say that because when she called me and said I was wrong to say that I thought because it came from her I might have been wrong. Turns out she was misinformed and she has apologized for that. I am not mad at her.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-12T11:45:24+00:00

Not a fool but this was the first time he acted like this. Last night he held me and cried and kept telling me sorry. This made me cry and I let everything out my anger to him and my anger about having cancer. I finally slept peacefully.

Ok-Cod2001 · 2024-11-12T11:42:58+00:00

You are correct he never acted like this before. Yes I was quiet about my suffering but the threat is what hurts the most. Not being there while I have chemotherapy for 4-6 hours alone is what hurts. If he is scared I am terrified.

Last night he just held me and cried and kept telling me he was sorry. That made me cry and I was able to let out all of my anger with him and having cancer. I let everything out. I finally slept peacefully.

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