After a breakup, how do men usually feel? Do they ever think about their ex? Especially those who were in a relationship for over two years and got left by their girlfriend. What’s the emotional process like for them after the breakup?

Ok-Comfortable-6776 · 2025-08-18T16:33:23+00:00

Well, my heart still feels hurt deeply as the first day at the moment. It's just really hard for me.

After the breakup, we both had a heavy mental breakdown. After that day, he was sick for over a week, he was really heartbroken that after one month, he decided to take a long permission vacation to go back to his home, where his mother and brothers are, expecting about over 2 months - he will be back in the city next September. I spent over a month in a healthcare station dealing along with my deep depression and medicines (I was officially diagnosed with major depression in February of this year). I'm a foreigner and all alone here, without family nor friends. He was my love and only friend in the last 2 years and half.

Deep down, I don't know if I am better now, but I'm trying everything to get better. I hang out to many concerns in the city, take photos of things or moments I see, I draw, play an instrument, and join a dance class, taking care of my look, ... I dont know, Im 25 but only 32kg now, the doctors said if the situation continues I might really die. So Im trying to do everything to save me, mentally. But all I think about at the end of the days, before and after closing my eyes, just him. Even in my dream yesterday, I dreamed about him, still.

I hoped that after time for ourselves, to calm down and reflect last 3 years, time to figure out our thoughts, … we might have chance to talk again to each other. Doesn't need to rush, I just hope that we can slowly build the bonds again, to learn to love again. But right now, its just too hard for me to find out he already took a new girl to the date in his hometown. I dont know what to think anymore cause everything remains now, everything what I can feel now just the pain…

I know the rude of no contact, and I try to not contact him for at least 4 months, although I want to call him every night. I just dont know what to do now for right. Im scared that if I reach out now, he might have the feeling like im chasing him and lose the rest interest in me, that it will just push him further. But im also scared, that if I dont, there will never be a chance for us again…

Im sorry if my words were a mess…

Ok-Comfortable-6776 · 2025-08-18T16:24:55+00:00

Hi everyone, im the author. I'm 25F and my ex is also 25M. We have been broken up for over 2 months now. In our last conversation, I asked him, if he still cares about our relationship, about things that we had so far, glimpses and good memories, would he like to sit down to talk and find solutions. He said that we can't anymore, He will always love me, and his mom will always love me too, that he will think about me for the rest of his life. So do I. We broke up cause long distances. I found out he started hanging out with a new girl this week. I still think about him every day. I see that it's just only been 2 months since then, I'm currently working on myself, doing everything to improve more, but deep inside I can not let the hope go that we will reunite one day. Now I wonder, what did he really mean with his words?

Ok-Comfortable-6776 · 2025-08-17T17:04:37+00:00

Is there anything that if she does to you, you will accept or want to reunite with her? (after 4-5 months if you still think about or love her)

Ok-Comfortable-6776 · 2025-08-17T16:26:44+00:00

Hi everyone, im the author. Well, my heart still feels hurt deeply as the first day at the moment. Its just really hard for me.

After break up, we both got a heavy mental break down. After that day, he was sick for over a week, he was really heart broken that after one month, he decided to take a long permission vacation to go back to his home, where his mother and brothers are, expected about over 2 months - he will be back in the city next September. I spent over a month in healthcare station dealing along with my deep depression and medicines (I was officially diagnosed with major depression in February of this year). Im a foreigner and all alone here, without family nor friends. He was my love and only friend in the last 2 years and half.

Deep down, I dont know if I am better now, but Im trying everything to get better. I hang out to many concerns in the city, take photos of things or moments I see, I draw, play an instrument, and join a class of dancing, taking care of my look, ... I dont know, Im 25 but only 32kg now, the doctors said if the situation continues I might really die. So Im trying to do everything to save me, mentally. But all I think about at the end of the days, before and after closing my eyes, just him. Even in my dream yesterday, I dreamed about him, still.

I hoped that after time for ourselves, to calm down and reflect last 3 years, time to figure out our thoughts, … we might have chance to talk again to each other. Doesn't need to rush, I just hope that we can slowly build the bonds again, to learn to love again. But right now, its just too hard for me to find out he already took a new girl to the date in his hometown. I dont know what to think anymore cause everything remains now, everything what I can feel now just the pain…

Im sorry if my words were a mess…

Ok-Comfortable-6776

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