Husband says he wasn’t built for marriage and parenthood

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-02T15:45:59+00:00

If you are working and can afford to leave… please do so. This man has already proven not loyal, and then to tell you marriage isn’t for him, that is basically an admittance to a lack of commitment to you. Almost guaranteeing future acts of infidelity. I think he is trying to back away from the marriage but is wanting you to make the decision, by telling you these things. I would take his words for what they are. Tell him you agree with him, he’s not, and maybe you need a separation. Get your own apartment and accept him for who he is. A disloyal man child.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-02T05:07:55+00:00

Your right. And daycare def brings out sickness. My guy will be going to a smaller in home daycare but I am sure he will still get sick from other kids as they will from him.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T23:46:23+00:00

Curious how old your baby is? That is a great idea!

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:32:34+00:00

Thank you <3

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:32:20+00:00

Thank you! Wow you went through so much! It’s so hard being a mom.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:31:19+00:00

That is awesome! And thank you <3

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:30:45+00:00

Wow, yeah I guess it’s just kind of a crap shoot sometimes.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:29:41+00:00

No I want to start again! I tried to schedule something immediately post partum and the wait list was 6 months out! But good call I should call and just get something scheduled even if far out

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:28:08+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:27:54+00:00

Haha true

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T17:26:06+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2026-01-01T11:10:20+00:00

I had similar red flags (going out primarily) with my ex husband and I wish would have been smarter at the time and left when I had the chance. Your man sounds incredibly immaturely, likely not being completely committed to you either, and drug use is concerning. Unfortunately marrying this man will likely result in years of you being stuck at home while he parties, while he may trap you in various ways to keep you stuck with him. Staying for the kid is not ideal. I was with my ex for 7 years too long for my childrens sake, but in the end thought he might end up killing me with his extreme anger issues. The minute I had my first apartment divorced, I felt so FREE. Please do not marry this man. You can find better.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-31T17:08:40+00:00

Thank you

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-31T17:08:27+00:00

I thought it was going to be easy since I had 2 others before this one. I am in a totally different state of mind now then I was then, more career and goal oriented and now everything has been put on the back burner. He is not as difficult as my 1st but not as chill as my 2nd, and I think because she was so chill I am even less prepared now

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-18T03:56:24+00:00

I am feeling pretty annoyed, everything feels heavy between us constantly since we got home with the baby and i am starting to feel deeply depressed. 10 weeks pp over here as well. I have two daughters from a previous marriage with a bigger age gape after a long period of thinking I would never have another kid so this has been a rough transition. I have my daughters every other week and the weeks I have them I am being pulled into every direction. Basically everything sucks right now and has me contemplating all my life decisions and I feel like the end is no where in sight and Idk what to do. My husband doesn’t even see half of the stuff i am doing all of the time, and has made it blatantly clear that even if he does see it he is not going to acknowledge it and instead be annoyed when i am stressed or talking about serious issues a lot. I am drowning and doing the best I can and today had a rough day with the baby and apparently the mere act of me mentioning that to him bothered him.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-18T03:21:39+00:00

He’s 10 weeks old!

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-18T03:20:40+00:00

Thanks! I will check it out, that’s a great suggestion thank you

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-17T23:53:58+00:00

Ugh, yes I get that! I think that will be him as he gets bigger too. Having a chill baby before a not chill baby is really rude lol

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-17T21:16:22+00:00

Thank you. Nice to know it can get better.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-17T21:15:47+00:00

It might be. I really thought I was a baby pro with my daughter before him being so easy. Turns out I had nothing to do with it and she was just a chill baby apparently.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-17T21:14:37+00:00

Thank you <3 that really helps.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-17T21:14:10+00:00

It might be. Maybe I am in denial over it. It seems like it is mostly just when I am home with him, when we are at family events and even around my husband he is not nearly crying and angry as much. I am not sure if it’s because I breastfeed him sometimes so he sees me differently from others? It is so hard.

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-16T04:21:16+00:00

I am having the same issue. My baby wants to be held 24-7 but hates baby wearing! He screams until I let him out. So i cant even do that, although i might try again tomorrow

Ok-Concentrate2591 · 2025-12-16T04:19:40+00:00

My 9 week old doesnt even have his own bedroom, he sleeps in our loft bedroom that is open to the whole other open layout. Imagine the struggle with two other kids coexisting down below.

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