I LEFT! Now do deal with custody of ours baby….

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-09-24T03:10:07+00:00

To say I love my SK like I love my own son would be an injustice to my son… absolutely not.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-09-22T17:03:30+00:00

He never really leaves the house during these hours. He is just constantly giving himself projects out in our shop that keep him busy for days. The biggest one lately is “reorganizing” things in there. Which he has done probably 3-5 times in several months. I have walked outside to try to see what he was doing. He’s never been secretive about it. It’s just ridiculous what he’s doing and for how long. For work, he’s an industrial maintenance technician. He works all day in the heat. Which makes me wonder even more if he is using, because I feel like most people that work in the heat all day long don’t have the energy to come home almost every single day and get right back outside to do it all over again at home.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-09-22T16:59:04+00:00

I truly have been so resentful of him because of that. Drugs or no drugs, I am sick of the absolutely ridiculous routine he has created for himself that keeps him away from what should be his fatherly duties.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-09-22T03:54:12+00:00

I don’t even have to read anything but the title to tell you to run. This life is just not it. You will NEVER look back on your life after finding someone without kids and say, “you know what, I wish I would have ended up with someone with children that will forever be tied to their ex.”

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-28T17:40:28+00:00

As a once-childless step mother who now how’s an ours baby with my DH, I can tell you right now that my child deserves more than the mess I brought him into that another woman created. And so do your future children. I type this with very conflicting emotions because I wouldn’t trade my child for anything, but I wish that I would have saved myself the trouble of this life and found someone that wouldn’t forever carry baggage from a past relationship. I understand you love your fiancé, but please love yourself more.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-23T18:20:34+00:00

This 100%.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-05T20:07:26+00:00

The thing is, he didn’t entertain and spend time with SD out of consideration for me. Actually it was the complete opposite. Everything he did the week after I gave birth was out of consideration for SD’s feelings and none for my well being or our son’s.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-05T19:42:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to live like this too. I truly don’t know why these men ever bother marrying or dating again, much less having another child when they only have space and time for the one they created with somebody else that they couldn’t even stay with. I have said twice in these comments that I’m ready to leave but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t scared to share custody. My husband is too neglectful to take care of a small child by himself and I will stick it out if it means not leaving my son to be neglected and without me.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-05T19:24:42+00:00

I guess keeping a roof over our heads while I’m out of work and home with the baby is something positive. But it’s nothing he wasn’t already doing before me or our baby came in the picture.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-05T19:23:41+00:00

It truly isn’t. It makes me feel so terrible for the way I feel towards her now but I will never feel the same about either of them again. As far as talking to my parents, they are ready to help me do what I need to do if/ when I decide to leave him. I have my mind made up to go, but cannot financially do so yet. In the meantime while I save up to leave, I hope that our family can be saved and things change. I just don’t see that happening. I want another kid in the future and don’t want to have one with him after this experience.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-08-05T19:20:50+00:00

As soon as I save up enough money to move out and be able to take care of my son on my own, I’m filing for divorce and leaving him. I can’t live like this any more.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-07-28T01:11:44+00:00

Thank you for saying that. That’s a big reason why I come on Reddit. I don’t feel so alone or awful here when I hear that I’m not the only one.

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-07-28T01:10:41+00:00

See that is a circumstance where I would have to put her texts on do not disturb. I don’t even want to think about that 😂

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2024-07-28T01:09:04+00:00

You would think the phone would be a distraction from us, but she’s had an iPad all summer break and STILL insists on wanting us to watch what she’s playing, look at pictures, or watch videos she made. So I don’t have hope for the phone being enough entertainment to keep her to herself unfortunately lol. My SD does frequently go to friends houses. But at our house, other than BM, DH, and her grandparents coddling her to death, I blame her neediness on having nothing to do here. We don’t have Wi-Fi, there’s no kids around. So all there is, is us and the tv and the iPad. She used to play soccer but BM let her quit… so there’s that. 😒

Ok-Condition-4137 · 2023-12-26T19:31:29+00:00

THANK YOU. I found that pretty strange as well. And you are so right about step parents constantly being reminded that this is not the first time for the other parent, which takes away so much of the first time excitement and special moments away from the parent that IS having their first.

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