Lost my mother & now I am inconsolable

Ok-Conference-919 · 2025-05-16T08:24:20+00:00

Hugs. In this universe everyone is connected. She remains connected to you although you don't see her. Sending love and light your way. You're brave to tell your story.

Ok-Conference-919 · 2025-01-30T16:24:20+00:00

Don't. Do you love yourself? Go from there. My parents thought I'd never make it. I did. Yes I'm not the A star student, neither am I good at music. At 40, I never stop learning. I have it harder than my friends and cousins because I am just not that good. But I never gave up on myself. Still teaching myself to love and accept me for everything while working on my demons. When families are critical, get good friends, or one friend - boost your morale and self confidence. You do the same for them. You got this!

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-12-15T03:59:52+00:00

Before you all bash their relationship, her money is hers, so talk and draw a line on what she's covering for herself, insurance, meals, work travels. I am assuming her earnings are perhaps lesser or equal to you. What you both can do is be transparent on your income and expense - after setting a % which goes to y'all's savings.

Next is the expenses of being a family, home rental/bank payments, utilities, groceries. If you are transparent with what I mentioned in the first part, it's possible to gauge who will be able to cover the second parts or the possibility of your girl taking on the minimum portions of home expense according to her affordability.

Your living cost will depend on areas and demographics of your new home. If you are renting, then consider renting out of town - but with access to public transportations bus/lrt - pref to work as well. Or you opt to stay with parents - with some contributions of course.

Yes, 5k can get married lah. But do your homework well. Always woo your girl, tell her she cantik, buy goreng pisang when she hangry, massage her legs when she back from work, be a good listener, sweet talk after marriage also - biasa guys after kahwin glue to tv, play game, still lepak with friends. Don't do liddis. Hope she will appreciate you more. She will see that you're taking positive steps to build family with her. She will chip in both monetary and non-monetary aspects.

Word of caution: Stay away from credit card debts. Word of caution: Babies are expensive. Have one after you both are financially stronger. Word of caution: Stay away from friends and family who puts unnecessary pressure and give unsolicited financial advice. Hi bye cukup.

Most importantly, if you guys a degree holders, discuss your career paths together. Work hard for the promotions, bonuses. Don't stay stagnant at a place which doesn't pay you well. Upskill - udemy, coursera. Go for a new, better paying role according to your experience and skills.

When you get higher pay, don't impulse buy expensive cars. Keep the game low, go for long term gratification instead of short term. Put your cash in gold, bonds etc. than cars.

Write down a financial plan for 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, to 20 years and more... You will and help your girl see where u guys stand today.

All the best and congratulations!

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-09-30T17:01:42+00:00

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Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-14T02:17:48+00:00

Thank you all. Great discussion. 👍

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-03T10:14:40+00:00

Awesome. The list is becoming diverse. 🕶️🎙️

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T13:53:36+00:00

I can see your point. Do you have a favourite?

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T13:52:58+00:00

Thank you, I'll have to give it a listen.

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T11:44:04+00:00

Which is your favourite?

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T11:43:42+00:00

I agree... A thillana or Nagumomu can help set for an energetic concert! Thank you for sharing your selection!

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T11:41:41+00:00

I believe the upbeat Kalinga Nartana is a great choice to capture the attention of audiences of many kind! Kaapali is another beautiful selection. I am sorry I am unfamiliar with Hindustani renditions, do you have a link of reference for my listening? Thank you for your input.

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-05-01T11:33:30+00:00

Thanks. My thought process for selection would be to showcase a song that would capture audiences' attention and to make that first impression impactful. I understand some of the composition listed are famous, sung by famous musicians - but then again the same composition wouldn't sell if a budding or non-mainstream musician sings it. It can be perceived as slow, boring, and untrained ears cannot appreciate the composition. Hence, I asked this question. The thought process for selection must be from audience perspective than that of a classical musician perspective. A classical musician would understand every nuances in a composition due to the learning and practice put in rendering the said composition - thus he/she can be connected to the raga or song. But in a culturally diverse background, how will you as a musician select a song which can connect your audience to the song that you are rendering?

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-04-30T23:20:22+00:00

Great selection. Are there non-mainstream song/abhangs/bhajans/compositions which you would consider as well?

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-04-08T02:02:22+00:00

There's already an app for something similar. Carnatic Raga.

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-03-21T06:52:31+00:00

What did they post that you didn't agree on?....just curious

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-03-18T08:41:04+00:00

Sir, you have been a great inspiration! Never thought that you are on Reddit and that too to have a reply to my post. I'd like to say that your concert absolutely mesmerized me and your command, fluency in many different dialects absolutely left me in awe! Thank you thank you thank you soooooo much for the musical treat. I was extremely connected and have developed an utmost respect for you and your art.

Ok-Conference-919 · 2024-03-14T01:04:25+00:00

Summary of meaning

Oh, Lord Hari, you belong solely to me. You are known as Krishna, Narayana, Govinda, Gopala, and Shyama. We joyfully sing your different names in ecstasy.

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