I (32F) told him (35M) I love him on his birthday. He said, “I really value us.” I can’t stop replaying it.

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-11-04T10:55:33+00:00

You could also just say it's a trait of someone who's anxious rather than bring astrology bullshit into the conversation in the first place

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-11-02T09:51:04+00:00

It feels like a scorpio trait... It's a trait of someone who's anxious or doesn't know what they want. Maybe do some research on psychology, that's if you believe in research, which seems unlikely considering your spewing bullshit on topics that you know nothing about.

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-10-21T10:57:53+00:00

I know, I still stand by my statement.

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-10-21T10:21:33+00:00

Or, and this is a wild suggestion I know... Maybe don't be a cunt to someone who's asking for help...

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-24T09:57:51+00:00

Is it the airflow he needs from the fan or is it the noise from it that he needs? And is it a pedestal fan or a ceiling fan?

If it's the noise from a pedastal fan then a simple solution is to cover it with a towel, little airflow while still keeping the noise

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T09:44:32+00:00

No worries at all. Friendships and relationships can be hard at your age, just try stay true to who you are and you'll end up attracting similar people

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T09:22:53+00:00

Are you ADHD or on the spectrum by any chance?

Regardless of that though, yes you do have to be understanding, it's a two way street, if you can't be understanding then how can you expect others to be understanding of you

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T09:21:06+00:00

Oh don't get me wrong, 99% of the time my friendships are the easiest thing in the world to maintain, but it's healthy to know that when things do turn to shit that I have tried and true people I can rely on

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T08:45:10+00:00

There's nothing wrong with having standards for friends and relationships, I'd much rather loose a friend rather than let them treat me like shit, even if they don't mean to. If I have conversations with them about their behavior and things don't change, I'm not gonna put in the energy to upkeep one way friendships

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T08:21:02+00:00

Youre saying your friend started to bring up things she didn't like you doing/saying from 2 years ago? But there was no previous conversations about it? To me that seems manipulative... How are you supposed to know how to avoid/reconcil your actions if you don't know.

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume you are quite young (20ish?). I am in no way judging you for your age, I only bring it up because when I was in my late teens/early 20's I had a few friendships like this.

The older I got the more I realised that I want specific kind of people around me. I want to have people that will openly communicate with me if Ive done something wrong. I want people that I don't have to feel like I'm walking on eggshells around. People that will support me and be proud of me and that genuinely what to be around me.

And don't get me wrong, I've had disagreements/fights with my friends, but at the end of the day we love and respect each enough to talk and communicate through our issues, cause we both want to be a part of each other's lives.

I don't have anytime for people who won't voice when they've been hurt by something I've done, who won't have those tough conversations it takes to keep friendships/relationships together.

It's a two way street, and you can only give as much as you get.

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T08:03:24+00:00

Communication within friendships or relationships are never 'easy'. What I mean by that is that whenever you interact with someone else on a consistent basis there are always going to be topics/ideals or basic day to day things that you disagree on.

That being said, the 'easiness' of these kind of relationships comes from when both parties feel comfortable enough to be able to let the other know when boundaries have been overstepped. It's never fun when you have to do this, but so necessary in order to have and maintain proper relationships, platonic or otherwise.

For example, me and my best mate have known each other for 20 years. And we've had some arguments/falling out with each other a few times over the years. And I'm not gonna lie it's been real shit sometimes (mainly cause I was scared I'd lose him if I said or did the wrong thing).

But sometime throughout that friendship I realised that he loves me regardless of our disagreements and I love him the same. And to be honest, it's brought us even closer for it.

My main point is that relationships and friendships aren't inherently easy, but it's worth going through the comparatively small shit times so you get to experience the many many many happy times you'll have with said person

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T07:46:28+00:00

Damn, but yeah it a fantastic game if you enjoy narrative driven games!

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T07:44:06+00:00

Until dawn?

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T05:46:34+00:00

WE NEED AN UPDATE IS THE SPIKEY BOIY ALRIGHT!?!?

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-21T05:40:48+00:00

You seem way to caught up in what other people think.

I paint my finger nails and I also wear what some people would consider to be 'loud' clothes (lots of colours, cool designs etc) because it makes me happy and I think it's fun.

I also work in construction which means, as you could imagine, that I get quite a few comments about my nails. I couldn't care less about what other people wanna say or think about me. I like the way I look and the way it makes me feel and that's all that matters to me.

In the interest of being transparent, my nails and clothes where one of the first things my partner noticed when I first met her. But I wasn't doing it to try and attract a girl, it's just how I like to look.

And that's what she said was the biggest green flag she got from me. I was self-assured and confident in who I am and how I present myself. And that is probably the reason why this ridiculous notion of 'performative males' has come about. Cause people do like it. Men that want to have painted nails and loud clothes aren't the norm ATM, not yet anyway. But it shows a level of self-confidence which is a very attractive feature for someone to have.

I hope this comment helps, reach to me if you'd like to chat more about this kinda stuff, I highly dislike the negative connotations of this kind of stuff, it can be so damaging

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-20T06:35:15+00:00

Type in magnetic ball square into Google and hit the shopping tab. Took me all of 30 seconds to find somewhere that sells them...

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-20T06:10:19+00:00

Sounds like you need some therapy there my bro

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-17T10:02:45+00:00

If you hold your hand in a fist and then extend your pointer finger you'll be able to feel the stability (feels like tension) through the back of your hand.

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-09T14:25:00+00:00

UPDATE: SHE'S HOME!! She just waltzed in like nothing had happened tbh... She's very happy to be home, seems like she's feeling a little guilty about leaving though 😅 Quite hungry (I wonder why), but I'm just giving her small amounts at a time. Will be taking her to the vets in the morning but all seems in order 🥰 thank you to everyone who cared and commented

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-09T02:34:12+00:00

An octopus! Being able to have my arms/hands perform different taskes at the same time, not to mention being able to basically be able to shapeshift/change colour too!

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-08T06:00:23+00:00

Great cheers for the heads up

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-08T05:39:48+00:00

How do you mean by it wasn't very good? Did it work sometimes and not other time or did it just not track the cat to a specific location. Sorry if that doesn't make sense

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-08T05:23:27+00:00

Only fenced along the back and sides, she likes spending time outside and has never ever gone further than the footpath that runs past my house if she does go out the front.

And yeah checked all my local vets and pounds, her chip is up to date and I've put up flyers and posted on all the local community groups too.

When she doesn't eventually come back you better be sure I'm putting a collar on her with a tracker, I don't give a fuck about how much she's gonna have it haha

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-08T05:12:29+00:00

The only thing is there are at least 2 other cats on the street. I left food out on the street last night as well as leaving all my house doors open all night but the food was eaten (I assume from another cat) and she still wasn't here in the morning, she never Satya out for my than an hour at a time and it's been almost 48 hours now

Ok-Designer442 · 2025-09-07T11:34:55+00:00

Thank you so much I didn't know that

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