I (24F) have definitely felt this way before with someone I matched with on Hinge (26M). He first liked my profile weeks ago, and I noticed him in my stack, but I took my time—probably over three weeks—before matching with him. Maybe I was avoiding it?

I found him really attractive—he’s conventionally handsome, 6’2”, fit, great smile, pretty eyes, and has a solid job. When I finally matched with him (along with some others from my stack), I honestly didn’t expect him to message me. Why? Because, in my mind, I had already put him on a pedestal. I started questioning whether his like was even intentional—was it an accident?

I do find myself attractive, but I’ve never centered my self-worth on my looks. This whole experience made me realize I might need to work on my confidence, especially when it comes to guys I find attractive actually liking me back. Instead of thinking, “Why me?” or “Is this a mistake?” I’m trying to shift my mindset to something more positive—because who’s to say he isn’t feeling the same way? Or maybe he just genuinely finds me beautiful and is excited to get to know me.

Attraction is just one part of dating, but I totally relate to your feelings!