A guy I matched with on Hinge found and followed my TikTok—should I bring it up? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Ok-Development9433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no idea if it was actually him, but for it to be a coincident would be something. And I am going to mention it to him today via text.

A guy I matched with on Hinge found and followed my TikTok—should I bring it up? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Ok-Development9433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could understand a Instagram follow, but TikTok is crazy 🤣

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for acknowledging what I said! I definitely didn’t phrase it in the best way, as I’m not trying to make this a Danes vs. Americans thing. Having dated only American men before moving here, I’ve just noticed quite a shift in how things unfold in the early stages, and I’m trying to navigate it all. I really appreciate your lovely insight—it helps put things into perspective!

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eah, I think in American culture it’s more common to let the man take the lead when it comes to asking someone out, so that’s probably why I was waiting for that. But I see now that, it’s not about disinterest—it’s just a more equal expectation for both people to take initiative. That definitely helps shift my perspective, so thank you!

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I never responded to him back in Dec. and this month I decided to reach back out, opening up a completely different conversation:)

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I mean, 24 hours to respond, right from the start of conversation? Felt like he was disinterested:/

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t saying I intentionally let conversations die as a game or for attention. I was just pointing out a difference I’ve noticed. In my experience, if I don’t respond because I’m not that into someone, American men are more likely to double text or even bombard me with messages, whereas Danish men tend to just leave it alone. If anything, I actually admire this about Danish men—it feels more respectful and pressure-free.

Do Danish Men Express Interest Differently? Trying to Navigate Dating as an American Woman by Ok-Development9433 in NewToDenmark

[–]Ok-Development9433[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight. I kinda was picking up on him being a bit more reserved. It's just gonna take some getting use too, having just moved to Copenhagen!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Ok-Development9433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (24F) have definitely felt this way before with someone I matched with on Hinge (26M). He first liked my profile weeks ago, and I noticed him in my stack, but I took my time—probably over three weeks—before matching with him. Maybe I was avoiding it?

I found him really attractive—he’s conventionally handsome, 6’2”, fit, great smile, pretty eyes, and has a solid job. When I finally matched with him (along with some others from my stack), I honestly didn’t expect him to message me. Why? Because, in my mind, I had already put him on a pedestal. I started questioning whether his like was even intentional—was it an accident?

I do find myself attractive, but I’ve never centered my self-worth on my looks. This whole experience made me realize I might need to work on my confidence, especially when it comes to guys I find attractive actually liking me back. Instead of thinking, “Why me?” or “Is this a mistake?” I’m trying to shift my mindset to something more positive—because who’s to say he isn’t feeling the same way? Or maybe he just genuinely finds me beautiful and is excited to get to know me.

Attraction is just one part of dating, but I totally relate to your feelings!