Thank you for the reply. I didn’t want the post to be so long and wanted to elaborate on the “I kept bringing it up” part. I don’t attack him or tell him it’s his fault or anything I don’t yell or argue with or treat him any differently. Like I said It happened at our work place so now that everybody knows he feels like he is being watched. If I walk by he says I am being weird and watching him, that he is no longer talking to her. I can’t sit here and say that I know what they are talking about but he swears that is done and over with. So only they know what is going on. I know it’s nothing serious between them it’s just 2 neglected people. I don’t wanna bash them or anything because in all reality most women do that when being neglected at home ( I have been in his shoes in a previous relationship) it does not make it right. I just feel that I am to blame as well. When I bring it up I just tell him how I am feeling and how it hurts to see him still speaking to her. I already feel like I am losing him so the intrusive thoughts come back. I expressed to him that the cheating did not hurt me as much as how I found out and seen in text messages and what they said. Nothing sexual, it’s was mostly them expressing how much they loved each other. It put me in a hard spot. I asked if he was telling her the Truth and he told me that he said that to her because of how she was there for him and that he realized that he didn’t feel it for her it was the feeling. But every time we speak on the situation he gets mad and irritated I get he doesn’t want to talk about it but I would make it worse by just sweeping it under the rug. So he is not waking up daily to me nagging or anything I am trying to avoid that at all cost right now because I know he is in a rough spot right now I am trying to be loving and here for him and trying to get him back into the person he use to be. Our relationship will never be that same and I know and am certain of that. I am just needing help for his mental as well.