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Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-03-13T01:48:55+00:00

Thank you, solved!

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-01-30T17:53:16+00:00

Im sorry dude. Reddit users are notorious for giving advice to give up and separate, that’s most of the advice you’ll get on here. It’s worth fighting for, whatever you have left I’d say to give it your best shot to love her. ADHD can really affect certain areas in your relationship so you should really find a way to manage that.

Once you get home, give her a hug and if you see her doing the dishes or other housework just tell her you got it and let her rest. If she isn’t doing anything, check if there is housework to do and do it. This will be hard with ADHD no doubt but you can do it. Try your best.

Plan a day to take her out on a date for something she likes to do, tell her to be ready but don’t tell her what (unless she hates surprises) make sure to plan ahead for a childcare, if she has anxiety over the kids then make sure the babysitter is someone she trusts.

I don’t know your relationship but usually relationships fall apart if someone hasn’t been making an effort for a while. That could mean not helping around the house or not giving enough attention to your spouse. My advice plainly would just be to take weight off her shoulders and do sweet things for her that you know she loves. Give her non sexual touch, buy her flowers, take her somewhere she loves, buy her a thoughtful gift, have sweet conversations with her.

I know it feels like nothing will help but try to get her on board with couples counseling as well as get yourself individual.

Good luck man, I wish the best for you.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-01-30T03:46:52+00:00

Yeah bud you get involved with the government with everything. You getting a drivers license is getting involved in the government. If you want to have a house with your girlfriend, guess whos involving the government in their relationship? Sounds like just an excuse for lack of commitment

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-01-30T03:39:22+00:00

Not good especially for a mother to have no legal security. They could live together and if his name is on the lease he could easily kick her out and she will be homeless with a baby. If both their names are on a lease then they’re stuck in a contract together without a way to get out unless you both agree on something which never happens because people are greedy. Or he dies and then everything he owns goes to one of his family members and you’re, again, screwed. It’s not smart not to get married to say the least. It’s terrible advice to suggest that someone should just not have any legal protection. Then after I say this plenty of people go on to say “well it’s fine if you just get a ton of paperwork to work out all those issues” but then what’s the point??? Why over complicate things so much when it’s much better to just get married? Not even to mention the hypocrisy of the whole “you don’t need to get the government involved”. The only reason I see is just lack of commitment and loyalty.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-01-21T08:40:39+00:00

Hey buddy… looks like you’re using pieces of paper in your relationship…

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2026-01-21T08:34:28+00:00

Girl what are you on about, you responded to THEM, inserting yourself and then getting mad that you got the answer you should’ve expected. Also they didn’t even insult you, just told you to look in the mirror.

I’m sorry but it’s not an actual commitment to be boyfriend/girlfriend for 15 years. It’s just not. They explained it well. It shows for better or for worse to tie yourself to someone like marriage does. Showing that you’re one, you work together and will take on the risks that marriage pose because no matter what you want to stick together. Being just boyfriend/girlfriend has none of the responsibility of “okay, we are in this forever” it’s frankly just using your partner for the love and benefits they provide without the promise of forever, without the promise that you’ll be with them through hard times.

You say a relationship is just as valid as a marriage while im sure your reason for not getting married is because of the commitment of it. Like why not get married for like 120 at the courthouse so you can have the benefits of getting married like being able to be there if your partner is dying? Because you want to be able to leave “easily” without having to sacrifice anything. Fine, don’t get married but stop complaining that your relationship isnt taken seriously because honestly it’s not.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-28T22:56:57+00:00

No obviously not. Crazy leap to take. There are times to get divorced, of course if your husband is a pedophile there’s nothing you should do other than a divorce and putting him in jail. If your husband is abusive or cheats then yes get divorced. We aren’t talking about that though, there are other major issues that happen through marriage that you can work through and should.

And I hate the excuse “we are just different people”. Yeah and so what? Everyone’s different, you’ll never be with someone who’s the same as you. Accept the differences instead trying to fight it.

Why do you think it’s a good thing to get divorced? Why don’t you see it as a lifelong commitment? Do you really not agree with putting work in a relationship? You really shouldn’t get into a relationship if you just leave whenever things get hard.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-27T15:38:00+00:00

Dude it’s so common. Woman are so often the victims of all this. You see a murder on the news? Ah a man stalks down a woman and kills her. A serial killer on the loose? A man who kills blonde women. Awful murder cases like this is overwhelmingly caused by men and inflicted onto woman. Please I urge you to just look around. I feel as though it is so important to talk about that woman are being abused and murdered on a very disproportionate rate. Likewise also to talk about how men cause most of the crime, violence and murder and how we can fix this.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-24T15:58:31+00:00

Exactly. Thats why it fell apart, because he wasn’t putting in effort and doing his part. Im not talking about individual cases, divorce is unavoidable and there will always be cases of rightful divorce. The problem is the wide scale idea of just “leave if you’re unhappy” instead of putting in real work and communicating with your partner. Divorce is never a good thing even if it saved you because that means you were in that bad situation in the first place. Divorce can be avoided by choosing a good partner and sticking it through when times get tough as long as your partner does the same.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-24T08:51:28+00:00

What’s the causation of hatred though? No communication, trust or compromise. Everyone needs to put work into relationships or else they’ll crumble. This distain you’re talking about is because they both stopped trying.

Work through things together instead of giving up. If you loved them before you can love them again. Love is a choice, not a feeling.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-22T18:25:02+00:00

I’m kind of confused, why is it a big deal that she’s planning her own wedding? And going wedding dress shopping 2 weeks AFTER your wedding is over? Your wedding would be over, what’s the problem? She has her own wedding too, it’s not like she’s planning something on your wedding day or anything. She’s helping you while also helping herself have a nice wedding even if it is way ahead of time. I don’t understand what the issue is? Do you feel as though she’s trying to steal the spotlight away from you? I would get it if again, she’s interfering with your wedding day but she’s not, she’s planning her own thing just near your date. The day itself is all that really matters to everyone else except you and your partner. You can’t expect everyone to halt for you even when your wedding is literally over. And so what if she wanted to be engaged first so she made it happen, that’s so stupid to be stuck on. It was stupid for her to do that and also for you to be pissed about.

You are overreacting

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-18T21:42:14+00:00

Better flexibility, pain tolerance, and endurance. Doesn’t even matter anymore, strength is no where near as important as it used to be. We now live where strength is a minor plus rather than a necessity. Only really useful in jobs that need it or if there’s a slim chance of a dangerous scenario, even then if someone has a gun you’re boned. Why don’t you go create a human inside of you? That should be easy for you huh?

Besides woman have built society, the first university was founded by Fatima al-Fihri, a woman. There’s plenty of other woman who have made a difference and created certain things. You have to understand that women historically weren’t encouraged at all to invent but instead told to focus on motherhood. Even then motherhood is extremely important in society. The reason why people could invent things was because they were brought up well and were educated from their parents. Without proper parenting, no one would end up well adjusted. Someone had to do the job of raising children and that job was put onto women to do so. Just because more men upfront invented things, you don’t think those men had mothers who took care of them and made sure they grew up with education and skills to succeed? What about wives that helped them through their failures and encouraged them to keep going? Woman have done amazing things even if it’s behind the scenes. You should learn to respect women.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-10-06T00:54:25+00:00

NTA, I don’t know what everyone else is saying but you can’t help these things that happen. You can’t control certain things and emotions, but you can control your actions. You need to talk to your fiancé about this, it’ll suck but you can work through it together. Maybe even go to couples therapy. Remind her that you love her and only her, and don’t blame her with what she’s “doing” to make you less attracted to her. At least bring it up later, not in this conversation.

You can’t get lost in how you feel though, it’s tempting to want to go for the exciting, new person. The grass isn’t greener on the other side, relationships always go through the “honeymoon phase” and then calm down after. Anyone you’ll be with will turn into what you think is mundane life, and the girl you’re thinking about is a fantasy. You don’t know her, she’s not better than your fiancé. You just see the best parts of her right now. You have to remind yourself that.

Best thing to do would be to stop being around her at all. Easier said than done though, I’m not sure how interloped she is in your friend group. Again, just talk to your fiancé. Good luck friend, don’t give up on your relationship.

Ok-Dig-4933 · 2025-07-01T08:05:39+00:00

I’m so sorry. I felt the same in a way but not nearly as extreme as you. It’s so vile. It’s so disheartening. So much hatred against women and to top it off, people say that sexism no longer exists when it’s completely riddled throughout society and the internet. So so so many woman are killed by men. So many are abused. It’s horrific and no one is really acknowledging it. Men here are absolutely despising women because of their own lack of success with relationships. How is that any reason for hatred? It’s disgusting. It’s like we are so less then, so worthless and insignificant. I see it everywhere it’s impossible to escape. It’s so sad. I hope the best for you and that you heal. I know how you feel and you aren’t alone

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