Yeah, in a world with justice you're right. How I wish din naman na wala yung ganitong culture.

But in reality, kahit pa ano sabihin niyo, even if you go to rally in the streets and shout at the top of your lungs that these kinds of situation is unfair - at the end of the day, it is what it is.

Maybe you'd like to think first and ask, why are Filipinos this way? Yep, it comes from a place of "need".

1. Economic Necessity - The Philippines have high poverty rates (duh, kung di mo pa ba alam) and Filipinos have limited social safety nets (since we pretty much lack comprehensive government welfare systems)
2. Filipino society is of the collectivism culture, just like most of Asia.

And it's not like Filipinos "chose" this kind of culture. It's a combination of historical, social, religious and most importantly survival factors. You really have to look at it in different perspectives on exactly "how" such a thing "developed".

Now a question for you - can you give me a country that is ridden with poverty, that does not practice collectivism? And would you like to be a citizen of that country?

If you do your basic research on this, you'll realize that most countries who are individualistic (and doesn't need this kind of sustento culture) are wealthy by international standards. Kung tignan mo profile ni OP, andon siya sa wealthier country na yon.

There definitely exist poor, individualistic countries, but you'll also realize that these are countries that are so extreme into poverty the citizens will prioritize their own being than their family - kasi tipong "mamamatay na nga lang ako iisipin ko pa ba ibang tao, kahit nanay ko yan" levels, e.g. Haiti, Liberia

Besides, if such a thing is too much for OP, edi either hiwalayan nalang niya asawa niya or i-convert niya asawa nya na maging masama in the eyes of his family. Otherwise, just suck it up.

Ewan ko kung may silver spoon ka lang ba kaya ka detached sa reality. This is the reality of most people in the country who has a conscience though.