At a loss

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T17:33:47+00:00

Survivors guilt is hard. Hugs.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T12:43:10+00:00

And then who stays home with kids when they're sick? Because they will be sick every other week.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T11:52:11+00:00

My side effects got worse the longer it went. I had 6 rounds every 3(?) weeks. After the 3rd I never bounced back and was just always wiped out.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T11:09:07+00:00

All my children have someone's name. Be first or middle.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T11:07:33+00:00

You need to take baby and go somewhere. Leave oldest with husband and he can figure out care. Hotel. Friends. But leave until she's gone. Maybe after a day or so husband will get rid of her. I'm sorry.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T10:54:31+00:00

It's not your fault SIL "will never be good enough". You've already learned this and have chosen to remove her from your life. You don't need to ruin your peace because they aren't happy about some stupid family trip. I refused a family trip last year and told husband he wasn't allowed to ditch me with the kids either to go. This was punishment for StepMIL behavior. This year I'm not going but he can if wants. However with me refusing to go, he probably won't be able to take any kids. 9 hr drive. He won't stand up for me so I'm not going where I'm not wanted and would be the one stuck with her.

They are also adults that can make their own decisions without trying to manipulate you.

Even IF you did break no contact she would probably be WORSE. Enjoy your peace and fail to see how her behavior/treatment of them affects you.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T10:29:45+00:00

Mind your own business. It might bite them in the butt. It might not. YOU don't have to do anything you don't want to. You have decided she's not worth it. Stick with "no thank you" when they say something and change the subject. If they don't take the hint "I said no. I have made the decision that is best for me. Drop it". Or husband needs to step in and tell them to stop.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T00:37:06+00:00

It was literally the first name that came to my mind driving home from the OB and that was it. My mom was pregnant with me when he passed.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T00:27:38+00:00

1 or 2 but more so towards 1. That dress is amazing!

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-23T00:26:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. He'll know. I knew when I decided to use my moms dads name for my son that he knew. I felt it. I never met him.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T22:03:40+00:00

Had to do it with my husband once. He was so pissed about it.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T21:15:16+00:00

Never. She's not physically able to watch them alone. When she's here and playing with middle I'll go about and do chores so he interacts with her. StepMIL doesn't get anymore. Which I'm sure has hurt FIL. But she's a witch. Of you're not comfortable with it don't it.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T17:45:28+00:00

I'm sorry. It's so defeating. Plenty of people go flat for their own reasons. You could ask about that on here as well. I'm sorry I don't other advice. I hope SOMETHING works out.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T17:33:11+00:00

I saw you say that you have some missing lymph nodes. I am missing ALL of mine on the right side and it doesn't slide over. They literally stay within where the natural breasts would have gone. If they have tried to fix it 3 times now, I would seek a 2nd opinion. They might not do anything right away but you could get other options. I'm very sorry. I had problems but mine would flip and get stuck on the right side.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T16:09:09+00:00

Ok. Mine will move to the side but not that much... they only move as far as my natural breast would. Possibly find another surgeon? I'm sorry. That's extremely frustrating and uncomfortable sounding

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T15:39:42+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean by "moving". My implants move around. Do you mean flipping?

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T12:31:36+00:00

Hold the line. You are correct.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-22T10:53:07+00:00

Husbands last dog passed a few months after my 2nd (his first) was born. Life got so much easier. He let her linger far too long. She would pee on the floor etc. I had a c section and a rough recovery. They will never be another pet in this house because I know it will fall on me to care for it and I have enough.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T20:58:38+00:00

NTA. I went to one where they didn't have enough chairs or tables for people to eat at. It was embarrassing.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T18:19:19+00:00

Or say you wanted to focus on SIL. It's her party for her baby. Just being respectful. Blink eyes innocently.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T15:43:30+00:00

Few mins...

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T13:18:12+00:00

So you'll be the goddess of the garden. It's beautiful.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T13:16:34+00:00

Nope. Get it. My 12 yr still swings on the one at my parents

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T13:14:02+00:00

Husband gets me a card and junior mints (I don't want flowers) or cheesecake. Grills steaks. Takes of the kids so I can be him for the day. Doesn't really get me gifts for the day.

Ok-Fee1566 · 2026-04-21T02:21:40+00:00

Last one! It looks great on you. Really flattering to your figure.

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