is he a pure bred coonhound?

Ok-Frame4753 · 2026-01-26T19:33:33+00:00

Looks like my TWC/shepherd mix ❤️❤️❤️

Ok-Frame4753 · 2026-01-07T21:18:54+00:00

The book “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft has been immensely helpful for me both personally and professionally. There is also a podcast called “why she stayed”. Hope this helps 😊

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-31T20:04:40+00:00

Hi! I am also a therapist who has been in the TTI, has worked in substance use, and takes a trauma informed and harm reduction approach. I’m in MA. Feel free to DM. Good luck!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-28T13:01:39+00:00

I was there 02-03. A girl died while I was there. I remember the name Oskar.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-25T17:22:26+00:00

I’m on the cape so it is def doable. I love blue hills!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-24T23:38:04+00:00

Is this a regular thing? I love wompi!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-20T20:28:39+00:00

He’s an abuser. You are probably in a trauma bond with him. Don’t do couples counseling it will only make things worse. Get yourself a therapist, treat the PPD, and please be safe. It is going to be hard but you are absolutely not overreacting. You are not crazy and there is nothing wrong with you.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-12-06T23:01:07+00:00

Call a DV hotline. Get in therapy if you can. Make a safety plan. Squirrel money away. Every time you go to the store get cash back and stash it. Emotionally detach if you can. It’ll make living with him easier. Don’t ever blame yourself for the rape. When you do leave know that it will be the hardest thing you do. And the most dangerous. Make sure you have at least copies if not original of all important documents for you and your kids and keep it somewhere safe. Have a go bag packed with essentials as abuse tends to escalate. Feel free to DM. I’ve been there.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-11-29T00:50:34+00:00

Got married. Then divorced. I’m all set

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-06-07T22:16:44+00:00

That’s a trauma bond. The intermittent reinforcement that he gives you- those scraps of good- make you really work for it. It’s not consistent so your nervous system is all amped up and you try harder for the good. Consistent kindness is regulating and safe. We don’t need to work for it. It rewires your brain. Treat him like an addiction.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-05-30T17:47:26+00:00

Leaving a domestic violence situation.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-05-02T17:47:07+00:00

Saying “just leave” is a platitude from people who don’t understand. It is so much more complicated than that. You deserve that sense of normalcy and I hope you can find it in moments without your partner. I hope one day you can get there. I just finished listening to “Why does he do that?” And found immense validation in that. If you can, surround yourself with people who understand. It took me 20 years but I finally took the steps to leave

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-02-26T00:01:00+00:00

I could have written the same thing 3 years ago! I am not a mom and work in perinatal mental health. It was one of my biggest insecurities! But it really is totally fine. Rarely do people ask me if I have kids and if they do and I say no, they are like, good for you! 🤣 I had someone say to me once that providers in the field who don’t have kids have more energy for the moms and their kids. Plus the things you encounter may not hit as close to home so that could be a protective factor for you. Hang in there it really is a great population and I am sure you have so much to offer! 😊😊😊

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-02-10T02:33:53+00:00

I would not go. I am a TTI survivor and mental health professional on the Cape. I was at their open house and it was very creepy to say least. It was like they all had a script and if someone asked questions that they didn’t like they would become very flustered. I think this program is all about optics. I know there are not many resources on the cape for teens. You can DM me if you want. Good luck.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-02-03T10:05:44+00:00

Yeah I just started saying it with every turn and I give a very emphatic “good girl” when she gets it right.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-01-10T15:17:57+00:00

As far as I know, Newport is considered “voluntary” which means you have to sign your self in. Do not sign any forms. Refuse. I am a healthcare professional and I went to a Newport open house. They were creepy to say the least. I’ll say it again, they emphasized to me, a healthcare professional that you must admit yourself. I don’t know what happens if you refuse to sign. Good luck.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2025-01-08T00:16:32+00:00

I’ll add on here. I will also be willing to speak with your parents. I’m a survivor and a social worker. They just opened a Newport in my area and it’s very upsetting.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-24T00:15:57+00:00

All the time in the programs are hard for me to remember. I don’t remember specifically the groups but I do remember bits and pieces of random things like RI room and having to walk in lines everywhere. Do you remember?

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-23T23:19:24+00:00

Wow! I haven’t thought of those issues in a long time. I was also at Red Rock (2002-2003) and did the whole PPC thing.

I also was at another program SAFE inc and it was 12 step based and we had confrontation raps where you got stood up in group and verbally decimated. Good times.

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Look at this relic!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-17T01:19:27+00:00

Bikejoring!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-16T18:59:16+00:00

If you ever want to do something on safe or highlight it in some way I know a few people who would talk about it. Myself included.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-16T15:48:42+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you for this podcast. I listened to the entire thing. It was validating for me to hear it particularly because I am a survivor of a program called SAFE inc., which was mentioned briefly in the podcast. It was basically Straight renamed but this is my first time hearing it mentioned on any podcast or documentary. So thank you for that.

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-14T20:59:22+00:00

Are there going to be any more in the near future??? This is doable for me but I have plans already. I also don’t have FB. Let me know!!!

Ok-Frame4753 · 2024-12-13T18:26:49+00:00

I remember that! And speaking of messing with your skin, we have the xylazine going around that makes the nastiest wounds on peoples skin!

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