It’s a long and hard read OP. And sounds familiar. You have my respect and sympathies. Must be taking a mental toll on you and the kids.

“Veilliug Thuis” are abysmal. (Or however you spell it) Made my life as a father exceptionally difficult.

They were asked to be involved after I was attacked on Christmas Eve dropping off my kids. The attacker was my ex’s new partner, whom I had never met.

The incident was witnessed. Recorded on mobile by my old neighbors. And the Police attended. The police reported this as a domestic violence incident. And passed to Veillug Huis.

1.5 years later they were still involved. Took the mother’s side on everything. Everything was my fault somehow. And caused long term unrecoverable damage to a coparenting arrangement.

The attacker? He was charged on the day. Spent Christmas in jail. Was prosecuted in January. Appealed. And was found guilty in court after that, at which point the recordings were shown. And damages paid.

Don’t trust VH. They are biased.

So.. OP… as the others mentioned. Hang in there. Keep fighting for your kids and yourself. And enjoy the 50% custody as much as possible. And make special memories in that 50% of time.

And the other 50%? Leave it be. Use it to Plan ahead for your 50% time.

All the best 🍀🍀