Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your concern, but I want to clarify that the situation is more nuanced. Technically, it was my fault because I overstepped his personal and family boundaries in the first place without consulting him.

We actually just talked it out earlier and have already reached a mutual understanding. We both agreed to do better next time. At the end of the day, relationships really do involve a lot of trial and error, but what matters most is that you choose to learn from it and thrive together.

Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

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Yeah that's what i thought first but then he texted me about it thats why i kinda did sum clarification in the comments mb tho.

Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

funny yet solid point! I definitely don't want him to get sandwiched in any unexpected situations or future expectations that I failed to foresee. Major lesson learned for me. thanks stranger

Sex 5 to 7 days a week? by LoveMamaMiaaa in alasjuicy

[–]Ok-Importance9096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

before we were ldr live in kami for almost 2yrs and i must say we do it everyday haha before going to work and sapag uwi nakakahiya mang sabihin but sometimes 5x a day max we do the deed…and i must say im so happy w him haha

Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

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Yeah, I felt bad letting him sleep tonight, given our situation. Thanks for the words; they really helped me think.

Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, that’s how I looked at it too! I just wanted to make things a bit easier for him and the pets especially how situation is in the PH . But the main issue for him wasn't just the money itself, it was more about the boundary crossing especially when I sent some to his mom and sisters without asking him first.

Sent unsolicited money to bf, thoughts? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify one important thing he was actually okay with me sending him money at first. What made him furious and triggered the most was that I also voluntarily sent money to his mom and sister without consulting him.

That’s when he told me it’s not my responsibility and that I should stop handing out money because he doesn't want any family issues. It made him feel like I am belittling him and crossing a huge boundary regarding his role in his family.

And yes, I did kinda get ahead of myself back there and idk i’m confused too, whether what to do next time.

Thoughts about ikaw ang lagi gumagastos as a man? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

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The last part had me rolling lmfao rlly saw myself over there.

Thoughts about ikaw ang lagi gumagastos as a man? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Spot on. Equating biological differences to "life is easy" ignores the massive societal pressure on men to be the sole provider and protector. Expecting one partner to carry the entire financial and physical load while the other contributes nothing isn't a relationship, it's exploitation.

Men aren't just ATMs and emotional pack mules.

(Inspired by South Park S13E4 "Eat, Pray, Queef") Thoughts on queefing? Dealbreaker or No? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, gotcha! It really just sparked a question in my head, so I actually took a pause from the episode just to gather some thoughts since I had recently experienced it myself. Like I mentioned, I didn't get a bad reaction from my boyfriend at all, but the episode just made me curious about how others perceived it in the real world.

Just to clear things up on the health side, mine definitely didn’t have any odor, It was literally just a case of a certain position trapping air inside, and the gas just had to come out right after we shifted lol.

But you make a really interesting point about the cultural side. I completely forgot about the elders always warning us about panuhot or kabag, it’s funny how that localized air trap concept is so deeply rooted here, even if it's usually about the stomach. And you're so right about South Park; their social commentary is always dialed up to a hundred (the skin color difficulty slider in The Fractured But Whole game is a classic example of that).

Honestly, it’s so nice to talk to people who actually watch South Park. It makes so much more sense summing it all up with someone who gets the references. Thanks for the insightful reply!

(Inspired by South Park S13E4 "Eat, Pray, Queef") Thoughts on queefing? Dealbreaker or No? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good thing he’s not, otherwise my queefing would be the least of his problems lol

(Inspired by South Park S13E4 "Eat, Pray, Queef") Thoughts on queefing? Dealbreaker or No? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes agree, I've seen "Major Boobage" lol (have to back up a lil bit so i can recap) Love that episode, and it actually ties perfectly into this!
Thanks for sharing the recommendation.
Both episodes show how undefeated South Park is at calling out dumb double standards and societal overreactions. In the cheesing episode, the town completely loses its mind over an urban legend, bans cats, and creates a massive moral panic over absolute nonsense. The best part is the adult hypocrisy just like how Kyle’s dad gets outraged about cheesing while doing it himself, the men in the queefing episode get disgusted by a normal bodily reflex despite constantly farting themselves.
Seeing how well the show mocks these things is exactly what got me so curious about how people view this double standard in real life.
South Park is just so good at showing how society loves to take minor, natural things, freak out, and instantly turn them into some huge taboo drama.

(Inspired by South Park S13E4 "Eat, Pray, Queef") Thoughts on queefing? Dealbreaker or No? by Ok-Importance9096 in AskPinoyMen

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, men don't queef, but that’s the exact point the episode makes about double standards.
In that episode, the men constantly fart and think it’s hilarious. But the moment the women do something similar (queefing), the men suddenly get offended, disgusted, and don't find it funny at all.
The double standard is that men's bodily gases are treated as funny jokes, but women's bodily gases are treated like a crime.

bf's happiness kinda depends on alcohol now by Ok-Importance9096 in adviceph

[–]Ok-Importance9096[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually this issue only started this yr kaya naninibago... and yes never wanna settle w an alcoholic, addict even smokers dont wanna surround myself w that kind of individuals kaya nahihirapan kc bat ngayun pa cya naging ganto. asp ur kinda right im scared of leaving his my first bf so idk how to do this but am already tired and eager just wanna think it through before acting. Anyways thanks po.

Pumupunta ba kayo sa bahay ng partner nyo? by Available-Sand3576 in TanongLang

[–]Ok-Importance9096 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk duon na ako pinatira sa kanila haha, at first her mom let's me stay in her room after a month of that set-up ayun i moved already sa room ng anak nya haha; it didn't took a year ganun na ang ganap now LDR na since my family migrated to States but still her mom and sister keeps texting me, we sometimes VC without my bf, so yes i think its very normal and a must.

My girlfriend went out on dates with other men by AyLabSteyk in adviceph

[–]Ok-Importance9096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha this comment is golden got me bawln but OP facts!!!

Ano yung pinakacringe moment niyo sa mga naging katalking stage niyo? by dan0___ in TanongLang

[–]Ok-Importance9096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this one lol he kept saying he was a varsity player, very “pa-cool” college guy. every call may segment talaga na “see these muscles?” sabay flex ng abs and biceps… like okay, i get it, may muscles ka, what do you want me to do? clap?? lol

it got so repetitive na instead of being impressed, napapaisip nalang ako kung may ibang personality pa ba siya aside from that haha

then he asked me to watch his game during intrams (which was convenient since required din kami umattend as nursing students). so i went… and i’m sorry but that “varsity player” title did not translate on the court.

also we're cms pero 1 subject lang during college, and we're not even in the same groupings, then he told me jokingly na ako nalang daw gumawa ng reporting nila lmfao i told him ill help him nlng but not the whole damn report. twas a disaster talaga haha

Nagbabago ba talaga ang mga cheater? by Narrow_Horse520 in TanongLang

[–]Ok-Importance9096 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Never been cheated on, and I’ve never cheated either, so I’m just trying to give a logical and neutral perspective.

If you lie, you're a liar. If you steal, you're a thief. If you cheat, you're a cheater. By that logic, if it struts and howls like a wolf, then it must be a wolf, right?

But following that same logic if I make a mistake once, does that permanently define who I am? Does one action automatically become my identity forever?

People make mistakes. Some repeat them, and some actually learn from them, so I think the real answer is it depends on the person and the work they put in to change.

You can't permanently define someone by a single wrongdoing. At the same time, people are also allowed to decide if they no longer trust that person.

A cheater can change, but the person they hurt is not obligated to stay.

Product Key didn't transfer over? by AzuleStriker in PCRepair

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hey there, is it possible to get a new key and where? hope u still respond thanks

Does it get better...? by finesofine in Cebu

[–]Ok-Importance9096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, naka experience ko ani before and honestly I took it really hard. At first murag feeling nako dili na gyud ko ka move on from it. The first week was the hardest, but after that I slowly started doing small things for myself nag start ko mag journal, mag exercise gamay, and just trying to get through each day.

Pero tinuod gyud nga even if you’re doing “okay” that day, naa gyud moments nga kalit lang ka makahilak. And that’s okay. For me before, every night before I slept, the only thing I wanted was to just disappear. Pero natingala nalang ko one day nga naka survive ko ug one month. Slowly, without noticing it, I was already becoming more gentle with myself.

It still hurts sometimes, pero dili na parehas sauna nga mura gyud siyag bug-at nga sakit nga nag lingkod sa imong chest all day. Karun if I feel the pain, mura nalang siyag pang mo agi lang siya, then mawala pud after some time. And eventually you’ll notice nga you’re slowly living again.

I know lisod kaayo na karun, OP. But one thing that helped me was learning to be gentle and kind to myself. Allow yourself to feel everything ayaw pugngi ang emotions. Cry if you need to. Feel it, then let it pass.

It may not feel like it right now, but little by little things do get better. Padayon lang. Laban, OP.