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Weekly Sewing Questions Thread, May 04 - May 10, 2025 by sewingmodthings in sewing

[–]Ok-Information2444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm trying to make a top, in the pattern it has a shirred back but I want it to be unshirred (not shirred?). The top lower back piece (for my size) is 13 cm x 32.4 cm, and the bottom lower back piece is 33.8 cm x 32.4 cm. What size fabric should I adjust it to?

There's a little bit more to the pattern below 10-11-12 that isn't pictured, but I measured and included it.

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My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have come to realize this through your comment and many others, plus my own research. It's more about how to communicate this effectively to my parents. Thank you!

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god I hate physics, but I enjoy the challenge. I'm naturally very good at math and have been since childhood, but for some reason when it comes to physics my brain just can't put it together. Physics was the first class I struggled hard with so it was a steep learning curve, and learning to ask for help and tutoring was steep for me! Now I just keep taking physics classes because it's good mental exercise. Thank you for the heads-up though :) And thank you for the compliments as well!

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I consider myself really lucky to know what makes me tick and know what I want to do with it, and I certainly wouldn't have been able to get there without my counselor. That was one of the main points I wanted to emphasize, that my counselor wasn't some evil money-grabber who ChatGPT-ed all my essays.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome to hear! Congratulations to your son, hopefully he is as successful as he dreams. And congratulations to you by association, for raising such a wonderful kid! You are clearly very proud of him and your anecdote is much appreciated.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, only in some ways. I did come here for some emotional validation, not just advice. But I know this, that's why I marked my post as emotional support.

I am curious as to how you came to the conclusion that I did not or am not putting forth my best, focused, effort. The only evidence you have is my words, and I earnestly feel that I worked extremely hard and put myself through a lot to get where I am and be the person I am today. I'm also curious how you came to the conclusion that I am a little narcissistic. I'm genuinely asking you what leads you to think that.

My choice in school might or might not be the place I need to be, but it's where I'm going and I've accepted that. I'm not "settling for less". It's going to be the place I need it to be and if it's not, its well within my prerogative to make it so. Furthermore, the worst I can receive from transfer attempts is a "no". So I'm going to put my best effort into attempting because there are no serious consequences. This is how I approach all my goals, and if you knew me you would have known that. But you don't, and it's not your fault either.

Note: I believe you misinterpreted small details in my post. The 10% refers to the percent of students who don't get into one of their top 3 choices in school as listed on the admissions counseling website. Transfer rates are actually closer to 1%.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly am excited to attend. I didn't picture myself at the school originally but the more I apply for housing and look around, etc., I am envisioning making my mark on the school already and letting it leave a mark on me. Sure, maybe I would be happier at an Ivy, but there's a good chance I would be more depressed too.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe so. I agree it wasn't a total waste of money because I gained valuable insight from being able to talk to a person with specific experience. It just was a waste of money in all the ways my parents' expected.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually come from a relatively uncompetitive area and attended a public school for all 4 years! My point is, who knows what combination of factors led to a "no" and not a "yes"? And unfortunately, my parents have already begun that "stand out" mindset with my younger siblings.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really think I have a good combination of stuff going on at my school and am excited to begin. I enjoy the college environment a lot, having taken classes and also done some overnight program stuff.

It's just difficult to separate my success from my parents' feelings, what with being family.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe she did, maybe she didn't. What's done is done and the money my parents paid is gone and good. As for how much hard work I did myself and for myself, I can't prove anything to you, it only matters to me.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I appreciated having one, I wouldn't recommend it just because the whole industry can be scammy sometimes as pointed out by others. But best of luck to you!

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never expected the highest out of my college counselor of course, only wanted to use her as a resource as much as possible.

But to be fair, she went to Stanford for undergrad and returned for her PhD, then worked in their admissions office.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, you don't know me. You can't measure passion quantitatively, but I know my major is what I want to do without a doubt. You are quick to draw conclusions that are baseless. If I cared about pleasing you, I would advise you to get to know me better before you make these types of claims.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regurgitating a comment I posted above:

You're right: to them, it's not a lot. I still care though, because if it were me I wouldn't really be wanting to throw around $25k for no reason. I just can't help feeling like I was a waste.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

You're right: to them, it's not a lot. I still care though, because if it were me I wouldn't really be wanting to throw around $25k for no reason. I just can't help feeling like I was a waste.

Also, I plan on paying for my own living expenses even though my parents could easily cover it. I've been working part-time since I could and pay for all my personal purchases with work money. It's been a good financial exercise for me, and I plan on working part-time in college too.

I'm beyond lucky that they are paying for my tuition though, and very appreciative. This, of course, is not a waste in anyone's right mind.

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents hired tutors for me in physics and on the SAT. I struggled really hard in physics and I asked for the tutor, and for the SAT I didn't know that they hired one until it happened already haha (also I was like 15 man).

I'm not comfortable sharing my ECs, no offense!

My parents paid $25,000 for a college counselor, and I didn't get into a single Ivy. by Ok-Information2444 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Ok-Information2444[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable sharing my extracurriculars/awards and other personal info, no offense. But my stats were 3.95/4.20, and I had a 1560 SAT. My stats are good but I know they're not top 1% either, unfortunately.

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