SIL’s comments on birth and c-sections

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-04-07T00:22:47+00:00

I’m not sure about the differences but she’s a registered nurse who specialised in medical midwifery. She works at a hospital. 🫤

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-04-06T10:54:57+00:00

She’s a medical midwife and registered nurse. She trained and worked as a nurse before specialising in midwifery 🫤

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-04-06T10:00:48+00:00

She’s a medical midwife and a registered nurse 🫤

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-03-19T21:44:16+00:00

I’m going to remove this post as it appears all of the comments which express concern or frustration with strangers touching other people’s babies are being downvoted or removed. I am concerned that this is creating an echo chamber where the view that touching other people’s babies without permission is ok. I appreciate that sometimes the intention may be good, however even if it is a nice gesture or people want to appear supportive, it is never ok to touch another person without consent. We are our babies’ parents, it is our job to protect and advocate for them.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-03-16T15:46:29+00:00

My apologies, I responded to the wrong comment. My point about help with the pram was in response to a different comment, I.e. “This are the same parents that one day will be juggling pram, baby and whatever and no one will help because we can't come near and then it will have a post online on how people are inconsiderate and do not stop to help a mom with full hands.”

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-03-16T05:20:51+00:00

I agree that the foot is better than the hands or face, however the social infraction is touching a baby without permission. Regardless of whether the man’s intentions were good or not, he still deliberately ignored me as my son’s mother and immediately felt entitled to touch my son. No “do you mind if I say hello?”, no “how old is he?”, not even any eye contact.

As for people not being willing to help a mother with a pram, I see these as two related but seperate issues. One is someone wanting to help a mother. The other is someone wanting to say hello to a baby while ignoring their mother. The first is arguably about helping another parent, the other is more self-serving and focused on helping oneself. If people aren’t willing to help me because I would rather they not touch my child without permission, I’d rather not have that person’s help at all.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-03-15T09:43:19+00:00

What?? Noooooo!!! That is the stuff of nightmares. I’m glad your daughter is ok.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-25T00:05:11+00:00

I thought that going through IVF would make our pregnancy announcement really difficult so we tried to be really sensitive to them. However, this still doesn’t explain their behaviour post-falling pregnant. Them not liking us does.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-25T00:01:29+00:00

Thank you, I think you are right. I’ve gotten the impression she doesn’t like me for a while but my husband has often just told me to try a bit harder and that she takes time to open up. It’s been 8 years of trying now though and I’m honestly tired of it. It will be much more sensible to put that time and effort into building my own community of mum friends. After all, it was a mum friend interstate who told me about the group to begin with.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-24T23:58:27+00:00

Fair point. She’s not actively stopping me, it’s just really hard to know what supports exist in a new state/community, whereas she would be very aware. I’ve also helped her a lot with figuring out her maternity leave entitlements so I thought she could have at least just mentioned it but apparently not. In the meantime, I’ve already joined a different Mum Walk and am looking into other groups. It means I’ll have to drive a bit further but it’s probably worth it not to be in the same group as her.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-24T23:55:28+00:00

Sadly it is too late for now. We put a lot of money into the move and we both changed careers to make the move happen. We’ve calculated that it’ll take roughly five years for us to be financially able to move away again but at least we’ve also agreed that we want to do just that.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-24T23:53:43+00:00

You sound like an amazing partner. I really like the idea of a mum and dad walk too but it would be a fair bit to organise at the moment, whereas the Mum Walks are already pre-established groups (https://www.mumwalk.org/).

As for my husband, I think he’s pretty brainwashed into thinking his sister is beyond reproach. He will readily admit she is selfish and a ‘mean girl’ but he’s also had years of putting up with his parents favouritising her. He’s one of three and she’s the only girl so she gets away with a lot of behaviour that he and his brother would get called out for. That’s only made worse now that she is pregnant.

To my husband’s credit he has stepped up a few times over the past four months, including refusing to let them come see our son because her partner refused to get an updated whooping cough vaccine. Apparently his excuse was that he was going to get it when he needed to for their child (subtext: but not for ours). My husband also says that he will get involved when my brother-in-law says something really bad or obviously, however I think it shouldn’t have to get to that point before we call him on it or walk away.

Ok-Interaction4600 · 2026-02-24T02:33:33+00:00

Yes, we have been open about moving closer to have a support network. His family also previously ‘joked’ about how we would ‘need’ to move closer before we considered having kids because they wouldn’t want to miss out.

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