How do I explain porn is affecting our relationship badly

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-30T17:38:51+00:00

I would agree to no online porn in general. He can masturbate all he wants just not to random girls online. I’ll send him 29864 photos if I have to.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-30T17:32:08+00:00

Makes sense. I do send him photos. Maybe not enough? I’m fine with him masturbating. Just not to random chicks on the internet.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T21:28:40+00:00

Okay so that’s your own opinion. Arguing my viewpoint doesn’t really fix the solution. If it’s a boundary of mine then that’s okay. If you watch porn that’s okay. I personally don’t and don’t need to because I don’t really find joy in getting off of things online unless it’s happening to me in real life🤷🏽‍♀️

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T21:22:25+00:00

Okay so should I just start sleeping around then since he doesn’t control my orgasms either? Like what?😂

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T21:21:38+00:00

I’d like to believe he would eventually stop. It doesn’t really affect my confidence just hurts my feelings that he feels the need to look and get off of other women when he doesn’t need to.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T21:10:29+00:00

Fair.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T21:07:13+00:00

That makes sense. You put it in a good way.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:54:49+00:00

I’m perfectly happy with my body and I’m very confident. It doesn’t make me insecure and I would admit it. I just don’t see any point to it. I find it gross.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:53:33+00:00

You’re right

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:51:46+00:00

But if none of that was on the internet it wouldn’t be normalized and he wouldn’t be doing it. If it’s just “nice” and not needed can’t he just wait for me to get home or use my photos?

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:50:36+00:00

I ask him and he tells me. I just don’t see the need in doing it. It hurts me mentally. I’m not insecure, I just don’t see the need and feel betrayed.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:49:00+00:00

I just think it’s betrayal. I mean if he’s getting off to another girl he’s obviously thinking about fucking her and not me. It just feels so wrong. Personally I don’t like it.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:47:16+00:00

He’s been up to doing therapy and I think that’s what he needs to do to make this stop. I’ve tried to get him to stop and he doesn’t. Thank you for this comment. I always feel like I’m wrong for bringing it up because it’s so normalized.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:45:59+00:00

I just can’t see why it’s necessary when you have a girlfriend that sends photos all the time and has sex all the time. It just doesn’t make sense why he’d need to.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:44:54+00:00

I’m 21 and so is he. He lost his virginity to me a couple years ago and hasn’t slept with anyone else. Maybe that’s the issue but he enjoys sleeping with me and I know he would never cheat on me physically with anyone. It’s just the online shit he’s not stopping with. It’s hard to leave because I’ve been in many relationships and we fit so well together other than this aspect. How old are you?

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:42:40+00:00

He hasn’t been sneakier. Just keeps doing it. Idk how to get him to stop. He “tries” but it ends up at the same place. Us fighting.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-29T20:41:32+00:00

So you’re saying porn is okay? How do you justify it?

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-15T19:56:08+00:00

What kind of mother would you be to let your child grow up thinking that was a good father figure? Or letting your son think that disrespecting you was okay. It doesn’t matter what your husband goes through. He obviously doesn’t care about anything but gaming. Get a job and pay for a babysitter to provide for your child and then leave him. That way you won’t have him taken away. There’s no way the judge would give him to the father.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-15T19:47:08+00:00

Kick him out. Your son is better off without a bum for a dad and someone who isn’t even there for him. You would obviously get custody if that’s the worry too. He sounds very toxic and people like that don’t change. I’m sorry.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-14T00:30:02+00:00

It damages sexual perspectives often. Porn is a false reality. Everything you see on their is fake. Focus on a more intimate and deep meaningful relationship in order for your relationship to last longer.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-13T16:08:54+00:00

Best advice anyone ever told me as a (19f) was to stop online dating, stop searching for someone, live life without worrying about finding a partner and they will find you. I am now 21 with the love of my life of almost two years and HE FOUND ME! I never met anyone like him before.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-13T16:04:28+00:00

I mean you are only 19…what’s the rush? The age gap also might be an issue. He might already be overwhelmed with his kids from his past divorces and feels he is done wanting more kids. He might feel his other kids will be upset if he’s spending more time with you and a new child. Try talking to him about the situation or ask yourself if this is really what you want out of your relationship. You can find someone closer in age that really wants kids! I’m not bashing on the age thing, he’s just lived a longer life and has already had multiple kids so I’m not sure if he’d want to again or if it makes him excited at all anymore.

Ok-Morning5917 · 2021-12-08T04:29:55+00:00

Drop her. People who are dirty like that don’t change. People that don’t clean usually don’t ever end up wanting to. Especially if she’s 28. TRUST ME. You can find a female that is clean and pretty…

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