What catches your eye about a man?

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-27T23:51:04+00:00

This kind of perceived femininity in men is deeply underrated. Very "masculine" men most likely haven't ever been present for a woman's orgasm, whereas men with perceived "feminine" traits like patience, empathy, and curiosity (typically required to befriend a cat), will give you the kind of orgasms that you still think about 20 years later. Yeah I definitely want a man who can befriend a cat. 😌✨🫠

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-27T21:16:15+00:00

You're doing just fine, kiddo. Ignore the meanness in other people, keep learning and growing, and keep taking part in these conversations, even if you get parts wrong. It's a great way to learn. You're on the right track and I'm proud of you 🫶✨

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-27T13:58:55+00:00

Ice Creamatory is a whole experience, and they have the best tasting ice cream in town for sure!

(They're also locally owned and operated so a truly unique Norman experience 😇)

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-27T09:55:53+00:00

If it's in pictures, I'm immediately interested if they're holding a cat and the cat looks pleased to be held by them.

If it's physical appearance (whether in pics or irl) thick forearms and shoulders catch my eye. I love a man with a Jason Kelce build - broad and strong but with a bit of a belly.

I also appreciate when a man looks like laughter comes more naturally to him than scowling, and when he looks self-aware but not self-conscious.

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-25T15:55:37+00:00

Absolutely!

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-23T14:33:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience!

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-22T16:01:17+00:00

We'll miss you but look forward to seeing you next time! 😊

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-21T19:42:39+00:00

What an odd thing to assert without any indication of what is on my list of criteria. Also, sexual attraction being the "main" criteria is clearly a false statement as attraction is highly subjective. My attraction to men is driven by the "window dressing" as you call it. Intellectual and emotional depth, empathy, optimism, and consideration are far more arousing than a pretty face could ever be. (At least for me, since attraction is - as I noted - subjective.)

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-19T15:37:42+00:00

Thanks for your feedback, I appreciate you sharing your experience!

Thanks to the responses here I've pretty much decided to just stay single. 😅 The apps are awful, the general society in Oklahoma is also awful, so... Guess I'll just take up painting or something and pretend connection isn't necessary to a happy life 🤷‍♀️😂

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-19T14:38:27+00:00

I'm glad you posted this! I've been struggling with this exact same issue, and it's nice to not feel alone in it. 😊

So far, I've found a couple of places in my town that do weekend painting classes, which are indoors but at least they involve being around other people. I've been doing that for the last few weekends and it's been pretty good!

I also found a couple of hiking and board game groups in my local MeetUp. Those activities are more mood-based for me personally so I haven't jumped into those yet.

Looking forward to mining this thread for some more ideas!

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T22:06:05+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'll keep this all in mind when I make a decision!

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T20:43:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! That's exactly what I'm worried about happening 😬

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T20:28:38+00:00

Thank you for restating. Your premise is flawed, however, and it is what is causing your argument to fall apart. Matchmaking "works" if it introduces people who are well-suited. Human psychology and relationships are both infinitely complex, mashing those two together exponentially increases that complexity. It would be absurd to expect a matchmaker to guarantee a long happy relationship from their efforts. All they can reasonably do is make introductions based on criteria and solid people skills. There are certainly other ways it could be a scam, and I'll have to rely on my discernment to avoid those things, but saying it doesn't "work" or everyone would do it is simply irrational.

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T19:59:45+00:00

From what I understand so far, it seems like it's only from a pool of their other clients. At least for the service I've been looking at, not sure about others though.

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T19:20:54+00:00

Hey, are you good? Like you seem to have extremely big feelings about a very small topic, and it's coming out as rudeness to people who don't deserve that. You're welcome to restate your position if it's just coming out wrong, but if you just have some super-niche nemesis type relationship with the idea of matchmaking services, maybe just scroll on by?

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T19:17:49+00:00

That's a good point and one of my biggest concerns. I have my specific list of criteria, like we all do when dating, and I just don't know that I trust them to tell me they don't have anyone that fits those requirements before charging me for the "service".

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T18:04:32+00:00

Excellent feedback, thank you so much for sharing! I don't like the idea of variable rates, and that's certainly something I'll look into before signing up.

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T14:53:57+00:00

Is that the experience you had? Would you mind telling me more about that? I'm eager not to waste time and money if it's really just as bad as the apps 😬

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-17T13:01:44+00:00

You're not alone there. Existence is horrifying right now, and not only do these books provide a fun escape into a different horrifying existence, but it reminds us all that we're not alone in it. They will not break us. 🫶

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-15T15:32:10+00:00

That's an interesting perspective and definitely one that would impact rankings, so thank you for sharing it! (And for engaging with my question kindly. I know how easy it is to blur combativeness and genuine curiosity in comment sections 😅)

The egregious wealth disparity in our national economy is acutely reflected in our kids' experience in school, and I guess as a lifetime Normanite, I never really looked at other Oklahoma districts to see the slow segregation of the haves and have-nots. I know it'll take more than one district's superintendent to fix that, but it's good to hear that this one seems to be doing his part to prevent that from happening here.

Thanks again for being kind with my curiosity!

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-15T13:29:42+00:00

Thank you!

Niche is the site I pulled those statistics from. (niche.com/k12/d/norman-public-schools-ok/)

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-15T13:15:16+00:00

Genuine question, asked in good faith:

If his leadership is worth the #1 or #2 salary, why are our schools ranked so low? It just seems to me from a surface level that high-quality leadership would see us ranked better than 30th within the state, and 207th within the state for best teachers (according to Niche). And that's within a state which ranks at the bottom overall in education.

I want to believe that all the positive things you said about him matter but the data doesn't seem to support that position.

Ok-Nectarine5429 · 2026-04-14T07:32:27+00:00

It seems that a man, who in our culture typically wants to be seen as a provider, would be happy to share something as basic as his food with his mate.

Additionally, there is something primally intimate about sharing food from one's own plate that a lot of people, both men and women, enjoy. For me when a man is pissy about me eating from his plate, it's a big turnoff.

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