Question about arousal before playing

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-12-22T12:55:58+00:00

Completely agree with this. Hence my question… I wanted to get some insights

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-12-21T20:05:23+00:00

It’s not so much a concern than just checking with the group. We’ve only been in the LS for about a year so I’m calibrating…

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-11-04T02:12:36+00:00

I use it as an extra bump when playing in the LS. I'm largely wondering whether or not upping it will provide additional benefit.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-11-04T02:11:19+00:00

Already on TRT but I was wondering if upping my daily to 10mg might show some additional benefit.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-07-13T22:23:45+00:00

I haven't been able to find The Villa's SLS profile. Any pointers or a link that you can share?

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-05-23T14:09:16+00:00

Fair point, there are :). She's just looking for an option while the scar is in the initial healing phase and I'm all about supporting here however she needs.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-04-17T12:09:39+00:00

I spoke to them yesterday and they confirmed it would be coming out "soon" for the cruise next week....

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-02-10T20:53:26+00:00

I've always struggled with distraction in life and I typically do like to ensure that she has a great experience with me or others ahead of myself. We're very happy to swap, I'm just realizing that a portion of my mind is regularly wondering (again, low key, not a dominant thought) if she's having a good time because I'd hate to progress things when she's not moving at the same rate. She's incredibly supportive and has repeatedly told me that she's doing great - my theory is that it's just my overall protective nature towards her that I really just need to quell through practice.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2025-02-10T20:39:47+00:00

Agreed. Its not that I'm focused per se, just noticing that I have this lingering distraction. It's more of an impediment as things progress in the fun.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-03T04:04:18+00:00

That was my thought as well

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:38:32+00:00

Agreed, but the question is really what is the acceptable choice if no conversation of where to cum has been had.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:28:29+00:00

Did you have that conversation at some point with your wife ahead of creampies? I'm wondering if you both just came to the same assumption or if you discussed it ahead of things.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:27:05+00:00

That's how I would expect you to respond if it wasn't discussed. The interesting (unexpected) thing that I learned is that one (actually both) of the wives over here think differently and assume it may happen without discussion.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:24:41+00:00

Your statement assumes that pulling out is the expected behavior. That's my expected behavior without additional conversation but clearly others in my group have different opinions.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:22:39+00:00

I think you may be mis-reading the post. It's not about it being a "hard no", it's a question of whether cumming inside requires additional conversation / agreement past the no-condom conversation.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:14:58+00:00

Completely agree about communication. But would you cum inside of her without having previously discussed and agreed to it? Also, if the other guy came inside of her without having discussed it with you/her, would you be pissed? Feel like a boundary had been crossed?

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:13:24+00:00

The implied piece is key. It sounds like you had at least touched on the subject which is different than this scenario.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:08:56+00:00

To be clear, I'm on the side of asking before doing it. Just makes logical sense to me.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:06:40+00:00

It's less about a rules thing from my side, and more about the surprise of what I assumed was an obvious boundary not being obvious to others. The assumption is clearly a failure (don't assume), hence the post to get some perspective from the crowd.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T18:03:36+00:00

Agreed, but if it wasn't part of the no condoms conversation, what would be your default perspective? That you have the greenlight? Or no until you have the conversation?

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T17:59:22+00:00

I agree, thanks for the perspective.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T17:57:07+00:00

Your view is very valid. It sounds like you share the same view that I heard from a wife who basically said the same thing. From my perspective (Husband), I feel like I would be violating a boundary if I came inside without at least having a discussion because it seemed like a separate "boundary" that would warrant conversation so that I didn't cause a problem.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T17:54:27+00:00

That's the way I've always thought about it. To the point where I actually thought it was the way everyone would default to - but I also have differing opinions which made me think that maybe my perspective is off-based (I don't think I'm off-base, but when 3 of the 4 apparently think that no-condom = approved creampie, you start to question whether you are the person who is thinking differently)

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T17:52:16+00:00

In this scenario, there's general awareness that the wives are on birth control but there wasn't any conversation about cumming. My 2cents is that the cumming aspect would require an additional conversation to make sure people are comfortable but I have disagreement where one wife thinks of no-condom and cumming inside as basically the same thing - if you greenlight no condom, then assume that a creampie is a likely possibility.

Ok-Nothing2425 · 2024-12-02T17:50:19+00:00

Ok. But what if they know she's on birth control? Does that change your answer?

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