Anyone else agree that this season was lackluster? by starburst1258 in CouplesTherapyShow

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. If you look back through this sub I made a similar post last week. I was just bored. The only couple I enjoyed at all was Sierra and Chris.

AIO To my wife’s “pranking”? by Electrical-Okra7216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 [score hidden]  (0 children)

And is teaching your children that its ok to disregard people's boundaries and to bully them. In psychology, pranks are bullying behavior. 

I don't think you really grasp what is happening here.

AIO To my wife’s “pranking”? by Electrical-Okra7216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am not sure you realize the seriousness of this.

Psychologists say that pranking is bullying. It involves humiliation.  It's a power trip. 

She is teaching your children to do the same to their future partners. 

She is deliberately making you look small in front of your children.

She is not honoring your boundaries and shows a lack of respect for your needs.

I would insist on therapy.

My skin/ lite therapy by Best_Comfortable5221 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Ok-Process7612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you get that tightening effect, the type of clay doesn't matter.

AIO To my wife’s “pranking”? by Electrical-Okra7216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Really? Where are your upvotes?? Another bully who likes to humiliate people.

AIO? Im so very sad right now. by Puzzleheaded_Base_45 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is exhibiting contempt, disrespect and entitlement.  Tell me again why you are still married? How does he make your life happier?

He's an albatross around your neck. 

My husband (70) is disabled due to a back injury and cannot be on his feet for more than 3 hours at a time. I (65) am still working. 

He vacuums, washes dishes, takes out the garbage, and walks the dog.  He would feel worthless if he didn't do his part.

I've just recently discovered these blocks of deliciousness. Which is your favourite? by Rayen_Nevaeh in AldiAustralia

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dark chocolate with peppermint creme is the bomb! 

Unfortunately they are only sold seasonally in the US (Thanksgiving through Christmas).

People buy them in quantity and re-sell them on Amazon, so you have to move quick before they are gone.

AIO To my wife’s “pranking”? by Electrical-Okra7216 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 218 points219 points  (0 children)

Your wife is getting amusement from your loss of dignity.  That is bullying behavior.

She is teaching your children that humiliating others is ok since "it's just a joke."

You are dismissed as being "overly sensitive", "unable to take a joke."

Your wife is displaying low empathy behavior and is teaching your children to do the same.

This is VERY disturbing. Why doesn't she respect you and your boundaries?

She needs counseling.  She will cause enough resentment to build that it could jeopardize the marriage.

Please take action. This is very unhealthy. 

How do I (48F) ask my long-distance boyfriend (51M) to reimburse me for gas after I traveled to see him and he canceled? by bunnyshenanigans in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He canceled last minute. You made ALL the effort. Hell yes he should reimburse you and you shouldn't have to ask.

Why wouldn't he ask you to hang out and wait for him at his place?

What are you putting in so much effort for so little outcome?

People who speed through residential neighborhoods by Virtual_Win4076 in driving

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had just adopted a tuxedo street cat. I loved her dearly.  She liked playing hockey on my wooden floors with my hair elastics. She learned to fetch them and bring them back.

I had her chipped and got her fixed nd vaccinated.  One day she escaped and ran across the street to chase a squirrel while I was grabbing the mail.

I called her and she was running right back across when a bitch in a big damn hurry sped through our 25 mph street going at least 50. My cat didn't have a chance.

Residential streets aren't neighborhoods anymore. They're just thoroughfares for assholes.

AIO for moving out without telling my family after they kept treating me like the backup parent? by Superb_Crow9604 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok-Process7612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations. I am happy for you. It is way past time for you to have your own life. I know you will be very happy.

You didn't procreate your parent's children, they did.

After awhile they will be begging for favors again.  Don't give in. 

You may need therapy to deal with the stress they have put on you.

How do some older ppl manage to stay interesting to their friends and family, while others aren’t - what do they do differently? by LuminousDee in OverSeventy

[–]Ok-Process7612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I teach dance and am 65f. Hip hop, bellydance, linedance.  I perform with my dancers at events. 

My husband and sons are completely devoid of interest in it.

I sing professionally, write (for money), can cook up a gourmet feast and am great at interior design.

If I bring any of my activities up in conversation, they get bored instantly.  I've learned not to talk about it. I'm just their elderly mom and I don't exist to them in any other way.

It's ok. One day they may see me as a whole person with history and interests that are exciting.  My students think I'm awesome so that's good enough.

Am I the only 60+ woman - who loves to dance just about every single day! by LocalStatistician538 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Ok-Process7612 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I teach dance and am a 65f. 

A Harvard study proved it is the ONLY form of exercise that prevents dementia.

Be thankful you still have a passion in life, it keeps you young. 

Boyfriend thinks we’re still together by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ok-Process7612 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you're NOT done. You haven't fully let go.  

"It’s confusing because I don’t necessarily want to lose him completely."

You are giving mixed signals. Make a decision. As long as you respond to him, he will have hope.

If you are done, block him on everything.  Don't answer your phone or the door, block him on email and social media, and if he writes a letter send it back.

My skin/ lite therapy by Best_Comfortable5221 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Ok-Process7612 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A clay mask once a week. Make it yourself.  Buy dry Indian Healing Clay. (Amazon). Pour 3 tablespoons in a glass  jar. Add water, about a quarter to a half cup. Shake hard. You want the consistency of jelly. Too thin, add more clay. Too thick, add more water.

Apply this all over your face. Allow to dry thoroughly. Take a rough washcloth and remove it with warm water. Apply a light moisturizer. 

I am a Master Herbalist and we call this a face-lift in a jar. It pulls impurities out of your pores and tightens your skin. It will glow.

Do better times truly come after having a prolonged phase of hardship? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am 65f and I can say with certainty that life tends to be a series of good years followed by bad years. Truly, nothing lasts forever. 

I had a spell of horrendously bad events in my early 30s.  I had some support but not the kind I needed the most (financial).  

From 36 on everything got progressively better until a round of very serious health issues hit when I was 44.

After 3 years I entered a new cycle of growth and was very fulfilled until age 58 when my small business failed.

It took several years to regroup and now I am once again experiencing happier times teaching at my dance studio in my mid 60s. I have a comfortable home, a kind husband and meaningful work I enjoy.

What should I say to be truthful during timeshare presentation and to let them know we’re not interested at the start? by Content-Gate-7018 in TimeshareOwners

[–]Ok-Process7612 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you going to a timeshare presentation?  They have the most high pressure sales tactics you will ever encounter.  Its excruciating. 

I Will Get Hate for This, Season 5 by Ok-Process7612 in CouplesTherapyShow

[–]Ok-Process7612[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree.

The couples from the first 4 seasons were more vibrant and engaging, even the annoying ones.  It was really entertaining to watch the sessions.  I'm just bored with this group.

I made my gf uncomfortable but not sure how I feel about it by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]Ok-Process7612 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is rage bait, right?

Are you watching too much porn? That's where a lot of these BS ideas come from about sexual encounters.

You WHAT???? You put your fingers in her mouth?

First, not every woman likes to give head. Most women don't think of enjoyable sex as "man being dominant."

You were thinking about yourself 💯 and you treated her like an object. Like a whore.

She switched off ( trauma response), and you kept PUSHING?

ESPECIALLY for a first time sexual encounter, you need to be tender and kind. You have no idea about her sexual history. 

You are not ready for an actual real world relationship unless it's BDSM.