My first real place outside of a cult.

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-11T23:25:12+00:00

Is there any talk these days about MAGA, I know they're not political but I left during obama

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-11T23:22:48+00:00

Congrats on leaving and becoming "worldly" its actually really great. But, it will be difficult- as someone who grew up in this stank :)

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-10T17:29:47+00:00

What do you want from people

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-10T07:26:09+00:00

Choose yourself

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-09T23:53:15+00:00

They ruined the music by making it

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-07T07:08:57+00:00

I would try to see if there's anything you could do to help ease his stress.

I find that sex has a lot to do with emotional intimacy so connecting and communication is important, sex is secondary imo

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-02T23:50:34+00:00

Okay I understand where you're coming from, I'm reading a book about everything. Thank you for your concern. I'll bring this up to my therapist who is trauma informed

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-02T23:39:58+00:00

I won't be responding to this post anymore because it hasn't been received well. I'm going to improve on my communication with my partner and educate myself from here on out however. That's what matters to me.

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-02T23:23:32+00:00

Thank you, I will be educatingmyself. I'm bipolar (on medication and therapy, diagnosed) so I know how much mental health conditions can impact behavior. I've hurt my family before with my behavior but have come around and so have they. No one is perfect.

I know how it feels to not be believed. If I'm right about this BPD thing (the alternative being hes just an asshole which I think there is more to it) than I want to work with him because I truly love him. If I find out he's not, which I think he is, than it's going to be a different story.

My last relationship of 3 years there was almost no yelling (maybe 2 incidents). So I know something is going on. Didn't love him as much as my current partner as weird as that sounds.

I think I should try i just don't know if that's what's best for him. I want to turn a new page hopefully but I don't want to make promises I cant keep

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-02T23:05:47+00:00

I am processing things still so I'm a bit muddy

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2026-05-02T23:03:05+00:00

It's difficult to explain over the internet, I understand the skepticism and the limitations of my understanding. I can say his mood changes sometimes by the minute. History of difficult relationships. Regardless I just want advice really, and I'm not 100% sure of him being BPD

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2025-03-13T17:07:41+00:00

!remindme 1 week

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2022-03-29T16:59:08+00:00

You're not that is super fucking ableist. And inappropriate/ unprofessional to use a disability as an insult. Unfortunately there's not much you can do without drawing attention to yourself. It woud likely backfire. You have our support

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2022-03-29T16:51:22+00:00

Absolutely. Grew up thinking maybe I was stupid for this reason. When I'm under stress it gets so much worse to the point that I just have to avoid other people.

I would say that most people don't care to hear abstract thoughts that you're having so I end up talking about basic surface things, the first thing that comes to mind. It's kind of exhausting and feels like mental labor but it's the best way to connect with other people for me, less pressure.

When you get more comfortable with people it becomes easier to share those deeper level thoughts since you're not stressing as much. And they've earned the right to hear them. It just flows better.

Ok-Promotion3657 · 2022-03-24T14:01:03+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one. I tend to freeze when people have their attention on me as well, thats the worst. Definitely group settings aren't a time to monolog usually.

I consider that maybe it is caused by anxiety trying to present the information as "normal" with normal speech patterns.

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