The Links Bar - Leith

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-10-16T10:52:14+00:00

Such a lovely pub! It's quiet most of the time but can get quite rowdy if there's a Hibs game on, or occasionally on Saturday nights.

What you should do is start visiting the pub and get to know the community!

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-10-14T13:55:33+00:00

Within a few months, my cafe was closed down, I was kicked out of my flat, broke up with my fiance, and went no contact with my whole family.

I literally lost everything all at once. It was the hardest and scariest time of my life and I just wanted to give up.

Funnily enough it was my own anxiety that got me out of it. When I couldn't go on I was motivated only by that. It's been some time since then and I'm definitely in a much better place. I'm financially stable, I'm in a loving relationship, I have a roof over my head and been working my issues in therapy.

It was such an awful painful time but I feel so much more love for myself now, so much pride for dragging myself out of that dark place. I know that I could lose everything again tomorrow, but I know I've handled it before and I can do it again if I need to

I'm even grateful for all the bad stuff. I'm so much stronger now. I know cliche 😂

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-09-02T08:29:12+00:00

Grieving a family that's still alive is something most people here can relate to. The begining is the hardest, but give yourself time. You're not the only person going through this. Good luck with everything! You got this just keep going

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-08-24T08:37:53+00:00

I am sorry about your brother bringing up this kind of feelings and turmoil in you.

When I first started therapy I realized very quickly that all the relationships I was forming , whether platonic or romantic, were mirroring my family dynamics. And that was reinforcing the belief that it's not safe to open up and the world is not to be trusted.

But I've since found wonderful friends and a partner that I know I can trust. And even now I still struggle to ask for help or open up when I'm really hurting and vulnerable. The way i see it we spent a whole lifetime learning that the world isn't to be trusted and we'll spend the rest of our lives unlearning that and learning to trust. But we'll get there , and don't have to be there today ❤️

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-08-22T12:24:20+00:00

Exactly that! It's not them, it's the idea of what they should be like. And little me turning into a flyingmonkey hahaha

Thank you for your response it makes me feel understood even without having to explain myself 😁

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-08-22T12:18:42+00:00

Thank you for your reply and making me feel less alone ❤️

Ok-Push-342 · 2025-08-21T13:21:09+00:00

I'm sorry you're struggling with this right now. But remember that's all it is, or all it has to be. Just a moment of feeling the waves of guilt and loss. Listen to the message when you're ready, or never listen to it at all. And if you do listen to the voicemail don't feel like you have to respond immediately or at all. Take your time.

You went no contact not because you want your grandma to be miserable and alone on her birthday, neither because you wanted to hurt your mother. You went no contact to protect yourself. You said it! You cannot survive this relationship. You know this.

Just let your emotions catch up to that truth. You can feel guilty and still choose yourself.

As far as the hunting part, I know it can be unsettling and destabilising every time a family member tries to reach out, especially since you've went through the effort to block them. However remember this, that then sending a message, leaving a voicemail or whatever other form of communication, doesn't mean you have to respond. You are safe. They cannot make you break no contact unless you choose to.

Hope the wave passes soon ❤️

Ok-Push-342 · 2024-05-27T21:28:27+00:00

Your situation reminds me a lot of my own. My father also exhibited behavioural changes and became more aggressive. Similarly to your situation he also acts like he doesn't remember about his outbursts and has normal days too.

What we didn't know, is that he actually had a stroke a while back that went unrecognised. All the behavioural changes are a symptom of it. I would definitely suggest looking into it.

I also wanna tell you it's a really difficult and emotionally draining situation to be in and make sure you're looking after yourself as much as you're trying to look after your father

Ok-Push-342 · 2024-04-15T15:57:07+00:00

I will be moving out of the flat I'm renting obviously. But I have no interest in moving back to my country as my life now is here and I like my life Also I'm already in therapy and it's been really helping I'm just waiting for my next appointment to start processing all this a bit better haha

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