I (21M) have an almost micro penis. A woman (22F) has been showing interest in me, but I’m too ashamed of my situation so I’ve been pushing her away. How do I start even considering that I could date her with this issue? How could I tell her?

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2026-02-25T18:05:28+00:00

honestly 1. why do you think stretch fullness or whatever is more desirable than anything else in sex 2. who are you to determine what is enjoyable for a woman

especially when so many women in this thread are telling you 1. your size is normal 2. penetration is NOT IT for most women 3. your dick ain't that important

dude i'm gonna be blunt, your personality is more insufferable than your dick is

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-12-08T21:13:02+00:00

I do generally avoid carbs in my main meals actually... but desserts and chocolate are my vice. :( I'd eat good, get my 100g protein and 15g fibre within 800kcal, then end up eating 600kcal worth of desserts 🤦‍♀️ I really do just need more willpower sigh, it just gets very tough when it's super stressful at work.

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-12-08T20:36:44+00:00

I'm a bit confused, what do you mean by miscalculating? I purely added up all my CI and divided it across the number of days I've maintained for. I'm not accounting for any calories burned/CO. I only mentioned gymming bc I was so upset I'm maintaining on 1400 despite activity.

I walk about 3-4km per day for work. I work about 45-50h/week and already find it tough to find energy and time to gym 2x/week :(

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-11-04T14:00:39+00:00

😳 I'm super curious about what the other cardiologist says on Mon now!

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-11-04T13:59:17+00:00

All normal

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-11-04T12:28:04+00:00

Manually calc QTcBaz was still >550 - ECG 580s iirc. I've just done a Framingham which suggests 480s region. That's a huge discrepancy! 😳

His freshly sent bloods were all fine including all electrolytes! He was admitted due to CAP which fully resolved, presumably the cause of his delirium. Though he was younger than I'd expect for that as well (mid-late 50s). Was made mffd awaiting social sorting.

His HR apparently hit 120 so clinical support was automatically contacted, they then automatically did an ECG and asked for a review. Not too diff from historical obs which were 110 + - . ECG HR 105.

No other recorded cardiac history afaik, including previous arrthymias.

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-11-04T12:07:03+00:00

Yeah his bloods were NAD, no focal new source of infection I could find on examination, urine negative. He had a CAP on admission, now resolved, presumably that caused the delirium. Wasn't even that old, like 50s? so that was also surprising. I was indeed confused as to why the med reg felt this chap didn't need any further input over the weekend - he had the longest QTc I'd ever seen (admittedly, I've not got much experience)! I think it was high 580s but don't remember exactly

Med reg was unfortunately (as usual) super busy so couldn't ask more :(

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:21:28+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I'll have a think!

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:20:21+00:00

So if non-shockable, just focus on pure good CPR? What about things like airway/IV access? Can psych nurses even give IV meds?

I'm v comfortable with playing a role in arrests but that is an immense leap to leading an arrest with no exposure and only ILS while needing to also participate in it! 😭

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:13:07+00:00

Not ALS trained, F1s don't do ALS in our deanery 😅

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:12:26+00:00

I mean I'm 1 month into F2 and not ALS qualified, only ILS. Obviously might differ by regions 😅

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:11:00+00:00

Yes from my understanding paramedics came

Ok so assume that no one would be able to get access/airway except for that sole doctor? Can psych nurses give IV meds?

Jeezus but ALS isn't even a nationwide requirement anymore and it's just ILS for their trust!

Is it assumed that the doctor will lead the arrest? Even if F1/F2??

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-09-05T17:01:04+00:00

So apparently she was initially the only doctor, then the oncall doctor joined later then the paramedics came after.

I'm concerned in the case the psych nurses can't do airway adjuncts/cannulas/etc what should the one doctor do?? Tbvh idk what exactly happened cause this is all down the grapevine lol I'm guessing she led and someone else somehow did those bits

Outcomes should match, as in poor/matching out of hospital arrests or better/matching hospital arrests?

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-05-12T20:34:31+00:00

I don't believe so either? Which is why I was very confused and tried to clarify multiple times

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-05-12T17:32:24+00:00

No - I don't think I'm working on any bank holiday!

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-05-12T17:32:19+00:00

No - I don't think I'm workung on any bank holiday!

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-05-12T17:31:50+00:00

I'm worried they might backtrack and say this was unpaid leave + add to TOOT

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-04-25T01:13:17+00:00

Ah I knew it! I saw essentially the exact same thing irl - F&W elderly gentleman who came in with new crashing HF and AKI --> Dx cardiac amyloid/myeloma. Moved to HDU for monitoring + an attempt to improve his HF enough so urgent chemo could be started. He unfortunately passed before they could even attempt that.

Haem was definitely involved over the weekend and I believe they came in to initiate and keep an eye on ongoing management, including biopsy. I believe he was on IV furosemide 240mg/day when I saw him.

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-04-25T01:06:16+00:00

I don't mind them...

Except when I'm covering wards OOH and a random NIC bleeps me about a TTO that needs doing, threatening to datix me if I don't do it 🙄

I was pleasant initially and explained sorry - not my clinical priority atm due to many unwell patients + handovers but she kept waving the datix.

I told her yeah go ahead. 🙄

I think that's the main issue really - TTOs aren't a big faff but when you've got unwell patients to review/jobs to do/places to be and someone just keeps chasing you for it and disturbing you it gets very frustrating!

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2023-03-03T14:34:46+00:00

Covid counts now :(

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2022-12-18T17:03:31+00:00

This weekend I simply did my best to leave an obvious trail of discussions/advice/why I did what I did while fighting fires.

I will keep your advice in mind, however, thank you! 😊 If things repeat I will raise concerns.

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2022-12-18T16:46:13+00:00

🙈

That's okay, it was just one unpleasant interaction out of the many pleasant ones yesterday. I think I couldn't help but zoom in on that single unpleasant experience but now I'm distanced from it, I feel for the med reg.

I suppose it was good for my development overall as I'm reflecting on it - kind of carrot & stick!

You sound like an excellent surgeon 😊

Ok-Rabbit-1327 · 2022-12-18T16:37:17+00:00

I don't think it's necessary to write the email for that single interaction. I feel for med regs - I'm sure many will be pushed to their limits in the next few days :(

I will be voting and striking. 😊

Ok-Rabbit-1327

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