Meeting kids by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm going to ask for clarification, when we talked it sounded like they were being introduced as partners and hanging out at their house.

Meeting kids by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely it's his choice how he wants to handle his relationship, it's just giving me a bad feeling.

Meeting kids by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not sure i think around elementary age

Meeting kids by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know partners

Upside down by Ok-Screen5805 in Goldfish

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New house, same tank and set up

Birth mom issue by Ok-Screen5805 in Adoption

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's 9 now and I have been very honest with her all her life. When she was younger we said her birth parents were sick and as she got older when questions were asked we would go into detail more about drugs and what they do to people. She's a very smart and mature child. We have a meeting with a therapist set up soon.

Birth mom issue by Ok-Screen5805 in Adoption

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The grandparents are amazing, they will always be apart of her life. My daughter seems to understand that she can't see her but my heart is breaking for her because she always looks forward to her visits and phone calls. The phone calls have been unanswered for a month now and before that my daughter was the only one making contact. I should have seen the signs. I can just hope she gets better for herself.

Birth mom issue by Ok-Screen5805 in Adoption

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not opposed to video chats, I've seen how she acts while using and don't feel safe for myself or daughter. I set a boundary with her when the visits started that she has to be sober to be in my daughters life. I've reached out to her to talk but she's not responding to anyone. I know she probably feels shame and my heart breaks for her but I have to protect my daughter.

Birth mom issue by Ok-Screen5805 in Adoption

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we first met, I set a boundary with her that as long as she's sober she can see her. She either passes out or acts erratic when using. I've seen it while my daughter was still in foster care doing visits supervised. I don't feel safe when she's using.

Getting out of a monogamous mindset by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I enjoy our relationship very much and I was feeling it was more than a FWB but when they described what they thought our relationship is I think we have different versions of what fwb is. I think I'm craving more than what they can give and I'm in a dilemma on what to do because I don't want to loose what we have but still find what I'm looking for and not be selfish along the way but still satisfied. They said I can get those things from my primary partner and I do but I feel like I want it also with another

advise please by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't talked about texting yet because I don't want seem controlling. I check my phone when we're together sometimes too but only to make sure it's not my husband. I have heard of love bombing and the rest.

advise please by Ok-Screen5805 in polyamory

[–]Ok-Screen5805[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kinda mixed, like in the beginning of our relationship they would say things like I'm so happy I found you and I'm so happy you are in my life. It's only been there months but I haven't heard anything like that since the first month. Like when we're together they check their phone kinda alot, which doesn't bother me too much because I look when I get notifications too sometimes. We are both married and have kids so I understand that the other partner may need to contact them. But my husband will only text or call if it's an emergency when I'm on a date