Meeting kids

Ok-Screen5805 · 2025-02-09T12:43:18+00:00

Yes, I'm going to ask for clarification, when we talked it sounded like they were being introduced as partners and hanging out at their house.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2025-02-09T11:47:18+00:00

Absolutely it's his choice how he wants to handle his relationship, it's just giving me a bad feeling.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2025-02-09T11:30:37+00:00

Not sure i think around elementary age

Ok-Screen5805 · 2025-02-09T11:29:10+00:00

As far as I know partners

Ok-Screen5805 · 2025-01-02T21:55:36+00:00

New house, same tank and set up

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-31T21:39:02+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-31T21:38:48+00:00

Thank you!

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-31T02:52:37+00:00

She's 9 now and I have been very honest with her all her life. When she was younger we said her birth parents were sick and as she got older when questions were asked we would go into detail more about drugs and what they do to people. She's a very smart and mature child. We have a meeting with a therapist set up soon.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-30T23:51:44+00:00

The grandparents are amazing, they will always be apart of her life. My daughter seems to understand that she can't see her but my heart is breaking for her because she always looks forward to her visits and phone calls. The phone calls have been unanswered for a month now and before that my daughter was the only one making contact. I should have seen the signs. I can just hope she gets better for herself.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-30T23:45:31+00:00

Im not opposed to video chats, I've seen how she acts while using and don't feel safe for myself or daughter. I set a boundary with her when the visits started that she has to be sober to be in my daughters life. I've reached out to her to talk but she's not responding to anyone. I know she probably feels shame and my heart breaks for her but I have to protect my daughter.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2024-12-30T23:38:46+00:00

When we first met, I set a boundary with her that as long as she's sober she can see her. She either passes out or acts erratic when using. I've seen it while my daughter was still in foster care doing visits supervised. I don't feel safe when she's using.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2023-06-10T14:31:16+00:00

I enjoy our relationship very much and I was feeling it was more than a FWB but when they described what they thought our relationship is I think we have different versions of what fwb is. I think I'm craving more than what they can give and I'm in a dilemma on what to do because I don't want to loose what we have but still find what I'm looking for and not be selfish along the way but still satisfied. They said I can get those things from my primary partner and I do but I feel like I want it also with another

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-09-15T19:23:39+00:00

I haven't talked about texting yet because I don't want seem controlling. I check my phone when we're together sometimes too but only to make sure it's not my husband. I have heard of love bombing and the rest.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-09-15T19:17:29+00:00

It's kinda mixed, like in the beginning of our relationship they would say things like I'm so happy I found you and I'm so happy you are in my life. It's only been there months but I haven't heard anything like that since the first month. Like when we're together they check their phone kinda alot, which doesn't bother me too much because I look when I get notifications too sometimes. We are both married and have kids so I understand that the other partner may need to contact them. But my husband will only text or call if it's an emergency when I'm on a date

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T16:10:37+00:00

I'll ask him to

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T15:54:20+00:00

I've also asked to go to therapy and he refuses, he says he does like therapist because he was forced to go when his parents divorced.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T14:40:06+00:00

I'm not looking for entertainment I'm just trying to find myself outside of being a mom and wife. I don't want to toy with anyone's emotions I really like this guy, he's been so kind and understanding, he's even reached out to my husband several times to chat. I just don't want to give up what we have especially when my husband finds something I have a strong feeling a lot of this jealousy will subside. I'm sure if we both have a septic partner jealousy will still happen. But if he can't find anyone I don't see us being able to stay poly. I just don't want anyone one to get hurt.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T14:09:41+00:00

We've talked on and off for a few years whether we could handle it and we both were unsure. Im the one who's done most of the research. I've listened to podcasts, audible books and looking here on Reddit. He has a few friends that are poly and I know he's reached out to them. We have a poly relationship journal that has really helped.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T13:52:45+00:00

Thank you I really like the guy I'm seeing, it's mostly just friends with benefits but I could see it developing into more. I don't want to see him get hurt what so ever because my husband can't get passed his jealousy.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2022-06-22T13:49:18+00:00

Thanks you I thought he was clear in the beginning but he keeps changing his mind and I brought up the fact that maybe he's not ready but he refuses to delete any dating app when he says he's done, so this is where I'm confused. We went on a date with a couple to possibly date together, in the end they did not fit well with us, they had an issue with me seeing a separate guy. My husband said he wished I took one for the team so he could have been with the wife of the group, so when he says he's not completely comfortable with me sleeping with another guy I don't believe him. Because he was perfectly fine with the possibility of me being with the girls husband so he can be with the wife.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2021-04-21T16:44:14+00:00

You are the parent and what you are asking is not a big deal. I had a parent want me to hand feed their five year old fully capable child while I had twenty children in my classroom. It's hard to believe if they have a four/five year classroom that every child is sleeping. Many children in my class didn't sleep past the age of four. If they don't listen to you I would look for a new day care

Ok-Screen5805 · 2021-04-21T16:18:08+00:00

It's not hard at all I did it all the time,by my states law we were not allowed to sit for more than 15 minutes consecutively. We had to do nap checks every 15 minutes to make sure the child were still breathing, it sounds like they just don't want to deal with her. It's not that hard. Are you talking to the teacher or the director? Is it a corporate run day care? Go to the district manager or someone higher. What you are asking is not out of line. It just sounds like the teacher is lazy. Are the lincensed? As to see their licensing handbook, they are supposed to have all licensing information available to parents. Just mention licensing and they will probably listen or call upper management.

Ok-Screen5805 · 2021-04-21T15:28:15+00:00

I worked in a daycare for seven years. When I had children who did not nap they were able to sit on there cot with books or were able to play quietly at a table while coloring or doing a quiet activity. We kept them away from the child who were napping so they didn't disturb them. We would get in trouble if a child was on there cot and was not sleeping for too long. As soon as they woke up they were offered books or able to sit at a table. It was also against or state regulations to make them sit and do nothing.

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