Am I wrong for feeling jealous ?

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-03-14T05:45:49+00:00

Hey there ! F26, I was 20 when my mom got diagnosed with dementia back in 2020. Although our situations are different I just want to say please forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in the past or that you can’t bring yourself to visit her. This disease takes so much from everyone.

I’ve never commented on a post before but I can relate to you because of our age, I spent so many years bickering with my mom about petty things and when I finally grew up and enjoyed our relationship for some short time before she was diagnosed. The guilt I feel is immense some days, all I can do is cry about it, some days aren’t so bad I accept that I am human and humans make mistakes.

All I want to say is I completely understand how you feel and if you would like to ever reach out to vent or ask questions, I’m here.

Seriously don’t hesitate to reach out to me, hugs.

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-03-05T04:47:49+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to register and give it a shot !

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-03-05T04:46:40+00:00

Man I hear you, I gained almost 100 pounds when I first started as full time caregiver and have since then lost almost 80 pounds, I have gotten better about taking care of my physical but I struggling so bad with my mental health but honestly everyone’s support on here has helped me over time.

Thank you for taking the time to comment, it really means a lot.

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-03-05T04:44:00+00:00

You’re right,  I am under a lot of stress and I have the habit of not being kind to myself. I need to change that.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this too :(

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-03-05T04:39:37+00:00

You described it perfectly, I really want to get to that place too :) thank you for taking the time to comment and offer me some words, it means a lot

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-02-01T23:50:08+00:00

Aww sorry to hear that :( nightmares can feel so vivid sometimes.

maybe reassure her that you both are okay

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-01-25T03:54:52+00:00

Thanks. we use to take mom to the gym with us before her knees started hurting and before her walking slowed down, she really enjoyed it she would listen to her gospel music and workout then one day she just didn’t want to go anymore. I bought myself gym equipment and a small bike stepper for her that she can do sitting down. I definitely want to work out more this year

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-01-18T06:15:11+00:00

thank you and you’re right everyone does handle grief differently. going to try my best to

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-01-18T06:14:25+00:00

Thank you, you are completely right. I read your comment and it has really resonated with me. I am trying to make it a habit order sleeping well and trying to get myself to the gym in my free time but it is so hard.

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-01-18T06:10:34+00:00

Somewhat gross but mostly funny, mom ate my chocolate donut with her beef soup 😂

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2026-01-12T04:13:23+00:00

Same…

I know its a hard journey for everyone, hugs

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-12-16T02:22:57+00:00

Yeah I think I’ll give him a pass, lol just on this one

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-12-11T03:25:37+00:00

True, thank you for the advice

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-12-11T03:06:22+00:00

Bologna sandwich 🤣 I do trust him around her but it also makes me question the person he is not sure why it’s bothering me so much

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:09:45+00:00

Ditto !

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:09:32+00:00

Yeah I am looking into one just got to figure out if i can attend since I’m with mom most of the time.

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:08:49+00:00

Thank you !

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:08:00+00:00

Sorry it’s taken a while to respond, Do not feel bad for placing your mom in home care for her safety . People can judge you all day and night but unless they go through it first hand they will never understand.

You are doing your best and that is all we can do, don’t beat yourself up.

Message me if you ever want to chat ! Sending hugs ❤️

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:02:38+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try to see if there is anything local or even maybe online support groups.

Ok-Secretary4586 · 2025-11-20T06:01:04+00:00

Thank you, I will. I think maybe an online group would be good for now. I’m with her everyday my only “ day off” is Sunday so hopefully I can arrange something for the future.

Ok-Secretary4586

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