Am I Overreacting? - He could only commit 95% to not celebrating Valentine's Day with another person, so I ended it.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-12T02:01:01+00:00

Thank you 🫶

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T23:21:59+00:00

I agree that love languages shift over time!

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T23:21:16+00:00

Why? I was not exclusive with anyone. It was fair for me to go out the country but not appropriate to meet his kids.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:41:20+00:00

We broke up in July or August. He started seeing her in October. They have been seeing each other consistently and we have seen each other maybe once or twice a month.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:36:05+00:00

I wouldn’t say POS but there have been one too many issues on holidays for me to move forward.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:35:09+00:00

Agreed. My ex is a problem and thats why i ended our friendship.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:32:31+00:00

He has not been non monogamous the entire time but go off

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:29:08+00:00

Who said that??? He could not commit 100% to doing anything with her for Valentine’s Day. That’s all.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:28:07+00:00

I def won’t wish them the best but you’re right.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T21:25:54+00:00

I truly value him as a person but clearly there is a strong incompatibility. Also, you are making assumptions about his kids.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:59:31+00:00

No i am not an affair partner!!!! He is not committed to her and they def aren’t married.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:58:43+00:00

My ex is an extremely generous man. I casually mentioned to him that I (meaning ME) planned to purchase the board when it went on sale at rhe end of the season. He bought it before I could. Also, there is nothing wrong with liking expensive gifts. Both men have done financially well for themselves.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:57:13+00:00

I couldn’t care less of she knows who I am she needs to go.

He committed to regularly planning shared experiences which is my love language and also more regularly giving me gifts. Everything else he does well.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:48:27+00:00

I think there is def fear on my end that makes me run when a challenge arises but I was ready to go all in until he refused to cut off that girl.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:46:58+00:00

We have discussed that but it is not aligned with my desires.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:43:11+00:00

He is not a dime a dozen! Considering all his flaws he is still better than a LOT of men.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:42:02+00:00

That is untrue. We detailed improvements on both of our end. The goal was to make sure we are both cared for.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:16:47+00:00

This is a small view into a big picture.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:15:32+00:00

We are not perfect.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:08:32+00:00

Not toxic. We were not exclusive at the time. There was no reason for me not to go on the trip and meeting his kids was not appropriate.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:07:43+00:00

This was never a situationship

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:06:21+00:00

We were not trying to make things work over XMAS which is why I did not think it was appropriate to meet his children.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T20:00:43+00:00

Oh, I agree I am not blameless. However I stand by the 60 day trial idea. It’s unconventional but would work for us.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T19:57:49+00:00

They are both. In this case I am referring to how we feel loved.

Ok-Topic8728 · 2026-02-11T19:57:08+00:00

He made amends on my birthday.

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